Am I being unreasonable.....?

[Mumtonone]

Hubby is on a works night out. I'm currently 33wks pregnant.

Had a minor emergency. My elderly Mum (with advanced dementia) fell over and I was unable and unsure of getting her back up right.

I called the local council emergency line for help, but they took over 45 minutes to come. In the entire my Mum was distraught, and I'm panicking.

Considered calling ambulance (but we'd end up in hospital regardless if there wasn't any broken bones and that's not a setting she handles particularly well - been there done that!)

Called hubby 7-8 times, kept going straight to voicemail. Left three messages asking to call urgently.

Two and a half hours later he calls me back, not listened to messages - just noticed missed calls.

I'm rather peeved. He thinks I'm being unreasonable.

What if I had gone into early labour. Is it too much for him to keep his phone on and close by?

Yes I would be totally peeved too!!!!

No your not being unreasonable at all! tell him to keep his phone on and check it regularly if its on silent

Not unreasonable at all. Men can be really selfish sometimes!

No your not - why was it on silent? And does he realise the baby may come early and how important it would be for him to be there? (assume it's your first - he genuinely may not have let it sink in yet)

I would have been FUMING.

Ambulance is the best option. I have epileptic type seizures and they never complain if they get called out. If I am well enough I refuse a n e, and they are happy with the fact that I can recover better at home than in a n e. However, your peace of mind that nothing has broken or been seriously damaged, and making sure safe lifting is done is 100% better with an ambulance.

Let them make a decision on hospital, in combination with you..

Husband was definitely being unreasonable. I'm 31 weeks, I don't mind my DH going out for drinks etc, in fact he did last weekend, but he has to be very definitely contactable at the drop of a hat at this stage. Especially as I have a history of preterm labour and I'll most likely be in sole charge of our three young DC and no family support within 300 miles! If he pulled a stunt like yours, I would be fuming!

id be pretty annoyed.

think you need to have the conversation with him that you wont be bothering him and leaving messages about trivia and if you are making more than one call orleaving vm, esp when hes out, you are only going to do it for good reason.

worked for my husband hope it continues after baby arrives and i urgently need him to bring wine home.

my dh didn't seem to get it but as soon as I hit 38weeks then he suddenly got it. I think they just don't think about early labour etc. hopefully he will get better as you get nearer

YANBU at all! He'd have got an earful off me!

Peeapod: You should not be calling ambulances willy-nilly. Fair enough, if you really can't get someone up after a fall and there's no-one (no friends/family/neighbours/carers???) who can help, they're your only option, but be aware that 'assistance needed at home due to a fall' is, assuming no injury, the lowest category of ambulance response and can and does take hours at times - obviously emergencies have to come first.

Not unreasonable, however if it was going straight to voicemail doesn't that infer there was no signal rather than him ignoring the calls? If I was on a night out I wouldn't notice that there was no reception in a particular bar, especially after a few drinks!

Hope your mum is ok