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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

miscarriage

6 replies

XniX · 25/01/2014 12:16

I'm nearly 9 weeks pregnant and started getting a brown discharge on thursday night. Friday night this turned to bleeding and I went to the hospital. My cervix was still in place and I have a scan monday. However the bleeding is continuing a little heavier but constant. They have said it may or may not be a miscarriage but there is nothing they can do. What will be will be. I understand this but feel like im sitting around just waiting for my baby to die and then just be flushed away like it never happened.
We were not planning having a baby and its taken me a week to get over the shock and get excited because we were supposed to married this year and had to cancel it. I feel like its my fault for not taking it seriously. It has taken me a week to get excited but we are over the moon and have been looking prams and bedroom furnature etc....
I don't know what to do or say. I feel so confused. I just don't want tp lose this baby but I can't do anything to help.

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MolotovCocktail · 25/01/2014 19:38

It's not your fault.

Your scan might reveal that your baby is fine. Don't think yet about the 'what ifs' ... and don't blame yourself. You are not being punished for anything.

I hope that it works out for you x

Hessy · 25/01/2014 19:48

XniX please do re-post or look on the Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss forum on here. There are many wise women who gave me great support when I miscarried. Bleeding doesn't necessarily mean mc. Either way, It is not your fault. Fingers crossed for you xxx

eurochick · 25/01/2014 19:52

Hi OP. I'm also 9 weeks pg, and have had two weeks of bleeding of various heaviness. I've had two scans and everything looked ok at those. It was very scary as I've previously miscarried but I just have to hope this one will be ok - nothing I do can change the outcome.

If the worst does happen, I can recommend the Miscarriage board on here. I found a lot of info and support on there when it happened to me last year.

RhondaJean · 25/01/2014 19:56

I just wanted to let you know that something very similar happened to me at 10 weeks and I now have a 9 yo. It turned out in my case I have an irritable cervix. There are no guarantees but this doesn't always mean miscarraige.

All you can do is take it easy and try not to worry (I know).

Good luck.

Armadale · 25/01/2014 19:58

The waiting is horrible, you must be so worried.

Unfortunately it is true there is nothing they can do - 50% of early pregnancy bleeds go on to be miscarriages, 50% continue as viable pregnancies. I know it seems so hard that they can't give you any answers.

There are people here who understand and can hold your hand till your scan on Monday. Possibly you could choose to get this thread moved to the miscarriage topic. By saying that I am not presuming you will go on to Miscarry, which I realise you haven't yet and there is still hope for your baby, it is just there are lots of ladies on there who have been through your horrid wait and could support you.

I think Miscarriage is so awful and I feel so powerless that it is kind of a defence mechanism to try and blame myself for it in some way, as it gives me a feeling I have some kind of control, if that makes sense.

I have lost count of the number of things I have worried I have done/ not done/blamed myself for as a possible cause. You would probably laugh at some of them, they are so silly, but my head desperately wants to know 'why' and so it comes up with things- but you know, you really really aren't to blame, you didn't not cause this, it is not your fault for taking some time to get your head round the idea of pregnancy, this is entirely normal.

In the waiting I have found box sets of entertaining but low brow rubbish telly are quite a good distraction for a bit- didn't really want to go out and couldn't concentrate enough for books etc, but some telly did divert my mind for a bit.

RugbyWidow7 · 25/01/2014 21:41

I'm not sure if this will be any help at all, but with my first pregnancy I bled and bled at 5.5 weeks and thought I was losing the baby. It was so awful and seemed to go on forever, but they did the scan and found the yolk sac and then the bleeding tailed off. We now have an amazing 2 year old!

I have since lost a baby at the same point and am now pregnant (34 weeks) with our second and had no bleeding at all this time.

I really believe these things happen for a reason and aside from rest, there is nothing you can do to influence it. Whatever the outcome, it is meant to be and nature's way. Keep calm and try to stay positive. Fingers crossed for you.

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