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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Am I pregnant

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chloelouise291212 · 22/12/2013 15:44

Firstly sorry of this is in the wrong area admin may move it

So I'm 18 and partner is 21 been with each other a year and lived alone with each other for 6 months my dad and partner don't really get along for a honestly pathetic argument which happend 4 months ago but my dad has said he'll start building bridges in new year...

Anyway my P is due on the 2nd of December and well now it's the 22nd but my cycle has always been a little messed up and we have been in this position before for about a week now I've been very emotional either crying or hitting the roof at nothing I have extreme hunger but when it comes to eating I feel sick breasts are starting to feel tender and getting small stomach cramps getting a hpt on Monday

So with the info do you think I will have more than a surprise for my parents on christmas and how the hell do I go on about telling them

Please don't go on about my age I work in a nursery always babysitting and brought up my autistic younger brother when my mum was diagnosed with depression

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IAmTheOneWhoKnocks · 22/12/2013 15:47

Well we can't tell you, you'll have to pee on a stick to find out.

I doubt anyone on here would go on about your age, plenty of young mothers here or mothers that had children at a young age. Good luck.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 22/12/2013 15:48

Why haven't you tested yet? Pee on a stick! It's the only way to find out.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 22/12/2013 15:49

And yes, no one here will criticise an unplanned pregnancy - plenty of us have had them

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chloelouise291212 · 22/12/2013 15:49

I'm buying a hpt tomorrow just scared the more I think about it the more I want the challenge of being a mother but my partner doesn't want to talk about it as much as me because he doesn't want to get his hopes up again

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ShreddedHoops · 22/12/2013 15:55

Does your partner hope you are pregnant? Essentially if you're both happy to have a baby, it shouldn't be top of your mind what your parents think, so please don't stress about that. You're relatively young to be a mum, but if you want it you will do just fine oh and yes pee on a stick right now!

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chloelouise291212 · 22/12/2013 16:07

He does he's 21 not and honestly ready for a family I had an mc about 2 month ago so he's a bit touchy on the subject although our world has just been crashed just been to the toilet to find spotting so now I'm pretty sure you can tell the atmosphere in here :(

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Skogkat · 22/12/2013 16:09

It is possible. We can't tell. I had those after having a very delayed period though.

No one will care less about your age. I gave birth to my first child aged 16, I don't think anyone would criticise you.

VJONES1985 · 22/12/2013 16:16

Even with spotting, it may not be over. Take a test asap unless the spotting turns into a proper period, of course.

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chloelouise291212 · 22/12/2013 16:23

Deffo getting a hpt first thing tomorrow I know I shouldn't but the more I think about it the more I want the role of motherhood to begin just hope this ain't another let down now

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duchesse · 22/12/2013 16:26

OP, if your partner doesn't feel ready then this is something you need to have a serious discussion about before rushing into. As you know from helping your mum with your brother, rearing a child is a very big thing and easier when there are at least 2 of you doing it.

As for your question, none of us can say! You need to take a test. And if you've already had a MC 2 months ago and now this uncertainty may I suggest you investigate some more reliable contraception? For both your sakes.

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chloelouise291212 · 22/12/2013 16:29

No he IS ready and ofc I know no one can say but seems as my mum is 22 miles away if like someone to talk to about all this! Also contreception I have anemia and low blood sugar which means I can't have injection implant or any of the pills all we can use is condoms I did not come on here expecting for people to make comments like that I wanted motherly advice

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duchesse · 22/12/2013 16:33

Ah right, I misunderstood something then. I thought you'd said he didn't feel ready and had been quiet since your MC.

VJONES1985 · 22/12/2013 16:34

I know how much you would like to be pg but the best thing to do is take a test and then if it's positive,you can decide whether you want to tell your parents yet or not.

duchesse · 22/12/2013 16:43

OK, if you wanted some proper motherly advice, (bearing in mind that I have an 18 year old daughter and a nearly 21 yo son, and that I had my son at the age of 25) (and obviously now this might no longer be applicable anyway) I would say don't have children early- you've been doing a lot in the last few years by the sounds of it and you could do with being you for a few years before signing up to another 20+ years of parenting. I helped my mother a lot with my younger siblings as she was quite unwell at times and not really able to look after them, so I had 7 years of being myself between leaving home at 18 and having my son.

Honestly? I wish I'd had longer being just me. I could have done with travelling, getting settled into a career, studying a bit more without smalls hanging off me, going out spontaneously, more trips to the cinema, the theatre, seeing friends. Of course I don't regret having my children but I wish I'd waited till my 30s. The advantage of having them early though is that you've finished bringing them up while you're still relatively young. But then you also run the risk of being a young grandmother and getting sucked into helping rear your grandchildren as well!

Anyway, this might be utterly redundant advice. I hope you get the result you want, OP. Children do have a way of cementing families together across the generations. I can't imagine your Dad would be cross for long with a grandchild around...

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