single parent

[sofpp83]

Hi guys, I just wanted some advice..... I'm 27 weeks pregnant and single. I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks and the father and I decided to have a termination. I, however, couldn't go through with it. Since I told him I was keeping my child we had a brief exchange and I was told how 'out of order' I am etc and I have heard nothing from him since. I have tried contacting him a couple of times and he ignores me. This caused me a great deal of stress for a good few months but now I have moved forward and accepted I am doing it alone. I guess I really want to know if anyone else has been in this situation and if so did the father come round eventually? There is a part of me that wants him in my daughter's life more than anything, though I am prepared for him not to be. Do these guys ever face up to their responsibilities in the end? I accept he is scared, but so am I. He is 37 with two children from a previous relationship. I'm 30 and this will be my first child. Any replies would be greatly received! :)

Hi OP, just from reading your post it's clear that you will manage just fine with your daughter. I split from DS dad when he was 18m old and although went through tough times we have an amazing bond. Good luck xx

Thank you :) x

I was pregnant and single at 19 he was 22. While I was pregnant he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby and repeatedly told me to have an abortion. Once she was born he showed some interest but it was sporadic. Once she got to school age he started spending lots more time with her and then started having her every other weekend. Now she's 16 and although he drives me mad they have a good relationship.
The point I'm trying to make is don't stress about it now if you can stay calm and avoid arguing with him then hopefully he'll come round and have a good relationship with your baby eventually.
I would just keep updating him on baby's progress via text/email and let him make htje next move.

13 years ago I was 19 and pregnant in a long term relationship, he moved out and questioned everything. He eventually moved back when baby was born but left again at 10 months old. Contact was every other weekend reluctantly but now my son is 12 his dad has him whislt I work away on 48 hour shifts every 4 days they have an amazing relationship and we get on great. Time will make the world of difference xx hang in there.... By the way being a single parent means you can parent your way and not have someone question you, the bond you have as a single parent is a very special one :) just a few positives to get you through xx good luck x

I'm in the same situation, the father has told me to 'get rid' and I haven't heard from him. I'm terrified about doing it on my own and how I'm going to afford everything etc. But I have great friends around me who have been supporting me from the beginning.

I'm in a similar situation, although I'm pregnant with my second child, the father and I have only been together for a couple of months. He wants me to terminate the pregnancy but I can't imagine doing so.

I am a single mum and I can tell you there are parts of it that are brilliant. My exh left us when my DD was 18 months and we have the most wonderful bond and connection. Its not always easy (sleep!) but its definitely worth it.

xoxo