Dilemma over wedding invite

[mistymoon7]

Hi everyone, I've been invited to a friends wedding in May and I would love to go as she is a good friend, the only problem is it's five days before my due date! I don't really know whether to accept the invitation or not as this is my first pregnancy so I have absolutely no idea what to expect. Am I likely to be able to get around when I'm that heavily pregnant? The venue is about an hours travelling time away via public transport.

I would go... Just make sure your friend knows you are due around that time.

Just explain. Tell her the plan is you're going but that sometimes babies have other ideas. You would have to be an utter knob not to understand.

I'm going to one a couple of weeks before my due date - but only because it's a really informal wedding. If I were aware that it was a large or expensive party I'd probably gracefully duck out rather than risk my friend having to pay for two empty seats.

My best mate gets married the week before I am due to give birth. Its quite some way from the nearest hospital too. I've accepted the invite though. I have asked her to let me know what she is having for the wedding breakfast incase there is something I can't eat and have have told her I might not be on form. Going to pack my hospital bag to sling in the boot of the car, just incase.

Accept the invite, but put a big caveat on it, that you may have lastminute issues.

I got married last sept and there were loads of people in the same situation (5 couples in total)- all 5 of them accepted in advance, 3 came, 2 had to cancel the week of the wedding- 1 as she just felt too awful, 1 as she'd gone into labour early due to pre eclampsia. We fully and unreservedly understood and it was no issue at all.

So accept, but send her a note explaining the caveat, she'll understand.

i think you'll be fine, and i thin kit's good to be out and about rather than bedbound/thumb twiddling, keep on with your normal life as much as you can!

I would go if I were you its something nice to look forward to when you might be getting a bit fed up waiting for baby! Any friend would understand if you were not up to it last minute. One of my best friends came to my wedding with a 2 week old baby but I would totally have understood if she didn't feel like she could make it or had to leave early. You never know a bit of enthusiastic dancing at the disco could start things off for you ha ha

I'm currently 35 weeks with my first. You may well be different but I wouldn't go to a wedding tomorrow, never mind in 4/5 weeks time. Can you talk to her and ask her when the absolute last date you have to say by is? When we got married our caterer was happy to fiddle quantities up to a couple of weeks before!!

Yes, I would accept, you'll probably be glad of the distraction by then! But, I would make sure she knows you may need to cancel last minute. If she's a good friend, I'm sure she'll understand.

I would have gone with both DC. In fact with dc1 I travelled an hour on public transport to sit an exam the day before her due date (she eventually came a fortnight later...). Just make sure the bride is aware & play it by ear.

I was invited to a wedding that was 5 days before my EDD - and it's one where my DH is the Best Man. I declined but obviously my DH is going. They are getting married at a local church and then the Meal and Reception Venue is about an hours drive away. I just explained that I didn't want to be so far away from my hospital so close to my labour. Also, for all I knew I could go into labour early and obviously wouldn't be able to go with a new born.

I have told them that if I feel up to it on the day I will attend the local church wedding so at least I'll still be able to see them get married even if I can't join in with the after celebrations. Pretty gutted about missing my DH make a Best Man speech though

An hour away I would go. I went to one a couple of hours away two weeks before my due date with Dc1. As long as they are understanding about last minute cancellations.