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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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No idea how pregnant I am.

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lyns31 · 03/02/2014 08:56

I'm so frustrated. I have PCOS and didn't have periods for months before conceiving so I have nothing to base a due date on. When I registered with the midwives the guess and that was all it was was 6 weeks which would make me 8 weeks now and means I have to wait 4 for a dating scan. Some of my symptoms seem a bit later on but I really can't tell and I'm getting all those worries about it not being confirmed so it not being real particularly since I've had no morning sickness.

Think I should just stop worrying and wait for the scan but I'm obsessing and want to be able to follow the development stages and talk about it properly. This is my first pregnancy, one I never thought would happen.

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Beanymonster · 03/02/2014 08:59

It might be worth reading a book about what you would be able to feel at each stage and try and work it out from there? Also, are you showing?
Do you feel sick?
Did you ever feel sick?
Has it passed?
Are you always tired?
Were you always tired?
Has it passed?

3bunnies · 03/02/2014 09:04

You could find out about a private scan to set your mind at ease. Congratulations!

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lyns31 · 03/02/2014 09:06

Tiredness has passed as has the heartburn I was suffering with. The munchies has calmed down too. Starting to feel like myself again a bit more which makes me think I'm closer to 12 weeks. Worst thing is I might be due right on the date of an exam I'm due to take. Just wish I could start planning and organising though it's still early days.

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Sharaluck · 03/02/2014 09:07

I would get a private scan asap. How frustrating for you, but congratulations :)

Beanymonster · 03/02/2014 09:08

It sounds like your 12w+, but the mws might not listen to you.. They haven't with me! I know my due date because we only had unprotected sex once but they are claiming I'm due 2 weeks later :/

Rootvegetables · 03/02/2014 09:09

I was in this situation but they sent me for a dating scan as I had no idea, as it was my second though I was a bit less stressed about it and made sure I was doing all the right things like taking vitamins etc. but I do understand your anxiety so maybe speak to them again to see if a dating scan can be done or maybe try and get a private one. Congratulations !

dobedobedo · 03/02/2014 09:13

This happened me as well - I booked a private scan thinking I was about 12-14 weeks but I was only 7 weeks.

Someone told me at the time to tell the midwives my last period was 3 months ago - that way they scan you ASAP.

Mummytobe2014 · 03/02/2014 09:20

I fell pregnant unexpectedly and hadnt had a proper period as just come off the pill, because i couldnt tell them when my period last was they sent me to dating scan. I was about 8 weeks at that point with no symptoms other than feeling bit sicky when hungry.
Can you ask for a dating scan rather than wait??

firsttimekat · 03/02/2014 09:21

I was in a similar situation but they sent me for a dating scan which was really reassuring to know exactly where I was. Like others have said could you go for a private scan so you know where you are?

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lyns31 · 03/02/2014 09:21

I told them my last period was so long ago I wasn't sure when it happened. Think I might try and push it with the doctor as i'd rather save my pennies for a nice scan when baby's more than just a jelly bean :)

Registered with the midwives a couple of weeks ago and am yet to hear from them. Never realised early pregnancy care was so uneventful. Guess it's just a natural and common occurrence to the NHS.

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ThistleLickerIsGoingToBeAMummy · 03/02/2014 09:24

Can u attend your early pregnancy unit at your hospital and explain to then?

ThistleLickerIsGoingToBeAMummy · 03/02/2014 09:24

Congratulations

mel0dy · 03/02/2014 10:48

Love the way people on here assume everyone here can afford a private scan! I'm similarly clueless as to how far along I am but have found the pregnancy calendar on here useful to assess my symptoms. Thankfully and finally got scan tomorrow, looking forward to getting more of a clue!

dobedobedo · 03/02/2014 11:12

I wasn't assuming everyone can afford a private scan! But it's one option when the nhs won't give you a scan when you want one.

mel0dy · 03/02/2014 11:50

Sorry dobedobedo your post didn't come across like that, you were just describing what you did. Don't mean to upset anyone else either, just pointing out not an option for all.

bakingtins · 03/02/2014 12:58

Push for a dating scan as many of the screening tests for Downs etc need to be done at a certain number of weeks. If you are much further on by the time they think you should have your 12 week scan you will have missed the opportunity to have the tests done.

McBaby · 03/02/2014 13:24

I just kept chasing dr and midwives till someone scanned me. I hadn't had a period for 18 months so no clue how far along I was.

BuntCadger · 03/02/2014 13:27

imhad to push for dating scan with dc3 same reasons. did they do physical exam? If further along they should feel uterus rising above pelvis xx

Armadale · 03/02/2014 13:35

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I'd ring your EPU and ask them, at mine they do a scan to check when the actual dating scan should be done, if that makes sense. It has a medical benefit to them to know.

(12 week one needs to be between certain dates in order to do the test properly- after this point babies start to grow at different rates, it is fairly consistent up till then, so if they miss the window then the due date is always a bit hit and miss after this, so they want to know when they should be scanning).

I conceived this time without having a period after my last miscarriage, so there was a window of about 6 weeks rather than the usual 4, and they still wanted a scan to check...I also had a reassurance scan at 11 weeks, so I presumed they would use this as the dating scan, but no, they still wanted to do a 12 week one for dating purposes (I declined downs screening, so no need for one except to date) as that small window gives them the best due date to work on.

Also, as baking tins says, if you do want downs screening you can't miss these dates as the cut off is 13 weeks 6 days.

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lyns31 · 03/02/2014 15:34

Tha

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lyns31 · 03/02/2014 15:36

Thanks for your replies all. I heard from the midwife today, seeing her Wednesday. I might not wait though. Might chase it at the doc's. I don't want to miss screenings.

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Dazedconfused · 03/02/2014 17:39

I am in a similar position had a couple of months of what I thought was weird periods - 10 days in December and then spotting for 14 days in early January - took a test at the start of the second long (but not actual) period and thought it was BFN (was a strip test and thinking back I think I was expecting stronger lines).

I ended up doing a test about 10 days ago and it was extremely clear BFP and then did the CB one that said was 3wks+ but because of my weird periods I now don't really know when my last one was. MW guessed about 5 weeks(so would now be 6), but I am very nauseous, can't eat a thing and totally shattered so I think it might be a couple of weeks further on (not more than that though so just going to wait for the 12wk scan and see).

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