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Just found out im pregnant I have an 8 month old..advice?

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astra1 · 26/12/2013 23:10

Hi there,

This is my first thread im just looking for some advice or people that have been in the same situation!
I just found out im pregnant and I have a baby who is 8months old! Its a shock to both me and my husband he seems more calm than me! I live so far from my family and im so scared and nervous if ill be able to look after and afford 2 young babies! Any thoughts and advice or reassurance all will be okay would be great!! thank you xx

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Queenofknickers · 26/12/2013 23:19

Congratulations! There is 18 months between my 2 DS so similar - they are SO lucky to have each other - never lonely, always for a friends etc. you WILL survive, it will be fine xxxxx make sure you get/accept all help, childcare, rest etc - now is NOT the time to be a hero! But you will manage - you just do. Big hugs to you xxx

Oubliette0292 · 26/12/2013 23:20

Congratulations on your news.

I had my DD and DS close together (they are 19 months apart). I was terrified by the prospect of having 2 really small children when I found out I was pregnant with DS (like you my family is a long way away). Now I wouldn't have it any other way - they are incredibly close to each other and (mostly) get on really well.

Queenofknickers · 26/12/2013 23:21

Ps DS2 was NOT planned by the way and I think I was in shock for about the first 6 months!!!! It's fine to be worried, even unhappy etc but for me it did all work out x

DramaAlpaca · 26/12/2013 23:25

Congratulations! You'll be fine, busy & tired, but fine . There is a 16 month gap between DS1 & DS2 & they have always been really good friends. We also lived far from our families, but had a good network of friends & we all helped each other out. The boys are now 18 & 20 and have a younger brother - yes, I had another one a couple of years later, so it couldn't have been too bad!

RandomMess · 26/12/2013 23:28

I had a 14 month gap between my middle two.

My advice is a double pushchair and another cot do not consider putting the older one in a bed!!!

I found it fine, at least they both still napped which helped.

makemineapinot · 26/12/2013 23:30

15months between my 2, guard work in early stages but so worth it as they get older as into similar things and always have a friend/partner in crime! Good luck and enjoy x

seafoodudon · 26/12/2013 23:30

Exactly the same thing. Same gap. Due in feb. I cried when I found out, dh pretty chuffed at the news. Big shock and a really bad bad move career wise. However now well in to the last trimester and used to the idea- actually getting quite excited. Will let you know how it goes...

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 26/12/2013 23:34

I'm 38 weeks and my DS just turned one at the end of November so I'll have a 13 month gap

My sister is 20 weeks with a three year old son already

Having just spent Christmas with them, I'm convinced a short age gap has a lot to recommend it. My nephew doesn't have any naps during the day now, runs everywhere and talks incessantly.

He's adorable, but I'm knackered keeping up with him and we've only been here two days!

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astra1 · 26/12/2013 23:38

Thanks all, Yea there will be 17m gap! Its JUST recent news so still adjusting like someone said I most likely will be for 6months! Family are 500miles up north! Just wish we lived up there! Thanks :) xxx

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Showy · 27/12/2013 09:59

Oh congratulations. I can understand you must be in shock, but as lots of other people have said, there are some advantages. And you'll find that as time goes on and you start concentrating on those advantages, you'll probably come to see it as the better option. This is self preservation, but you do come to realise that it's not all bad and even if there are downsides, another loved and wonderful baby is never a bad thing. That tends to trump all.

I worried about having a bigger age gap (I have 4 years between mine) but when it all progressed as these things do, I came out of it utterly convinced it's the best way to do it. My brother had an unintentional 12 month gap between his and is convinced that's the best way. The point is, there is NO best way, only what becomes normal for your family.

You'll be just fine. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

xxMrsCxx · 27/12/2013 10:17

Small age gap is great ... I had twins and then another exactly 18mths later. They were more like triplets ..... To be fair, I had my parents in the same town which was a BIG help. You will be fine though so don't worry and enjoy your pregnancy

islasmummy2013 · 27/12/2013 22:13

Congratulations! My little girl is nearly 11 months and due no2 in a month today! I also live far away from my family (160 miles away) being heavily pregnant with a little one too look after is hard but im looking forward to having two babies grow up close :) xx

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