Borderline personality disorder and pregnancy

[QueenFaerie86]

I got a BFP on Friday which makes me 4.3 weeks. I am over the moon excited as I was told that after my first dc (10years ago) that I would have trouble naturally conceiving.
I am now in panic mode as I have bpd and my dh gets thrown out atleast once every couple of months for around 2 weeks at a time. We constantly clash and days before I got the positive result I was thinking about leaving him as I am sick of the arguing, he sets my bpd reactions off more then anyone I have ever known as he has strong narcissistic traits.
I'm not entirely sure how I am going to stop myself going bat shit crazy with added hormones and stress!
I want this baby very very much, but I'm not sure I want my dh :( ....then I wonder if that's my hormones talking? I never know my own mind because when it comes to
Dh it's a constant roller coaster...up and down! More down....

what real life support do you have? I feel this is one for the real life support of the perinatal mental health team perhaps? you can get a referal through your gp or midwife, or cmht if thats where your support lies?

I would hope (and I kow its not always possible) you have some sort of mh support in place?

I have BPD, and I've never once thrown my DP out- pregnant or not.

Perhaps you just don't like him?

Have you spoken to your psychologicst about it? Are you currently in therapy? I have both bipolar and bpd and would never want to be without dh. You should be getting support somewhere from a mental health professional during your pregnancy so speak to your gp.

Perhaps your relationship just doesn't work