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Pg, tired with a trying toddler - how to cope?

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KeepingQuiet · 20/07/2006 19:13

I'm 6 wks pg, SAHM, toddler is almost 18mths

He has just started biting and hiting me
He is also pushing my face away or hitting me when nursing (only do this twice a day)

I am exhausted

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mabel1973 · 20/07/2006 19:45

poor you - I have a 19 month old and am 33 weeks pg, so can sympathise!
I can't really offer any advise, other than do you have any family or firends who could take him off you for a few hours.
If he still naps - then do try and nap at the same time (not always practical I know when you've got loads of stuff to do)
If it's any consolation, once you get past that 12 week (ish) mark it does get easier and you do feel like you can cope better and you will feel less drained.
Re: the biting and hitting, tbh it is fairly normal toddler behaviour, ours is going through a slapping phase, particularly when tired, it is hard to deal with when you are exhausted, but you have at leat make sure he knows it's wrong and upsets you. Do you have any local toddler groups that he could go to, as a distraction?

SenoraPostrophe · 20/07/2006 19:49

yes - have naps and hold your breath till 12 weeks (ish). it's much easier then. also make sure you're eating well, especially the iron (because lack of it can make you feel even more tired)

mind you, I'm 36 weeks (ish) and I'm still knackered.

PinkTulips · 20/07/2006 19:55

take vitamins for you and lots of walks for toddler. i'm 37 weeks with an 17 month old dd and it's most wearing when we're stuck in the house with her climbing the walls. don't be embarassed to go to bed when she does during the exhausting early stages, and make sure you sit dh down and explain to him exactly how exhausting it is and that he needs to help you out, men don't really think until it's explained to them!

as for biting and hitting, it's frustrating and tiring but it's normal and as long as you make it clear the it's not acceptable behaviour it should ease over time (she says hopefully!)

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KeepingQuiet · 21/07/2006 19:26

Thanks, feeling a bit better today

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Charlee · 21/07/2006 19:51

i feel for you i got a 22 month old DS who has discovered the joys of taking his nappy off and decided he must cling to me at all costs and im 22 weeks pg!!!

He does the whole hitting thing to its so draining constantly telling him off so we swithced technique and just firmly say no and distract him then praise him for doing something hes allowed i.e playing with toys or reading a book ect.

as for the tired thing im not sure what to suggest i have the same problem i just try to go to bed early.

pol26 · 21/07/2006 20:15

I'm nearly 32 weeks and have a DD of 22 months... She is tiring but good on the whole. She screams, hits etc... We have really got to the tantrum stage and with the heat I have felt that I have been fighting a loosing battle!
I think with your hormones and everything its bloody hard to cope and you just need to rest as much as you can and get your first child into a great routine so you have plenty of time to sleep/rest etc... I put my DD down for a two hour sleep in the afternoon and I rest!!!
Good luck!

trinityrhino · 21/07/2006 20:17

I'm 12 weeks with a 15 month old who hits and throws things at the mo, I still feel sick and I am exhuasted

I'm sorry I have no advice but thought I would add that you are definitely not alone

trinityrhino · 21/07/2006 20:18

12 weeks pregnant obviously lol

curtaintwitcher · 21/07/2006 23:05

keeping quiet...total sympathies and it will pass quickly..I was the same last year and it cant have been that bad as am now 15 wks pg with a 2.9yr old and a 7mth old. Believe me it feels like hell at the time but once oyu get more energy back after 12wks it is easier.

jamiesam · 21/07/2006 23:09

When pg with ds2 and whatever this one is , I had to start doing more with the boys, to distract them and me from how rubbish I felt - and had advantage of tiring them out so more likely to sleep, or play nicely, when we got home... It does get better (god willing, this weather will break one day soon too).

Ds2 was a dreadful hitter for a while, normally picked on same little girls which was very , but he DID grow out of it...

Carameli · 23/07/2006 14:38

you have my sympathies, its really hard work especially in the early days with a toddler. My dd is 2.10yrs and although a fab good girl most of the time really took it out of me during the 1st trimester. Like others here make sure you REST!!! when he is having a nap. I used to get into my own bed once I had ut her to bed and unplug the phone. Its was the only way I could cope.
with the biting and hiting I agree with others it just normal behaviour and will pass, I used to just say a firm 'no, I don't like you hitting' I also found going to see my mum was a great distraction when I was tired as dd loved the excitement of seeing granny.

nothing new that hasn't been said before but just to let you know it does get better, I am now 19wks and still sometimes get in a temper with dd if she is in a stroppy mood but I just leave the room for a bit and we both manage to calm down

kdinas · 23/07/2006 14:57

I am 24 weeks pregnant with a fractious 3 year old and 15 month toddler.
My toddler is going through the pushing hitting and biting stage too, and for some reason saves his best efforts for me, lucky me eh!
I usually leave them to play together, which works for about ten minutes, and then the fighting and screaming starts. The best thing is to get them out for a walk, this tires out the three year old, and gives the toddler something else to think about. Even Sainsbury's is exciting for my two! The local library is a favourite too.
Also if they are out alot, they can't make any mess in the house for me to clean, bonus!
It does get easier after 12 weeks, just because the constant sleepiness and nausea eases. Dvds are great!

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