How to tell the BF?

[LRH1983]

Hi everyone, I'm new here. My BF and I have been together for a couple of years. He's not sure if he wants children and definitely not yet, although we're early 30s. We don't live together, although our relationship is stable and happy. I just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant...it's totally unplanned and not the best timing but I'm pretty sure I want to go ahead with it. However I don't want to do it without him and I don't want to force him to be a father. How do I tell him? He's going to freak!!

Advice from ladies who have been in a similar situation would be very much appreciated...

I found out when I was only 2 weeks been with partner for 2 years and live with his mum atm. I just sat him down and said we have a decision to make (I'd already made up my mind to keep bubba) an told him the news, he was very shocked and took him a day to process which was scary but we are now 2 weeks away from the due date so it went down well...good luck with telling your other half xxx

You just tell him. You then give him some space/time if he's shocked, and I'd assume one or two thoughtless questions on his part are likely. And then when he's thought it through, see what he thinks.

The sooner you say something the better.

I knew i wanted children but my dp has 2 girls already so for him i dont think he had the same "wanting" although we talked about it if i didnt want children he would have been happy to not have anymore, when i found out I just walked downstairs, he was eating his coco pops and i said "i think i am pregnant" and waved the test in his face.

We were both completely shocked as we were not trying and had a blazing row the night before (we hadnt spoken to each other since about 6pm the eve before and the first thing i say is Im pregnant) we didnt say alot to each other we just stood for 20 mins looking at test and saying maybe its wrong, read and re read the instructions we both went off to work and spoke to each other at lunchtime and said we wanted to keep the baby! It turns out we were about 8 weeks pregnant by then.

It was funny though as in the eve he was still mithering that he hadnt had an apology - i said i think the baby puts things into perspective slightly!!
Im now 33 weeks and we are both excited especially him and we are having a boy and he thought he would have had another girl so you should just tell him and give him some time to think about it - being faced with it in reality is quite different to the thought of starting a family.

Our first was unplanned but we found out together. We both felt really unsure and had to go off and spend half a day thinking. It's a big thing to process if if wasn't planned!

I would just give him a heads up that you need to talk to him and then just tell him very simply that you are pregnant. Let him have time to think about what he wants and go from there.

Good luck x

My DD was unplanned, and my DP was completely against having children (he has a son, but I didn't have any DC at the time).

I was absolutely dreading telling him, but he was absolutely brilliant. In fact he was more positive than I was (by the time I actually got pregnant I had sort of accepted that I wasn't going to have children and had started making plans for the rest of my life).

DD is now nearly 1 and we're thinking of another....how times change

Ours was "unplanned" too - but if you're in a situation where you might get pregnant (i.e being lax with contraceptives) then both have take responsibility.

I would class ours as a happy accident as even if I didn't get pg then, we would be TTC by now anyway so really it's just a blessing it happened 6 months sooner.

Congratulations and good luck.