Tummy touching....argh!!!!

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So I'm at my parents for the weekend and all my bloody mother keeps doing is touching my tummy getting so pissed off with it now. I know she's excited but she keeps talking to it and shouting at it like its going I answer. I just want to be left alone!!!!

Sorry for the moan and rant but totally fed up of it

Can't you just ask her nicely to back off?

I get what you mean though, I don't like being touched so would have a big problem with this.

Next time she comes near you also her hands away

touch her boob or bottom next time.

if she objects just look innocent and say "ah, I thought we were playing Body Twister"

I don't get that. It doesn't bother me when people touch my bump I'm proud of it!

I hated it when my mother did this too, especially as we are not close and she didn't ask just shoved her hands on me and started rubbing my belly like I was a bloody Buddha or something. I politely asked her not to touch me as my nausea was bad and it made me feel sick (bit of a fib). When that didn't work I had to say please don't touch it makes me uncomfortable.
I don't mind DH or DS doing it at all but even they usually ask first without any directive from me.
Your bump your rules if you don't want bump touching be assertive and say so!!

My mum and I used to be close, but she keeps asking if it's moving just so she can touch it. I'm having to lie now just so she doesn't come near it.

I really don't mind dh touching it at all, but already fed up of her wanting to rub me like a Buddha. I am proud of my bump, and keep getting smiles off of strangers which is really nice.

Zing I don't think she'd find it funny, she keeps telling me all that she's going I do with the baby and yeah of course I want her and my dad to have a strong bond, but she's said she would happily dedicate every weekend to coming to our house to see the baby

I'm almost looking forward to people inappropriately touching my bump so that I can punch them in the face. The only friend that knows about pg so far has suggested people who do this should be made to do the same to DP's scrotum. It's only fair.

Mel0dy I just laughed out very loud, my parents have just given me a strange look

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mel0dy

was it me?

I find I mind much less now that I have a huge bump (38 weeks); still don't love it, but it doesn't bother me. I hated it earlier on when there wasn't much of a bump, but just because I was pg people thought they could touch my stomach.

I think mine may be my hormones too. I just want to be left on my own at the moment, and having my parents fuss over me is all getting too much. Dh on the other hand I couldn't ask for him to do more, and really am grateful for anything, but my parents it feels like they're trying to take over why I'll do too. Thank god they're not on my doorstep

I love people's fascination with the bump. I love the way random people smile at me in the street after glimpsing the bump, I love the way that check-out people etc ask when the baby is due and seem to be all excited on my behalf and I love it when people touch the bump - it just makes me feel happy and excited!! I'm a very tactile person though and human contact doesn't bother me at all.....I'm always randomly touching people which is probably why I don't find the behaviour odd

People aren't groping, molesting, abusing or touching me, they just want to feel close to the baby, that's all. No harm in it in my eyes

No one has touched mine!?!? My dp rarely does and thats only if i move his hand to bump! Maybe i have a face that says "dont touch me"??? I cant say i have noticed people smiling at me either lol

The only person who mentioned my pregnancy who i dnt know was the car wash guy and he jst asked if i wanted air freshner sprayed lol!

Maybe im unapproachable

I totally get that they're not causing any harm, but it's getting bloody annoying! Invasion of my personal space is getting a bit much

I don't think anyone (well, maybe once or twice but can't recall) has touched mine across 3 pregnancies Mummytobe.

I bloody well hope I am unapproachable. I am an adult woman with bodily autonomy and you don't get to touch me without my permisssion just because I happen to be pregnant. Honestly, I would go mental if people did. DH obviously can, as can my children, but they can touch and stroke me normally.

I don't mind DS or DH touching my bump but even DH has to ask because it's my stomach at the end of the day and not everyone likes being touched all the time.

I have found I request DS to "rub mamma's tummy?" because it's so itchy and it relaxes me haha. Bless him.

Also forgot to mention how much my brother irritates me when he pokes my bump as I walk past. it's not a balloon, it won't pop plus it freaking hurts when he does that!

He's stopped now. He definitely won't be doing that again

Same as Morien.

I don't mind much at all now it's the baby they'll be getting a feel of (35+5)

Not so keen on having my lunch/gunt patted in the early months tho.

I dont mind so much when its direct family.... but anyone else i hate. Its invasive. I have to keep telling people at work shes not moving even tho im clearly uncomfortable from being kicked to death, just so they wont touch me

My FIL does that. It drives me up the wall.

DH knows I hate it (I have a general rule: unless I married you or gave birth to you, don't touch me!) so keeps telling him to leave it. But he still keeps on.

I love it when dh and ds talk to and stroke my bump (when I am being kicked to death, my ds rubbing and talking to her seems to calm her down, it's very sweet!), but no one else.

we were at the in laws house this weekend and mil kept touching my bump. So annoying. Sounds selfish but I want the bump, kicks etc to be just between me, DH and DD. God forbid if some random touched my bump

Ah I'm so glad I'm not the only one who wants the kicks and movement to be just between dh and me. Dss tries bless him but it doesn't happen and he's too impatient. Also, I'm a bit concerned when I'm round him and he's already said he'll kill dh if it's a girl, and beat it up