The first trimester

[stargirl1701]

I hate it. I don't want to eat or drink anything. I just want to sleep. I hate checking for blood every time I go to the loo. I hate dreading the scan date in case there is no heartbeat. I hate reining in every good thought about the future. I hate this.

I am trying to be mindful to manage my anxiety. Not doing so well tonight.

Oh bless you! Hopeful you'll get a break from tiredness in second trimester. I'm now 22 weeks but still check when I go to loo! It will all be worth it. Just wanted to reply as didn't want to read & run! Hope you feel better soon xxx

I am full of anxiety also! One minute I am fine the next I'm in floods of tears, other half can't seem to understand there's no real reason for my tears. Being nauseous does not help though, and the thought of the what ifs. You're not on your own at least.

Hang in there, it does get better. In trimester 2 I'd actually occasionally forget I was pregnant as I felt so well!

I feel exactly the same- could have written your post myself!

I'm 11+6 so the end is nigh! Have a private scan on Tuesday and then my NHS one on the following Thursday....I booked the private one because I couldn't handle not knowing if baby ok for another whole week!
is it your first one too?

I'm with Cariad - I didn't actuall realise how poorly and worried I felt in the first tri until it was over.

Second tri is SO much better, you can relax a little about MC, hopefully the sickness, tiredness and carb loading will stop, and you can start to enjoy your pregnancy and look forward to meeting your little one. After the 12 week scan was better but after the 20 week in particular it was like a huge weight dropped away.

Early pg is not fun and you have my sympathy. All I can say is hang in there!

No, third pregnancy. I'm really struggling tonight. The last fortnight has been stressful as was with a child who turned out to have Parvovirus which causes mc in the first 20 weeks. Heard from GP yesterday that I'm immune, thank goodness. I felt better yesterday but I feel crappy again today. I feel like I'm cramping tonight but I don't know if it's just in my head.

I could hide in bed until it's passed.

I should feel better next week when I go back to work - less time to be sitting and worrying.

stargirl I am exactly the same could write your post myself, im 5weeks at the minuite and my last pregnancy in august ended in m/c, I know I should relax but its hard im constantly panicing that ive lost the baby :( your not alone hopefully one day soon we'll be able to enjoy being pregnant xx

Being pregnant is rubbish! I have hated the whole thing but the first trimester does go slowly as you can't tell anyone you're pregnant and have to suffer in silent. Even if you have got cramping it doesn't mean anything bad. I had a lot of cramping at the start and I had bleeding, but I did used to dread going to toilet too! Just have to keep telling ourselves pregnancy is temporary and we will get through it! Think positive! Try and do something to take your mind off worrying a bit (although that is easier said than done) go to cinema or do some really gentle exercise. Even though you're feeling tired it is likely to make you feel a bit better. Make sure you have something that works when you feel sick. I used to find toast and a fizzy drink worked well or biscuits.

Woops forgot to say the doctor told me cramping is very normal its just you stretching to get ready for baby :) I have it and so do alot of the ladies in the antinatal thread im on xx

in ninth week so not had scan yet, aside from bigger boobs had no pregnancy symptoms at all, makes me paranoid that its not real and have friends telling me i dont seem very excited. have done 2 positive tests. Is it normal to have no sickness yet or do I have it all to look forward to?

I feel the same! Im sick of feeling sick, I'm exhausted to the point of falling asleep at work and im a big bag of nerves.

Really hope I'll feel better after my scan on Monday.

Hope your anxiety settles soon :-) x

I'm the same. I feel so rotten but mostly just scared about another mmc. I'm hoping the hospital will give me an earlier scan this time. Even if they do I'm not feeling strong enough to go at the moment in fear of more bad news.

snap..... I feel awful. nausea that just will not go away any time of the day. It's there all day and all night. I haven't eaten properly in 2 weeks. I'm shattered and could actually sleep my way through the next few weeks. And to top it off, I'm now constipated. I have IBS so this has resulted in excruciating back pain and tummy cramps.

I'm 8 weeks. And despite having all these very obvious symptoms, I'm still convinced that when I have my scan there will be nothing in there. DH thinks I'm being irrational. All I know is that I'm yet to get excited about it even though it's what I really want.... So it gets better right?!

Mabel, that's exactly how I feel. I'm scared to ask for an early scan or HCG blood test in case it confirms another mmc. Yet, I'm driving myself crazy not knowing.

I got out of the house today to visit friends which helped. Back to our routine tomorrow which should also help.

Thank you all for your kind words. It helps knowing I'm not alone.

If you can afford a private scan get one. That way you'll know what's actually going on in there and won't have to worry so much about unknowns. I did that every 3 or 4 weeks with dc1 and it really helped.

I'm in two minds about a private scan. My early scans were fine which made the mmc even worse I think. Having said that I think the hospital will give me an earlier scan this time because of the mc. It is just a terrible waiting game.