Pregnant after miscarriage - but kinda lost faith in my body

[MrsGiraffe12]

So I'm 6+5 after a missed miscarriage last May.

I'm obviously really excited, but really really scared too. I'm not "allowed" an early scan on NHS, as it gives false hope as it doesn't guarantee things will stay ok.

I'm now worried I've had another MMC (week 5 last time and had the surgery at week 9). Im still having positive pregnancy tests (but did last time) and I have the sore breasts, sickness and cramping, but again I had all that last time too.

I have just lost all faith in my body, and am a bit anxious/worried/scared etc

I feel like a hypochondriac really, always worrying about this pregnancy x

Hi mrsgiraffe. I am feeling exactly the same, I am currently 6 weeks and it is so hard! I had a natural mc in June at 9 weeks but I only measured 6 (blighted ovum). I'm going crazy with worry in this pregnancy. I have booked a private scan for 8 weeks to try to give me something to work towards.

I have read a bit and tried to reassure myself that the chances of mc twice in a row is actually quite small, despite all the sad stories you read on here.

I do worry though that I have some kind of problem that's going to cause recurrent mc.

My symptoms have been really mild as well sometimes I just want to nausea etc to reassure me 'yes I am pregnant.'

I have so many hopes and dreams for this baby I'm so scared to lose it all again.

You're not alone.

Hey Hun, congratulations on this pregnancy.
I know how you feel I had a MC in September & got a BBP in November, & felt exactly like you. I couldn't get anNHS early scan either but couldn't stand waiting so had a private. It's true things can still go wrong but it really did help me to feel lees anxious until my 12 weeks scan which I had last week. Would a private scan be an option for you?
It's such a hard time, you want to feel excited but at the same time are scared to be excited. I'm now 13 weeks & have only just started dreading going to the loo encase of blood. It does get easier but the next 6 weeks are not going to be your most relaxed.
Hope this pregnancy progresses well for you. Feel free to PM me anytime.
Xxx

Ah mrsgiraffe have a little faith. I loathed my body after MC in May, felt like it had totally let me down. It's made amends this last 6 months though so am learning to forgive it.

Any chance of booking in for a private scan? Think that was my saving grace at 8 weeks.

It's totally natural to be worried at every stage and every twinge. If you can stop peeing on sticks and try your very best to relax. Remember the mantra x

There are lots of us in the same boat op. There is a lovely support thread for ladies pregnant after mc.

I had an 8 week scan this time and it was very reassuring. However, I am only 9 weeks and already analysing every symptom and worrying I don't feel pregnant. So basically the worry never stops. No wise words, just I know how you are feeling.

After 6 years of trying and two miscarriages in 24 weeks now and baby boy thistle is thumping away nicely :-)

It's very easy for people to say relax and enjoy it when u just can't! Each time u go the loo u expect something
To happen!! But all I can say is take one day at a time and while there's no evidence of anything
Being different then u r
Going to be a mummy!!

Congrats on ur bfp and good luck

Oh, big hug and congratulations! It is extremely hard after MC, I was so worried, I was scared to go to the bathroom. There couple of things you can do, but they will not be available on NHS. You can monitor your HGC levels first two blood tests two days apart and afterwards in a week time. They should be doubling every 48 hours, but don't get too hooked up on those, there can be some fluctuations. Another good blood test to do is progesterone levels, in case it starts to fall you may need progesterone supplements. You can do scan privately at around 8 weeks. If all is fine your chances of MC drop to around 15% and even less after that. What also helped me is to say tp myself i got this far already and I do everything I can to grow healthy baby. Around 8 weeks I got such a severe morning sickness I did not have any energy to worry. Fingers crossed little bean sticks well and stays comfortable.

My situation is quite similar to urs, had a MMC in September, found out at 7 weeks, measured 4 weeks, am now 7+6 again and still feel very hopeless, especially cos (sorry TMI) I keep having funny coloured discharge so constantly convinced it's going to turn brown or red. I had an NHS scan at 6 weeks an saw a heartbeat but even the next day I was convinced again that somethin might have gone wrong, think we just have to try n stay positive she says, doing a poor job of it herself I think it's a natural feeling tho, iv got my fingers crossed for you

I didn't want to read and run without posting. I too had a MMC last year. I found out at my 12 week scan that there was no heartbeat and baby measured 11 + 5 so lost it a couple of days before. It was a huge shock to say the least.

After the ERPC I had in February (on Valentines Day) we decided to start TTC again immediately and then in September last year we found out we were pregnant again. Instead of the excitement I felt with the first pregnancy, I was a bag of nerves. I couldn't concentrate at work and would wake up in the night to check to see if I was miscarrying again. I too tried to get an early reassurance scan but without success, so we opted for a private scan at 7 + 3 weeks through Babybond/Ultrasound Direct. It cost around £100 but I an honestly say it was money well spent and helped ease my concerns a little before the 12 week scan. For me I just wanted to be sure the pregnancy was viable and that there was a heartbeat, although to be honest you really don't stop worrying and even now at 23 weeks pregnant I am still constantly worried something will go wrong.

If you can afford it hun go for the private scan just to get yourself some peace of mind, and try and keep off google - that was my downfall during the early weeks!

Good luck with your pregnancy :)