i am being a bit ridiculous!

[thebestnameshavegone]

I know I am being totally daft about this and I would be grateful if someone could talk some sense to me please!!

I am 13+4 and have just come back from my midwife appointment. everything is totally fine, I heard the baby's heartbeat, I have the iron levels of a bloke(!) i'm low risk for everything.

and yet I now don't want to announce the pregnancy because I think i'm going to jinx it. it sounds so stupid. my dh is really excited to tell people but I;ve got it into my head that as soon as I say something and make it "real" then something will go wrong. its like the pregnancy equivalent of not standing on the cracks on the pavement!!!

can someone give me a kick up the bum please xx

I was the same! And then I didn't want to buy stuff in case I 'jinxed it'! I think it's a relatively 'normal' anxiety :-)
It's lovely when you tell everyone though!

I do understand this, really, but the only way to deal with it is to announce and understand that if anything bad then happens, it will be entirely unrelated to the announcing.

Just do it, then it's done and you can move on to the next daft thing

We decided to tell people early, we started at 8 weeks, which I know some people would say is crazy. But we only told people that we would be happy to lean on/happy to support us if something did happen to the baby. I think for a lot of couples it's about not wanting to have to correct people who think you're having a baby, if it ends up you're not. But everyone we told (before about 20 weeks) we would have told about a miscarriage. So, that worked for us.

You don't have to announce it if you don't want to - do whatever you feel comfortable with.

I found out quite late in my pregnancy, I was 13 weeks before I knew and I told some close friends but asked them to not tell anyone else, even though I was "technically" past the "safe" point. I didn't really "announce" (presume you mean on social media) it at all - the news filtered out after I'd told the people I wanted to know face to face at around 20 weeks. (by which time I was showing anyway)

I felt like this too, but actually telling people was hugely reassuring because they all immediately focus on the positive stuff and are excited, which helped me to feel positive and excited too.

Why not start by telling one or two people you are close to as a way of easing into the announcement? Might make the jinxed feeling go away!

The way I see it, even if you jinx it, which you absolutely WONT, the support you'd get from the people you tell would be invaluable!
You've passed all of the worst stuff. had a scan, you've had all of the tests, the chances of anything going wrong now arw incredibly slim. Go and have some fun telling people.

Honestly, telling people is one of the lovely parts of pregnancy and it will not affect a thing.

It sounds like your body is doing a great job so far - Have trust in your body and faith in yourself to keep positive.

Plus... It won't be too long and your little tummy will be doing the telling for you!