it is not normal to be this low is it? (antental depression?) and is there anything that can actually help?

[bebbeau]

i am struggling to get out of bed in the mornings. i mean i literally can't see the point of getting up

its like i am walking through a thick fog all the time, its in my head and it literally feels like am walking and doing things really slowly. the only time i am happy is when i am asleep (and not doing much of that atm either)

i am being a shit mum to my other dcs (aged 4 and 7) and a shit wife to dh. i am constantly annoyed at them and i have sort of "checked out" of parenting and being a wife other than doing the absolute bare minimum

i also feel huge and unattractive but haven't gained loads really, have gained 9lbs at 25 weeks. but i am tiny (five foot 2 and was a size 8 before pregnancy)....so feel i probably look massive. i suffer awful body image issues when pg and i do not cope at all with my body changing. i am terrified of what i will look like after the delivery as well, at 34 and after dc3 i am not sure i will be lucky enough to snap back to any sort of decent shape. i also have massive varicose veins pop up on one of my legs which look hideous, i have (had?) nice legs but that will be it now, no more short skirts :(

i have just over 13 weeks left (i am having a planned section at 39 weeks) but it feels like a life time. i do not know how i am going to get through each day. people have suggested talking to my MW / gp but not sure what they can do to help? they can't speed time up :(

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Gosh that sounds awful
They're are anti d's you can take when pregnant I think so might be worth talking to your gp
Is there anyone who can help with the old children? Family etc
Could dh take some time off work
This is a very miserable time of year anyway, Xmas is over, weather crappy, dh's back at work

i'm actualy glad dh is back at work, i can't stand him around atm, and christmas was awful, i felt like i should have been having a good time but actually i was just geting through it, minute by minute

and DH was just one one more person to make happy and entertain

i know that sounds awful, as i really do love him but i am pushing him away. i wouldnt blame him if he left me as i am zero fun to be around

i feel sorry for the dcs as well, they are such good kids, they dont deserve a shit mum like me

i don't want to wake up in the mornings :(

I have no experience of this (in pregnancy) but your gp will definitely help. I am the same height as you and felt massive and very uncomfortable but it's not long again before you will get back to yourself after the baby. You are so petite and it will be worth it.

Only practical suggestions is to get out yourself for a while everyday even a walk, coffee shop. Get some nice maternity wear and scarves and get yourself up and showered every morning. Even if you think of it as another job, it might help if you start feeling good.

I wish I could advise. I can get very low myself sometimes so I know the foggy feeling.

yeah, i have been trying to get out every day, as, at best, it does help my mood a little. and, at worst, just passes some time

thing is, i hate being out in public whatsoever if i don't feel i look good, which obviously i feel i don't atm (awful and shallow i know). so its been hard. esp with the shit weather we have had recently

have just managed to have a shower, put some washing on, and got the dcs to get dressed

how pathetic that any of that is an achievement....

That's loads! I only have one baby and not pregnant and feeling good and that is more than me. One thing my gp recommends is not having your life all baby baby. Though I am mad about him, she's right. You are your own person too.

I cannot get out walking today though terrible rain here

Having a shower, doing washing and getting dcs dressed are all achievements when you feel that way. I know, because I suffered antenatal depression too, and it was the most horrible thing I've ever gone through.

Please speak to your gp. I was prescribed antidepressants that were safe to take during pregnancy and they saved my life. It took a few weeks for them to start working, and then my mood was much more even and calm, I was pulled out of that horrible black hole of depression. I would not have coped without them.