Getting married & pregnant.help!

[smileyjess]

Hello. I need some help. This is my first pregnancy and i am due to get married in may at 5-6months pregnant. I have the option of changing the date till march meaning im 3-4 months pregnant.
Despite researching i have no idea which is the best to go for in order to be able to have the most fun on my wedding day. When are people most tired during pregnancy?will a bump be obvious at the later date (im currently a size 10-12)?
Please help.
:-) Jess

Totally up to you.

You'll probably find things easier at 3-4 months, but not necessarily.

Do you have the option of changing the date to after the baby is born?

Oh, and tiredness is totally changeable for everyone.

And yes, you will have a bump at 6mo.

I was 16 weeks pregnant when I got married and my boobs were bigger, and I hadn't been able to do the pre-wedding diet I had planned to go from a 12-14 down to a 10-12. Fortunately my dress had a lace-up back, and with a bit of adjustment still fitted. Bump appeared noticeably over the following 3 weeks or so.
The other thing to consider is that you may feel very washed out/sick/tired as the first trimester progresses - if you want to enjoy the party you may find later is better :-) depends whether you want the pregnancy to be secret, and whether you mind having a bump in the pictures!
Congratulations BTW on both counts. I believe in Japan these are called "double happiness weddings" ;-)

Unlikely you would be able to hide a 5.5m bump. I found any time in the second tri was ok from an energy perspective, it got tougher in the third tri. But its very different from person to person

It's v personal but I think I would go for the latter and flaunt my bump. Rather than 3 months and just look a bit big. You're more likely to feel relaxed, less sick and glowing in the second trimester too!

I was 18 weeks pregnant. No noticeable bump then - that showed up around 19/20 weeks. Boobs also bigger, but my dress was made for me by a family friend 2 weeks before the date, so measurements were quite precise to how I was on the day!

I don't think there was any difference in how tired I felt at that point and at 6 months, but I didn't stop with morning sickness until 16 weeks, so I was a bit worried about that leading up to the day!

I am glad we got married then rather than later - baby bump in photos would have bothered me, but that's just me about me!d

How far along are you now? I was still sick as a dog until 16wks and felt my best around 23wks, before going downhill again at 27wks! I'd go for later date and plan for a bump allowing dress. Congratulations on both counts :)

How far along are you now? Just thinking that if it's early hyperemesis won't have had a chance to kick in, so you won't know if you've avoided it yet. If you end up with HG I would say definitely go for the 5/6 months as it might have eased, whereas it is likely to still be very bad at 3/4 months. If you're 9 weeks + though you might have escaped HG, it is rare apparently, but as a sufferer I can tell you that's the last thing I'd want on my wedding day!

I'm normally a size 10 and 5'9, but even with my first pregnancy I was showing noticably by 10 weeks, and it was bump not bloat, consultant confirmed. That being said, even if it's bloat it will affect the fit of your wedding dress. As others have said, my boobs were much, much bigger, and by 14 weeks they'd gone up three cup sizes. I think I might have been a bit unusual in that respect, SIL didn't show at all until she was about 25 weeks.

I got married when I was 14 weeks pregnant, and the biggest tip I would give, as others have said is to have a lace up dress. Also, don't pick a heavy dress as I was in agony by the end of the day as it couldn't be done up tight enough for it to sit properly as I couldn't stand pressure on my tummy, so it kept slipping down, and was generally uncomfortable.

Personally I would have gone for 5/6 months in hindsight, my bump at 14 weeks wasn't pronounced enough under my wedding dress to look much like a bump, so I just looked like I'd been hitting the pies big time, and it makes our wedding photos look a bit weird

Sorry, hit return by accident before I had a chance to say congratulations!!!

I was 5 and a half months pregnant and felt great - the second trimester was when I felt really good and my bump wasn't too big. I picked an empire-line sort of dress because I knew traditional styles wouldn't really work with a bump. Not drinking wasn't a problem - actually if I hadn't been pregnant I would probably have drunk too much and not enjoyed it. I would say stick with your original dates. Congratulations and have a wonderful time!

Personally I would go for 5-6 months pregnant. Yes, the bump is likely to be a good deal more noticeable at 6 months, but it could be at 3-4 too, you just don't know.

However, in terms of enjoyment, you are likely to feel your most well and energetic in the second trimester, so I'd go for that date.

Also in terms of voting for the later date, and at a very, very shallow level, around 3-4 months I just looked a bit tubby and bloated in the face each time rather than pregnant. And I know which I would rather look in wedding photos!

I'd rather get married at 5-6 months pregnant.

Between weeks 10-17 I was either sleeping or throwing up; I was really unwell. I spent my time in a heap on the bathroom floor crying because I couldn't stop being sick. I barely had the energy to get out of bed let alone get married

When I hit weeks 18-19 onwards I blossomed and felt so well and happy

Obviously everyone is different, but I'd rather have had a happy, healthy, bumpy pregnancy at 5-6 months as opposed to the alternative

We were going to go for the 5/6 month time but now we decided to wait until after the baby is born, just feel like we can enjoy it more and spend more time focussed on getting ready for the baby. It's different for everyone I guess though

I got married when I was 33 weeks pregnant. I suffered from fatigue and exhaustion and rarely drank any alcohol before the pregnancy so for me there was not a huge difference in my life (except the bump!!). I would have found it more of a struggle organising the wedding AFTER the birth of my eldest DC, tbh...it was much easier getting on with it all before the birth.

I got wedding photos taken by a relative who kindly volunteered so it didn't cost us anything. I do look very pregnant, but for me, it's a wonderful memory of a time in my life when much was going on! Not to be forgotten!

I got an empire line dress, which complemented the bump and was very comfortable on the day to wear.

When greeting guests at the reception, it certainly was a talking point because many did not even know that I was pregnant... Really nice to shock people like that on your wedding day, and not get hassled with 'will you be trying for your baby soon' type questions!

P.s. Congratulations whatever you decide to do! :)

29 weeks pregnant and didn't even need a maternity dress, just wore a regular empire line (carried small). Was knackered in hindsight and didn't walk too far in the 6" heels I bought ;)

I had horrible all-day morning sickness from 8-16 weeks, but on my wedding day at 12 weeks I wasn't sick once. Adrenaline I suppose. I had bought my dress before finding out I was pregnant and it just fit, but a couple of weeks later I just looked fatter not pregnant. By 6 months I definitely had a defined bump.

I had a dress bought online from Mama Bridal. Very comfy maternity wedding dress. Took the worry out of whether it would fit. This was Dec 2009.

Go for the latter! I got married nearly a year ago and I was 33+4! Obviously had a big bump by then but it didn't bother me. I lasted til midnight and we were the last people there so don't think I did too bad! I got married midday so it wasn't too long a day and plenty of chances for me to rest

Good luck and congrats!

This thread has been interesting because at the time when I was looking for advice (nearly seven years ago now!) no one else was in that position of getting married and heavily pregnant. I seemed to be the only one! Nice to see that others have also went down a similar route.

I wouldn't have been in a fit state to get married after I had my first DC because I was so sleep deprived and exhausted (more than usual) so it would have been a disaster to marry after the baby was born. Despite several view points about our choices, I've no regrets about how it all worked out in the end. I wouldn't have done it any other way.

I'd go for later as well. I got married in October at 7 months, and had a big bump. It was much better for me not trying to hide it from anyone, and I felt a bit more okay about having a (single!) glass of champagne with my dinner that late on as well. I wasn't as tired as I had been earlier in the pregnancy, and was fine in lowish heels. I didn't wear a traditional wedding dress as it was Halloween (so I wore black :) ), but there are some lovely maternity wedding gowns out there. 3 months might be in the middle of feeling sick if you are unlucky. I love it that my bump is in the pictures :) And congratulations!

I got married at 26 weeks, which I loved... Had much more energy than earlier (or later) in the pregnancy. And felt DS kicking away during the ceremony, which was lovely.