am I just over worrying over nothing?

[willow38]

I will be 11 weeks on Monday with my 3rd child. I had a scan at 6+ weeks due to bleeding (common throughout my pregnancies) which went well & am due my dating scan on 9th Jan. Ive had nausea, sore boobs & tiredness since dicovering pregnant again but for the least couple of weeks these have died off completely & dont really feel pregnant at all. With my other two babies my nausea progressed over the weeks until around 14 weeks & was also physically sick but not with this one. I understand no two pregnancies are the same but with my first pregnancy (this is now the 6th, following 3 miscarriages) I went to the 12 week scan & discovered the baby had died at about 9 weeks & had to go on to have a D&C. Because I no longer feel pregnant im so worried that I will go to this scan on the 9th & discover the same. Ive not been sleeping well for the past few days through worrying about this & my partner thinks im being silly.

Anyone else felt similar/had symptom die off early on & been ok?

Thanks

I hope everything goes well. I think it's common for everything to ease at this stage. The placenta starts to take over which can make everything get better suddenly.

When is your 12 week scan? Any chance of a scan on Monday at your EPAU? Explain your history including bleeding in this pg and prev multiple mc. Or go private? I understand your concern.

Look at it this way, if the baby has died there is absolutely nothing you have done to have caused it (I'm assuming you're not a drug addict, etc), and there's nothing you can do until you either cm naturally or have the scan and schedule the d&c. But, I have to think that undue stress and worry might adversely effect a living fetus, and there's every chance it's still going strong in there. If you're too worried to wait and see the only thing to do would be to book a private scan ASAP, but then with your history you'd be likely to worry that the fetus died between that private scan and the nhs one.

Try to get your mind occupied with something else and continue to do everything you should be doing in pregnancy. Everything else is out of your hands.

I hope everything's fine.

I had a similar loss of symptoms, went for an early scan and all was ok.

Best of luck x

wispa how can you say that if the baby's died "there's absolutely nothing you could have done" and then later say that undue stress and worry might adversely affect it. Surely that's at best contradictory and at worst really not helpful.

OP right now there's nothing that you can do to change what might or might not be going on. Your best recourse is to try to keep busy and keep your mind off it, and try to organise a scan either NHS or private on Monday. Fingers crossed for you. I don't have a good news story for you as when this happened to me it was bad news. Hopefully others will be along with better stories.

I think your feelings are normal for anyone who's had mc, iv had 3 dc then 2 mc then another dc and currently pg with dc5 and after the mc I had I was watching every symptom I had, over analysing every aspect of my pregnancy until I started feeling the kicks, but they did come, I'll second wispa. Try to keep occupied with other things, stressing over something you have no control over is no good for you i know easier said than done and contrats on your pg and good luck for 9th Jan

I have a friend who openly said she was sure she had miscarried early for this reason as she compared it to her previous pregnancy and it turned out she was wrong, baby was fine. I hope everything is fine for you.x

I had a missed miscarriage earlier this year (second pregnancy) and was still having normal pregnancy symptoms, as my body still thought I was pregnant therefore producing all the hormones etc. Losing symptoms isn't a sign of things going wrong, they tend to come and go throughout the pregnancy particularly at the end of first trimester when the placenta is kicking in. Good luck for your scan.