pregnancy turmoil

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I am 6 weeks pregnant which was completely unplanned. (Had a short gap between nexplanon removal and starting pill) and of course the one time that was not protected I would of been ovulating. I have a son who is 5 and my partner of 2 years has a daughter of same age. We don't live together as we have been saving for our own home and he currently lives with his parents. Due to the fact we do not live together and both have children to our exs which of course is far from ideal, this is the reason that the pregnancy was far from ideal. My partner has from day one said we can't continue the pregnancy but has told me he will support me either way. We have a strong relationship and even though we don't live together we are both very happy and wish we had found each other years ago. I always say that I would only have another child if I was married and properly settled as the thought of 2 children to two different fathers and me on my own sounds so very hard.

I just really can't imagine going through a termination, I have had a consultation and have a date to go back to take tablets and go back for the procedure two days later. But I'm struggling with that as I just keep thinking, what's an ideal time? We both work hard and are financially able to cope, and I keep thinking I would regret it as I think we would only end up wanting a child together in future and what if we can't conceive when we are older, we are both 30.

I'm in complete turmoil and I know my partner wants the termination.

Anyone with any helpful advice or words of wisdom would be helpful. Thanks.

If you see your future with your partner then in your shoes I would absolutely take his views into account.
Whilst it is absolutely your body & therefore your decision..in his position,I would want to choose the time when I became a parent again, especially as the circumstances are not ideal.
A termination at this stage IMO is stopping a process that has barely started.

Its a real toughie. Ive recently been in a similar position, and I just couldn't do it. I feel terribly guilty for what Im putting my DP through, but I just couldn't. And at the end of the day, Im the one who has to sign the consent form and undertake the procedure.
Thankfully he is still here, and Im so glad.
Nobody can make this decision for you, and you have to do what ultimately, you can live with.
My only advice is to think long and hard. xx

OP I've not quite understood the whole 'unplanned pregnancy' thing but I have been in that position twice now and fully appreciate that these things happen. First time I was young, failed contraception, knew in my heart I did not want a baby- outcome: termination. Second time, same partner (is now my DH) only took the once (as it does!) didn't really want a baby but knew I didn't want a termination -we currently have a 3 yr old who we struggled to conceive- outcome: 30 wks pregnant and now happy although its taken me a while to reach this point. Given that you already have a child, I think possibly you will know deep down whether you could go through with a termination. Although I knew I didn't want a baby the first time it was not an easy decision to make by any means, and someone once told me it was harder to decide to terminate than to have the baby (at this stage it's easy to believe its just cells) but you have to make the right choice for you. Please don't terminate for your DP only, it has to be something you decide for yourself also as you don't want resentment to begin to tear your relationship apart. Thinking of you X

If you do terminate there is no going back, are you are sure there will be no regrets or what ifs? You don't want to live with that pain when you are feeling very ambivalent and not sure you can go through with the termination.

This time 2 years ago I sat in a hospital on New Year's Eve having to take the tablets again while m at the time boyfriend took out the girl I found out he cheated on me with.

He blagged me into doing it and I hated him for ages!!

2 years later I am with the love of my life and six weeks to go! And although I still think about the termination and it does hurt a little now it was the best thing iv done.

This pregnancy wasn't planned. I had been on the pill and had an implant put in while I was pregnant, my partner didn't ever want kids but told him I couldn't go thru it again. And he's still here xxxx