Wish we hadn't told them the name..

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After 20 week scan we told our 6 year old DS that he is having a little sister and we chose a name together, I know some people say it's too early but it helps to give our baby an identity and name, it has certainly made it more 'real' for our DS. Anyway we agreed we would just keep the name between us and told all our parents it's a girl but we would share her name when she is born.
Over at in laws yesterday and they outright asked DS "what's the baby's name then" (even though we had asked them not to do this) and DS just told them. They were like "oh right, hmm" and apparently don't like it. Just disappointed they have just made us feel like the name is crap now.
I think it's partly because DD names come from my Grandparents side. (DS names come from DH side so we thought only fair DD names from my side, will mean a lot to my grandparents and parents).
For what it's worth they are nice, 'normal' names and not too old fashioned or daft or anything.
I wish the in laws had just kept their mouths shut and not made us feel bad about it

That was very unfair of your ILs to ask your DS.

I agree with everyone else, the name choice is yours and OH's and as long as you love the names, nobody else matters. I think it's lovely that you chose meaningful names too.

I think there's something almost uncontrollable that happens when someone tells you a name they're considering, which makes people blurt out "oh I knew a X and they were horrible" or "my cousin had a dog called that" etc. and knowing this I've not even told my close family names we are considering. I just tell them to practice their "that's a lovely name!" face for when the day comes. People spend so long agonising over the best names for their DC, the least people can do is respect that.

Plus how boring would it be if we all liked the same names!

oh i would have flipped about the facebook announcement always! why do people think they can broadcast your private life on their page! surely if you have no status on your page about being pregnant or the sex of your baby or the birth of your babt then they would have the cop-on to say nothing!!!!!!

When our DS2 was born, we couldn't decide between 2 names. Every time someone asked what he was called we'd tell them we couldn't decide between the 2 names. EVERYONE had an opinion. But rather than diplomatically saying "oh they're both nice", EVERYONE would instantly say "I don't like that name, but I do like the other name". Some people preferred one, some people preferred the other. DS2 was nameless for almost a month because it felt like whichever name we chose, either his grandaparents or his godparents (our closest friends) would hate his name. In the end we went for a completely different name, but I'll ALWAYS regret not just picking the name that we really wanted and ignoring the thoughts and opinions of others.

Glad you have decided to ignore, but just wanted to say my mum hated the name we had picked out for our daughter. My parents bombarded me with alternative names for two months at the end of my pregnancy, so I understand what you mean about taking the shine off of things.

If it's any comfort, they now love her name as they can see how other people have responded to it. So don't worry, if they don't like it now, there's a good chance they will a bit later down the line.

And if not, just remember, opinions are like arseholes - everyone's got one, and they should be kept to yourself.

Thanks everyone and Rizzo your last comment made me laugh!!