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dessirie · 01/01/2014 21:00

I'm 40 yrs old and 40 weeks today. My hospital has a new policy (adopted from Kings College) where anyone 40 and over must be induced when they hit 40 was. I have an appt tomorrow, I know they're gonna want to do a stretch n sweep. I am very phobic and cannot stand internals. I'm so stressed I feel sick. But they keep on about risk of placenta failure due to my age. Have had scans and monitoring, ll is well. But my midwife is determined to do a sweep. I know I won't sleep tonight. Can't stop crying. My hubby and I have tried having sex 3 times now. Each time I get terrible cramping 2 hours after and I'm hopeful it's labour, but they have always stopped after 5/6 hours. It must sound wired me praying for labour instead of a sweep coz I expect you are thinking, it's much more painful! But it's psychological. I hate internals, and with labour, its something coming out instead. Does anyone know if this cramping after sex is casually helpful in kickstarting labour, or am I going through the pain each time for nothing? Please help!

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MumOfTheMoos · 01/01/2014 21:11

It is hard to stand up to midwives etc but nobody can do anything to you without your permission. Final.

What would you like to happen? Would you prefer to monitor for a while?

sophie1971 · 01/01/2014 21:16

I also want to know the answer to this because I am 42 yrs old and 40 weeks today. My hospital has the same policy and I have an appointment for a sweep on Friday.

Are you trying anything else dessirie?

dessirie · 01/01/2014 21:21

I have tried a hot curry, bouncing on my birthing ball, and eating pineapple until my tongue is sore! Nothing seems to work. I did try walking for a couple of hours the other day, and got cramping. But again, they stopped after a while. At my wits end!

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dessirie · 01/01/2014 21:23

I have asked to be monitored which they are doing. But they are making me. feel like a terrible person for not having induction for baby's sake. But whilst all is well, I don't see the problem. I love my baby. Just don't want unnecessary procedures.

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Shellywelly1973 · 01/01/2014 21:29

I'm 40 & 36 weeks.

My hospital has the same policy. Currently this baby is breech so I'm really playing it by ear.

I've already decided if this baby turns by next Monday I won't be having monitoring/ sweeps / induction.

You sound so stressed in your post. I really feel for you. Remember this is your pregnancy, your baby & your body!!!

Got luck...

MumOfTheMoos · 01/01/2014 21:30

Take your DH with you and tell them all of this. They can't touch you without your permission but telling them your concerns may force them to get creative. Policy or not, nobody can force anything on you that you don't want.

Katie28 · 01/01/2014 21:32

Hi dessirie, first of all don't let anyone make you feel bad for standing up for yourself. You should not be forced to do anything you don't want to do. I had three stretch and sweeps with each of my three children and none worked for me. The best thing I found was something called rotate to dilate which I learned in my birthing classes. Sit on your birthing ball and do big rotations clockwise. Just keep doing it while you watch tv. This helped me massively and made me have very strong contractions. At first they always died off but they gradually went on for longer and longer until I was in established labour. Good luck, hope it won't be long for you x

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