GreatJoanUmber - You are a star. You have made me feel so much better. I was really starting to get quite upset, but you are right, it is my body and I should have the right to decide.
As in your case, I truly believe the only reason I had to have an EMCS with my dd was because they got my dates wrong by a week, and then tried to induce me when I wasn't ready.
I've always thought that I should have stood up more for myself at the time, but it's so difficult when they are getting in a panic about you being so over.
She was eventually born at 42+5 based on their dates, but on my dates, I'm sure she was only 41+5, at which point they wouldn't have even started the induction process yet if they had listened to me.
You have truly given me the confidence to stand up for myself. That was the conclusion I was starting to come to, but to know that others have been there and made the same decision gives me so much more confidence that I will be doing the right thing.
I will of course be happy to go with what they suggest if it is based on true medical reasoning, but I do feel at the moment that all the panic about these artificially created due dates is now at danger of taking me down the path I ended up on with my daughter, and that's just not a path I want to take.
Everything ended up fine in the end, but I just felt I lost all control and ended up at the mercy of medical professionals who thought they knew best.
Thank you so much for all your help and advice!