How do you deal with the unreleting "advice"?

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The news is out, everybody is very excited, and the advice is rapidly flooding in.
I am smiling and nodding so much i must look like a demented nodding dog.
I have also created a monster by giving DP a pregnancy book for dads. I was hoping it would stop him from going and discussing all my pg symptoms with MIL and SIL, from tiredness ("she should drink guinness, she's prob anaemic") to wind ("Mum said it's perfectly normal you farting all the time, Aunty Therese was the same!"). I also believe that they are behind the "cats will try and smother your baby" panic.
Sadly said book has dredge another load of perilous subtances to our PFB, from smoked salmon to him scrutinising all cheese in fridge.
I am planning to accidentally kick said book under bed and pray it stays lost.
But what about all the other tides of advice? Do you get it too? or do i look like a preganancy dunce? Am i already a shit mother and i don't even realise?

Smile sweetly then ignore.

Congrats

advice changes all the time so i just smile and nod. i told mil advice changes and i was following current guidelines quite early on and that stopped a bit of it.
i was also a bit snippy with people and that seemed to make them stop.
you are not a dunce or bad mum. there is a lot to learn!

Smile and nod, go home, mull it over and make your own decision!

OR, lose the plot and go postal! That often shuts them up!

My advice is to become extremely opinionated about all things baby to the point you piss everybody off, worked for me.

Either ignore or be snippy, in my case I tried to smile sweetly and I just got more irritable as time went on. I used to fume morning til night sometimes, I just found it so bloody intrusive. I think it was only after I'd had my daughter that I a suddenly saw the advice was part of the excitement of others, they were excited for me. It was all coming from a lovely place.

I did find it hard though, at the time. I wish now I'd told folk that I was excited and nervous but I wanted to make the most of being a non-mum, so could we talk about something else, make plans to go do something soon that I wouldn't be able to do with a newborn, etc. it wasn't like being pregnant was a hobby, it was a biological state, sometimes I just did not want to have to talk about it ALL THE TIME. I totally understand where you're coming from.

I'm getting sick of the advice and comments "should you be eating that?" is most possibly the most annoying. Ive gotten so fed up i've started telling my family I dont want to talk about my pregnancy when I go to visit. Seems a little extreme but the preggo rage will take hold if they carry on!

You are way more patient than me. The nodding and smiling lasted a week :-)

I've found work colleagues have to be the worse at pushing advice on you even some fellas at work. My family and friends have been really supportive, I'm 25 weeks now and told people at work around 11 weeks and I swear it's all I hear.
"Oh wait till your massive"
"Was it planed"
"Are you finding out sex of baby" me yes, "well you shouldn't" WTF why ask.
I've had serve morning sickness and I have spd. Any all I get is oh well that's what you get your pregnant. When women at work have told me they breezed through pregnancy.

I just try and bite my tongue and when I get home have a good old moan to my hubby.

Don't no were people get off, but I have made a massive promise that in 10 15 years when my kids are older I will not be a preachy work colluage I will be supportive

Oh the worst comment always off fella is "how you doing FATTY"

DICKHEADS

I totally get this. I might be pregnant but I'm still me! I don't want to be asked how I feel in a special tone of voice, and I swear I will drop kick the next person that suggests ginger biscuits to me.

Lmao at drop kicking someone over ginger biscuits, love it!

sweetpea I have had the same with a colleague, she is pg too and made a very judgey face when i told her we were going to ask the sex of baby (she asked). She is quite a black and white bossy person IYKWIM and has had a baby already so clearly knows everything and the "right" way to go about things.

oh it's so annoying isn't it! When I went back to work after 5 months off with Hyperemesis a colleague said 'have you tried ginger biscuits?' oh that's a good idea, stuff the anti emetic i'm taking 3 times a day lets try a sodding biscuit.
I told her that yes I have tried ginger but it burnt like the fiery depths of hell when it came back up 2 minutes later.

Get used to the 'oh if you think you're tired now, you just wait!' comments. Try to let it wash over you, however I know that's easier said than done.

oh and congrats

I'm thankfully over the worst of morning sickness and have consumed every ginger food known to man (even though i bloody hate ginger), it was no help whatsoever. In fact ginger biscuits are hell to puke back up.

I had a disagreement with MIL about pate at the weekend. She offered me some and I politely declined to which she accused me of listening to "crazy stories on the internet". I told her it was NHS advice and that I was choosing to follow it for my own peace of mind.

She rolled her eyes and launched into a "In my day....." speech

Argh yes the ginger biscut Suggestion. I've i EVER see a Ginger biscut in my life again I think I will vomit pregnant or not. I no I went to docs about my sickness and the first thing she said was have you tried ginger, I must of give her a evil look and she quickly moved on to putting my on medication lol.

People also tend to forget that you're a person, not just an incubator, and can have a conversation about something other than pregnancy. And they seem to think that "ooh getting bigger" can take the place of "hi, how are you?"

Oh god Sweet Pea, my hubby's ignorant rude twat uncle loudly announced in the pub on Christmas eve 'so then Emilycee you've been putting some weight on then!' I snappily asked him if he meant to be so rude then turned my back on him. Rude ignorant old bastard... Next person that says 'Hello fatty' - just reply 'hello knobhead!'

And don't get me started on the silly comments MIL has made - I'm going to drop kick her too if she doesn't shut it! (anyone else getting the Pregnancy RAGE?!) - I am usually such a friendly, happy person too! (Thank god for being able to release on mumsnet!):-)

Haha if it wasn't for my hubby and mumsnet I may be bald lol