So miserable :(

[Em1503]

Hi this is my first post here, I just feel like I need some support. I'm nearly 12weeks pregnant and just really not coping with the constant nausea and feeling unwell. I'm literally in bed most days because it's so bad. The doctor has signed me off work for 2 weeks, plus I was off before Xmas because of it. I've been given anti sickness pills to try to get me eating and drinking more as my ketone levels were high, but because I'm not actually being sick they're not really doing much.

I'm usually such an active person and struggling with being so unable to function. Trying to remain positive that it will end soon, although me sister was like this throughout both of her pregnancies so I've got that on my mind. Plus I've got tremendous guilt about not being in work and already worrying about whether I'll be able to go back in a couple of weeks.

Sorry to moan I just needed to get it all off my chest, I've never felt so debilitated like this before.

Hi em. Pregnancy was the worst time of my life too. Totally rubbish and I was sick throughout. My boss let me get into work late which helped. I actually found it easier to be at work because it took my mind off the sickness, although I spent a good deal of time in the loo, or worst case scenario with my head in the bin! I spent the rest of my time in bed and distracting myself with box sets...that's when watching tv didn't make me nauseous. Audio books were good too. Distraction, distraction, distraction ... Good luck

Thanks for the reply and advice, dh is sorting me out some box sets in a bid to help, he's being fab which I'm so grateful for. I'm a teacher and only managed until break time on my first day back this week, I physically couldn't function in the classroom, let alone teach a lesson well. My job is 100 mph and the pace of the day so fast that i definately can't manage it at the moment. Just hoping I can soon as I'm so bored and miserable at home!!! Oh the joys of pregnancy, I had no idea...!

Oh dear, I can see teaching is a tad tricky. No idea how that works, can you go in and do admin/ planning stuff instead? Maybe speak to head of dept about what you can actually cope with. I can see they'd have to be pretty enlightened to flex the job that much but still, if at all possible I found it much better trying to work. Either way you spend the day feeling sick and although it's physically difficult I found working easier because of the distraction factor. Lovely husband, hopefully you can find a series to both get addicted to and while away the time.

Oh you poor thing: I'm now 26 weeks with my first child and I had exactly the same experience. Horrible, isn't it? If you haven't already told your boss tell him/her now- either they'll be surprisingly supportive (I told mine at eight weeks as I was so ill and she was fab), or they won't be and then you can get HR on their ass. Employment law in this country is incredibly supportive: you have the right to a quiet place you can lie down, and many employers have sickness policies that specifically exclude pregnancy-related conditions, so it doesn't count against your sick leave- have a look at www.gov.uk to see what your rights are. And although it doesn't feel like it at the moment, it WILL get better as your hormones balance out and you work out the best strategies for you to avoid sickness and exhaustion: I had a real turning point at 14 weeks and I'm sure you will too. Most important is to avoid overdoing it: as a teacher I can imagine you're really dedicated to those you teach but your health and that of your baby must come first, so don't feel bad about not being at work. Good luck!!

My last pregnancy was the same, an absolute horror. It eased a bit at 16 weeks (could finalky get out of bed) and finally disappeared at 24 weeks and I had an amazing 3rd trimester, I think because I had already been through hell and back. From 12 weeks you should see tiny improvements as the placenta kicks in but I promise you, you have got through the part where the hormones double and double. Hopefully 4 weeks from now (I know it's an eternity right now) you will be in better shape.

Thank you all for your kind words, it has helped make me feel better. I know I need to just take it day by day and stop worrying about work and just try to get through each day as best I can in the mean time. I can't wait for the day I start to feel myself again - the thought of that day is amazing!

I feel your pain! I am 12 weeks tomorrow and have been feeling awful! Spent 2 days in hospital last week. Last pregnancy I struggled into work despite what the dr said which was a big mistake! I know it's hard but try not to think about work and concentrate on feeling better. I think stress makes sickness worse so try to relax!

Im 18 weeks and still have very bad days, have been signed off work since week 8 and although I feel a bit guilty I just know the best place for me is at home though I have a toddler so very difficult to rest.
what medication have you been given? If it's cyclizine I found it useless, maybe speak to your GP about something else?

It's hell on eartg and I completely sympathise, try to get fresh air too at some point in the day, and rest as much as possible, eat whatever you can and get your DH to get some ice lollies in, they always ease the nausea and give some liquid.
Sometimes I think the unrelenting nausea is worse than the actual vomiting, and every day is a battle with food and smells. It does get better though, I'm nowhere near as bad as the jibbering wreck I was at 12 weeks.

Me too me too. I'm ten weeks, been in hospital for four days on a drip and I'm on anti emetics which reduce the sickness and leave the nausea untouched. I'm very miserable and this is inciting feelings of guilt after three miscarriages.

I completely empathise with you and, as this is my second experience (ds is 3) I would suggest that you relax over work. I think I'm right in saying pregnancy related sickness doesnt count towards your sickness record and honestly you can't control this (which is a huge part of the problem for me anyway!) All you can do is aim to survive, one day at a time.

And I'll take my own advice too...

Echoing that sick leave in pregnancy can't be counted against you by employer. I was told exercise helps but never felt well enough to try any. Oh and ice lollies were v helpful, plus sherbet for some reason.

Never feel guilty about work. It was really only feasible for me because I have a desk job. I worked about about half speed, but that's what my baby and I needed. Only really recommend working if they give you some flexibility and if you find it helpful to not be in bed. My friends who have physically demanding standing up type jobs all fared better in the post-partum recovery stage...so there's a plus point.

Glad it's not just ne, although I don't want others feeling this bad!! It's just so relentless which is the hardest thing, having no let up from it! Yes I'm on cyclizine. I'll run out soon so will speak to the dr about alternatives. I'm at 12 weeks now so hoping for signs of improvement any day now...! I've got my dating scan on Friday so that's something to look forward too!

Thanks for all the support and replied, sending positive thoughts that we'll all be feeling better soon!