Need some positivity about my next scan on Monday!

[VJONES1985]

Okay, those of you poor sods who know me on here know that I am Mrs Positivity (not).

I had an early scan at 5+4 and all looked well but no heartbeat so have another one on Monday (7+4) when in theory there will be a heartbeat.

Why can't I just be positive? All I keep thinking is that something terrible will happen, like a mmc. Some days I find it hard to believe I'm really pregnant and tell myself every day not to get too excited about having a baby in case it doesn't happen.

How can I feel more excited about Monday and less anxious?

Hi!
I don't have any answers - and I know it is hard to stay positive but try to believe that everything will be ok. I had a mmc at 16 weeks in April and am now 14+5. I had no positivity until my 12 week scan and couldn't even look until I was told it was ok. I have one at 16 weeks to reassure me again and know I will feel the same again. I feel really anxious at the moment and scared I will find out it is a mmc again.

I felt so much more positive after my scan - so hopefully this will happen with you too.

Good luck for Monday xx

Thank you. Perhaps I need to accept that this is just how pregnancy feels! I had convinced myself I would feel better once I hit 12 weeks but, as your experience shows, there is a risk all throughout pregnancy.

Good luck to you too.

Thank you!
I think we will feel anxious throughout the whole pregnancy - although I think I will personally feel better once I get to 20 weeks.
I try to stay positive as I think it must be better for the baby - it is very hard sometimes though and sometimes you just need to have a rant/cry or whatever you need!

Good luck for Monday - I am sure it will be fine xx

A wonderful GP told me, when I was at your stage of pregnancy that whilst the worrying starts about now, it actually never ends. Even as adults you will still worry about your DC's. In the nicest way he told me to get used to it. If the worse happens its a positive as it shows you have got to a stage in pregnancy that so many women have never got to. I'm a worrier too.

He was right, I still get up in the middle of the night to check DS1 is still there and ok, he's 16 months now but I suspect I'll still do it well into his teenage years.

I hope it all goes well x.

The hardest days are those ones when the symptoms ease off a bit. I feel a hit queasy most days but that's it as far as sickness goes, so my new worry is that that's a bad sign. Sigh.

Have you considered trying any hypnotherapy/ relaxation CDs? Can be helpful as birth prep as well as helping you take a break from the worrying.

I felt a lot better after the 20 week scan - plus you can feel your baby kicking and chopping away, so hopefully it will get easier for you, just keep battling through these first few uncertain weeks.

20 weeks is so far away!! I've managed to relax much more since scan number one but I think every time I have one looming, the anxiety will kick in again.

Apparently the Zita West relaxation CD is good?

Good luck today VJONES

Hope it all went well yesterday?

Any news?

Sorry to say but it doesn't get any less anxious! I'm 30 weeks and all my scans have been perfect but I've now moved on to being anxious about if something bad might happen to the baby in labour or if the baby comes out blind/deaf/something they can't pick up in scans.

We're mothers - we worry!