Can I have a moan and a cry please?

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Im almost 34 weeks preg with my 3rd. My other 2 are 8 and 6 so quite a gap. Im getting so upset by the comments from random people who otherwise wouldn't even look at me. Im 5' 3" so not exactly tall and I seem to just carry big. I was polyhydramnious with my second, but she weighed 7lb 6, my first weighed 7lb 13. At my last midwife appt I was measuring fine for dates, I have my next appointment next week so I'll prob moan and cry at her too

This morning I was feeling happy, then in the playground a mum came up to me and asked how long I had left, when I told her she kept pointing at my bump and saying "wow you're so HUGE aren't you, really HUGE" etc, she mustve said the word huge about 3 fucking times. I realise as Im usually 9st and a size 10 that extra weight is obvious on me, but these comments are so hurtful and when they come Im just so shocked I don't call them up on it. Im spending half my time lately on the verge of tears, I really don't want to do the school run anymore.

I used to low carb but wasn't sure about doing that in pregnancy so have been eating things I usually wouldn't - jacket potatoes/sandwiches/rice etc and I guess that's the cause for the weight gain - after todays comment I came home, found the scales (dh had hid them - at my request - when I was weighing myself too much in the beginning. Unfortunately he's shit at hiding things it would seem) and found Ive put on about 3 and 1/2 stone. Im gutted, I thought I was doing so well but maybe people are right and Im too big. People ask how long Ive got, then well I tell them they make shocked faces and say things like 'omg that's ages' 'wow, really?!' etc Im still walking about 3 miles a day on the school run and Im not sat at home eating junk all day.

Im just so sick of this, and wish people would leave me alone. I don't know how Im going to look after Ive had this baby, if I can get back down again. Im tired, I ache and I just want to hide away now until my baby is here. Im sad that at what should be a happy time, Im letting these things get to me.

Thanks for letting me rant

Ignore them all! I gained 3.5 stone too! Went from 9st7lb to almost 13st!!

My friend is in exact same situation as you in terms of pregnant, 2 slightly older children, she's about your height, and really quite huge (her words). She says she's got bigger with each pregnancy. She's waddling and struggling a bit, but no one is mean to her.

Ignore the lot of them... nothing worse than a bunch of interfering (jealous?!?!?) mums. Be happy... in 6 weeks you'll have a beautiful baby.

Not that Tis is necessarily much consolation in sure they're not commenting on your weight gain, but on the size of your bump. People also have a tendency to open their mouths a let words fall out just to fill the silence... This last pregnancy I was told I was huge at least several times a day, until last Saturday when I was told by a stranger in the park I wasn't very big for full term - I delivered DS4 next day . But I really don't think any of these people were trying to be hurtful. Now, if they'd been commenting on the size of my arse...

This is my first pregnancy and there's been times when i simply couldn't believe how rude, tactless and personal other people have been. Big hugs to you. Try to ignore where possible (I know it's hard.) Some people are just morons....

Thank you both for your replies. I guess I should try and take consolation that it is the bump being commented on, but of course that just makes me worry that its too big.. Im smaller than I was with my other two, and my friend and dh both say Im not big in the face etc. I know my arse and thighs are bigger, but still. Its going to be a long six weeks isn't it. I know I should be happy and glad that baby is growing etc I just wish people knew how hurtful their comments can seem. Like I don't have enough to worry about already!

Im having toast and marmite now, and feeling guilty about it ffs

Sorry I missed your post there MrsP. Id forgotten just how people feel they can comment on you, touch you etc when pregnant. Its really not nice at all and I hate it. I hope youre managing to enjoy your pregnancy, it gets hard not to let it knock you down a bit I find.

People always seem to think that a woman being pregnant means they can comment on almost anything about you.

3 stone sounds about right? I put on 3 stone during my first pregnancy and it turned out to all be the baby, fluid etc, I was the same weight a few weeks afterwards.

Some people are just crass, I've been walking with my aunt who was heavily pregnant with twins and people have told her she's massive. People would walk right up to her tummy and touch it, and I'd be there gobsmacked. Honestly I don't understand how ppl can be so thoughtless.

If I were you I'd try and just think about your beautiful baby inside getting all their nourishment and count it a job well done : ). Hope you feel better dear.

I just got back from my gynaecologist and at 19 weeks I have put on another 5 kilo :( am wondering what I will be like by birth date! I felt so low about it.

It's such a struggle to eat normally - per pregnancy I was gluten free but not a hope right now! You just eat what your body wants to and don't worry about it.

You will lose the weight quickly after birth. Don't fret about ignorant people in the playground they aren't worth it. But it is astonishing how a woman's body seems to become publicly available to comment on or even touch when pregnant. It's not on.

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and this window of being able to eat what you want :)

Pre pregnancy not per doh

I know how you feel. I've wanted to hit/sit on several people after their comments of late. I put on 3st with dd1, I went from 8.5-11.5stone but lost it all and a bit more within a few weeks. I'm now 25weeks with dd1 and have already put on 1st5lbs so I'm heading for the same. It's bothered me no end. Dp has had to hide the scales from me as I've got obsessive. But it's taken me this long to realise, so fecking what? I'm carrying a human, everyone who comments must be insecure themselves.

Thank you. My friend said the same - baby is growing nicely, and this is obv how I am when pregnant. I guess some people are just rude or don't think before they open their mouths. What gets me is its been women that are mothers that have made the comments, don't they remember what its like being commented on? Maybe you forget all that afterwards, like labour!

I'm hoping to be able to breastfeed again as that really helped with my other two.

Ignore, ignore ignore. I agree people seem to think they can say what they like to a pregnant woman, however rude and thoughtless. I've had it all this (3rd) pregnancy from, "you're huge it must be twins" to "you hardly look pregnant, are you sure you're 35 weeks?" I think it really is often words just tumbling out to fill a silence! It's annoying, but as we all know, it doesn't stop there - after the birth people will be commentating on whether we look well/exhausted, how much weight we've kept on or lost, etc etc etc. Just try and let it go in one ear and out the other - easier said than done when you are hormonal. If that doesn't work, get angry!

Did you see a similar post on weight gain/size last week? Someone posted a great response : "I'm this size because I ate the last person that told me I was big!" Love it. Not sure it helps.
Someone the other day had posted how their OH was monitoring everything they ate to make sure they didn't gain much weight. I'm just grateful that's not me. Hopefully when DC arrives you will forget all the hurtful comments. Most people just say it because they don't know what else to say.

I'm a size 8 normally. I've put about 14 lbs on. People keep commenting on my size...

I say this with a smile- ' It's temporary, I will be a size 8 again in a few weeks- whereas some people really struggle- don't they?!' All the time looking them up & down!!

Take no notice of horrible people op! x

Thanks for the other replies Ive just had a bath and a good cry and feel slightly better. I don't want to let such comments ruin the last few weeks of this pregnancy, we're not planning on having anymore children so Im trying to tell myself that Im almost done now, and I should be enjoying it all really. I don't want to give birth and then in the future look back and wish Id handled things differently.

I guess Ive got all the time in the world after to work at getting back in my jeans... Cant wait until I can get a bloody good stank on without feeling out of breath!

Im 7 weeks but i look about 20... my supervisor at work thought it'd be helpful to tell me that 'you have piled weight on though so it could be something to do with that'... I am being tested for an underactive thyroid but still... no need for the rude comments!

Oh god, I feel your pain. I'm the same height as you, 31 weeks, first pregnancy and pretty much all the extra weight I'm carrying is in my belly and boobs. My colleagues are lovely, but every day I get 'OMG you're HUGE! Are you getting bigger EVERY DAY!? (um, yeah) Are you SURE there's JUST ONE in there!? You're going to be MASSIVE by the end' etc. Bump is measuring in bigger side of normal, but I'm a short arse. I've told my colleagues I'm normal, just short, but they still delight in tell me how 'HUUUUUUUUUUGE' I am. So big hugs to you, and really just fuck 'em all.

Don't let them get to you. The shocked looks when I told them how long I had to go, "are you having twins?", "you're huge" shouted at me in an open plan office with everyone laughing....I found a thread on Mumsnet at the time where others were experiencing the same and it really made me laugh.

I was so worried about the size of the baby (even though my measurements were fine) that I took large babygrows to the hospital. She was under 7lbs when born.

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore.

I bet you look amazing. You've not huge. You've carrying a person inside you.

Apologies for cheap typing...the Kindle always gets the better of me...

Arrrggghhhhh!!! Crap typing...not cheap typing...

I know it's hard but ignore the whole lot of them. I m same height and dress size as you and in both my last pregnancies I had an enormous bump, lost count of the number of twin jokes I got. I have two
Beautiful healthy children to show for it and I went back to a normal weight and size after a few months, so stuff them, you ll have three beautiful children. It's hard to ignore though, I know, people just don't think before speaking.

Thanks all. Im getting a bit anxious now that the evening is approaching and Ive got a week of school runs to do, last week even Guy Martin on the telly couldn't cheer me up

Im trying not to worry, but may have to spend the next few weeks with my 'fuck off' face on, and glued to my mate as the comments only seem to happen when Im alone.

Hope you all have a good week xx

Pregnancy is the only time you shouldn't feel guilty (within reason of course) if you are feeling down go to GP, as you don't want this to manifest itself into something worse. You need to be in the right frame of mind with a newborn.

Please try not to let these comments get to you-people are not saying you're fat and you certainly sound like you are are the size of a normal, lovely, pregnant woman.

I sometimes catch sight of my bump in the window reflection and think, 'it's huge!' and other times it feels like I'm carrying an elephant on my front. The pregnant shape fascinates people and makes them comment when they really shouldn't. I get people saying I look small (then I worry) then on the same day that I look huge (then I worry again)!

Enjoy your toast and marmite!