38 weeks pg- stupid questions from strangers.....

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Am I being unreasonable if I want to deck the next person who says "Ooh, not had the baby yet? I'd have thought you'd have had it by now...".

For a bit of background, this is No3. No1 came at 37+1, no2 came at 36+1 and I'm now 38 weeks, despite all HCP warning me this one would probably come 36-37 weeks. So I've kind of been expecting something to happen for a few weeks. On top of that, I've been having Braxton Hicks or something since NYE, and they've been getting stronger, though still erratic. Midwife on Monday suggested I may have an irritable uterus, which means the contractions aren't regular enough or strong enough to get things going (even though baby is engaged and looks ready to go). I've been having these stupid, ineffective, painful contractions since Friday. They're also bloody uncomfortable and have been waking me up. Because of childcare/pick ups, other people are aware I keep vanishing/getting PIL/DH to do pick ups- it's not as easy to keep these developments/lack of developments to ourselves as when I was pg w No1.

on top of that, I feel really nauseous, presumably because my bump is (obviously) getting bigger by the day and bigger than I've ever been before.

So, really- would I be unreasonable to resort to violence?

I could've written this post word for word! I'm expecting dc3 also and am 38+3.

I feel your frustration!

People are just making small talk. Would you prefer they ignored you? They don't mean any harm. Here, have a grip. . Alternatively you could carry around a small laminated card listing acceptable comments / topics of conversation that you pass to everyone you're about to interact with so that they can be sure not to accidentally make a passing comment that will irritate you to this extent.

Yes, I would rather they ignore me.

I'm miserable and am struggling to be in any way cheerful or to get through a day. I'm in pain and am not sleeping. Some people clearly engage brain before speaking and have just been giving me reassuring smiles, which is really nice. I get that people are just making small talk. I get that they're not out to deliberately piss me off, and there's not some great conspiracy to wind me up. It doesn't stop it being annoying.

Stick to in your head violence! Imagine yourself saying something/bashing they're heads against a wall, but don't really do it. It's the stupid hormones and lack of sleep + pain. You'll only regret it it you have to resort to punching police officers too (also 38+4)

Not sure telling a heavily pregnant, hormonal, uncomfortable, knackered woman to get a grip is the way to go!!

I'm pregnant with number 2 (36 weeks) and she is so high I can barely breath, I can't sleep, can't eat a lot because I feel full and get chronic heartburn and can't walk far because my back feels like it is going to break. I feel your pain and I really really hope that baby comes soon for you, you are not unreasonable to want to think about violence because I feel like punching the next person who tells me I am SO MASSIVE and they reckon this baby will come early!

x

Totally agree!

Im now 41 weeks, no signs of labour up to now.

I really would rather be left alone at home at this stage with nobody bothering me. I don't want to talk to anybody about anything apart from my partner. He needs to be out at work all day not to annoy me, but its nice to chat at night when he is home :)

I am absolutely sick to death of being asked "are you still here"?
What the actual f**k does that even mean?!?!? Its a nonsense question, I'm not going anywhere anyway!!!!!!!

Im past caring if people think I'm moody and irrational. As long as i have peace and quiet, no more unannounced visitors, and no more annoying phone calls/texts to see if 'anything has happened' I'm not arsed ha ha!!

Im quite content and comfortable at the moment with my pregnancy itself, baby will come when she is ready, its people that are doing my head in!!!!!

P.s. You don't need to get a grip, everybody feels different in pregnancy, you can want to be left in peace if you want!

yeah, being left in peace would be lovely. Even DH (who is being a total gem) is walking on eggshells. I now realise how lucky I was with the other two, who came early and very quickly.

In the nicest possible way, I'm glad to see I'm not alone and hope that everyone else feels less uncomfortable soon.

I just think people mean well, but just need to be more thoughtful before saying what they think. Hormones are so high at this stage of pregnancy, we start to feel very protective of ourselves and growing baby and just want to be left in peace. Well I do. So yes, the surprise visitors, annoying comments ("oh you look tired" "how long now???" "Oh you poor thing" are rather annoying. I'm not sodding ill, just want to relax, enjoy as much as possible without the constant need for someone to comment. Oh and how "your bump looks fake! How are you carrying that?!"