Can I ask a pregnancy aibu?!

[omri]

Just wondering others thoughts on this... I have 2yo ds and am 34 weeks pregnant. I'm starting to think about hospital plans. My parents live 45 min drive away - my sister about the same. Nobody that much closer who I could rely on to call and ask to come over as soon as it starts happening. Last time I waited at home for few hours before heading into hospital at midnight.

So my mum and sister have both (independently) said why don't we meet half way at the hospital and we'll pick ds up from you. My gut reaction to this was NO!!! I don't want to bring ds in the car with me when I'm going into labour (dp will be driving). it just seems such a bad idea to me. Last time for example I was howling in pain in the car on the way in- don't want ds to see that and then be taken away. I think that would be upsetting for him. It could happen at 3am- don't want to wake ds in the middle of the night to put him in car. Don't want dp waiting around in hospital car park waiting to meet my mum/sis and transfer ds car seat etc and me on my own registering into hospital etc.

I think it's reasonable to ask them just to come straight over to my place when I call and stay at ours with ds. Even if it's middle of the night.

I haven't said this to them yet though as I wanted to consider whether I was being spoilt or unreasonable... What do you ladies think?

I don't think you are at all BU, I wouldn't fancy that scenario either and 45 mins is not really a long drive especially if it is at night!

Thanks - the more I think about it the more I feel it's ok to say no - please just come to my house at the time and me and dp will head in ourselves. Let's hope they see it my way (or keep their mouths shut!)

I don't think you are BU at all. It would be a lot less upheaval for your DS if he was looked after in his own home rather than taken from bed in the middle of the night to be bundled in to the car and I can understand why you wouldn't want him in the car with you while you are in labour. I'm sure they are just trying to be helpful but Politely explain this to your DM and DS (your DM seems to have conveniently forgotten what it's like having a baby!)

I think your plan is by far superior.
Just remember to call them earlier than you think - we ended up with a suprise home birth, but a 2.5 hr journey for my Mum.

YANBU!

45 minutes is hardly a long drive. I'm not really seeing their problem!

Although looking at it another way,maybe they thought they were doing you a favour?

Perhaps they assumed you'd want to be away to the hospital ASAP and by meeting you halfway you could get there quicker?

Last one - maybe that's why they suggested it alright. I'm sure it's well intentioned. But will explain my pov and hope they just say whatever you want darling!!!!

Thanks for all the replies by the way. Glad to see I'm not BU! Was afraid pregnancy hormones were clouding my judgment on this one...

Do you have neighbours? If it does all start happening quickly, it's good to have somebody on standby who will sit with DC1 until your family get there to take over.

I do - was thinking of asking them to be on standby in case we need to make v quick dash to hospital - just to wait there while family drives over...