To find out or not to find out. 20 week scan.

[JustDanni]

So as the title suggest, I am torn!
Our scan is the 24th of this month (19 weeks and 4) and we just can't decide if we want to find out babys sex.
Of course a surprise would be amazing but I'm the kind of person who needs to know EVERYTHING!

Did you find out?
How did you decide if you should keep it a surprise or not?

My dp saw that we were having a boy (although he said he wasnt 100%) i didnt notice at all lol
My friends dp noticed they were having a girl but she didnt notice.
I was in awe at how clear the scan was and that i was looking at my baby to notice the sex
I do love that we know and have beem able to buy for a boy etc name is chosen and i just cant wait to have thw first cuddle

My 20 week scan is next week and I can't decide if I would like to find out the sex. When I had my daughter almost 16 years ago, finding out wasn't an option!
My husband says he doesn't want to know...but I think he'll crack on the day!

We found out really wanted to know and it's still really exciting finding out at the scan and then having all the time looking at baby clothes and of course the nursery to prepare. It doesn't loose any excitement at the birth you don't know what baby looks like when it's going to be born, name, weight etc so lots to find out still.

I was in absolute shock at being told this one is a girl (I'm 27 weeks) that it took me a full week to take it in. I needed the warning! It hasn't made any difference to nursery/clothes as I hate pink and all that stuff anyway, but I am struggling with names so at least it's allowed me to focus on just girls' names rather than boys'.

It's also given me the chance to say 'no pink' to grandparents now...

We didn't find out the sex with either dc and with our 2nd dc we asked the midwife delivering our baby not to tell us so my dp was the first to know and he told me.

It was such a lovely surprise and my dp loved being the first person to know and telling me. (Although I did double check!)

Also once the baby is here ringing family and friends with news of boy or girl and their name is very exciting for them too.

I think if we were to find out we would still keep it between us. It would be nice to tell everyone the baby's gender and name once he/she is here.
Definitely given me some things to considder.

I agree with Mummy2be - if you're not sure get the sonographer to write it down. It takes the pressure off and you don't end up 'regretting' not finding out!

Our scrap of paper is still hidden away somewhere and we've resisted temptation...

We found out with DS. I was so undecided but DP wanted to know, I planned on deciding when we got in to the room and as the sonographer turned on the screen and had just asked if we wanted to know I looked and realised we were having a boy! So if you decide not to find out I would suggest making that clear and maybe don't look straight at the screen just in case!

Currently 14 weeks with DC2 and can't decide whether to find out or not!!!! I think we probably will find out when it comes to the scan but will be keeping it just between us this time round! Xxx

I'm in the same boat. Before getting pregnant I was determined that I wouldn't find out, but now I'm feeling quite torn. Scan is in 3 weeks and it's looking more likely we'll find out - I just really want to know. I don't think it will take away any of the magic, but it will mean we only have to think of 1 name. Huge bonus as we're currently struggling with any.
I quits fancy not telling anyone though and just pretending that we didn't find out!

We don't know- baby gets referred to as he or she as and when we feel like it- s/he doesn't seem to mind :) I haven't found it difficult not knowing- in my mind I just have ds1 and dd1 and I chop and change between them.
On the plus side, because neutral clothes are limited, this has actually helped me to not go shopping crazy! Also the things I have got will also work for any future DCs whatever they are.
Prams, nurseries etc are easy to be neutral so not been a problem for us. Saying that it's personal choice- although bizarrely people seem very pleased that we don't know. Like it makes any difference to them?!

About to have our first next week by ELCS and we do not know the sex. We have enough plain white babygros to get us through a couple of weeks and then we'll buy more clothes, no biggy. Bump has had a unisex nickname throughout and I love the mystery of it all. No problems bonding with our baby whatsoever!

I'm especially glad to have the element of surprise given I have to have a c section because the baby is breech - at least it gives us something on the day that is a big surprise as we had been hoping to deliver all naturally but baby had other ideas.

We found out, we both wanted to. We have still only bought gender neutral clothes on the whole, but it is nice to be able to think of her as a little girl rather than an it, and I am sure that the birth of my pfb will not be an anticlimax despite knowing the sex in advance!

For me it's easy. I'm not finding out. Neither me or DH want to know. We didn't with our 6 year old either. I'm having an elective c section so we know the date baby will be born so it's something that can surprise us not knowing babies gender x

MrsM - I had the same reaction from people when I said I didn't know. People love it. They like to speculate on whether you will have a boy or girl and I personally find that there is more excitement waiting for that birth announcement when you find out if they have had a boy or girl.

There's absolutely no way if I had it written down in my house that I wouldn't sneek a peek at it!!