Please someone help me hold it together

[Tomkat79]

20 week scan tomorrow at 20+4. Could quite easily throw up right now through fear. Spent the first 12 weeks on constant knicker and symptom watch post MC and now this.

Thoughg felt flutters from around 16-18 weeks, mw heard hb at 17 but since then hardly anything. Surely baby would be getting stronger so I'd feel it more by now? Starting to wonder if it's all been wind and then I'll feel like a total fraud.

Have managed to convince myself that it's all gone wrong. So much so that almost tempted to cancel the appointment and wait it out! God I'm typing this and the 1% left of me that's rational about it thinks I've gone totally crazy.

I just wish it would move!!! Just a tiny little kick to reassure me.

Sorry you are feeling so anxious. It might be that you have a placenta that's at the front (anterior?). That can cushion the baby's movement so you don't feel a huge amount until much later on.

Don't cancel your scan, though! You'd only have to rearrange it for soon ish anyway. Will there be someone with you on the day?

Hi bauble, I had considered an Anterior placenta but seems weird that felt it then nothing.

Yep my lovely almost as neurotic as me but not quite DH will be with me x

Maybe you have an anterior placenta, means the placenta is at the front of your womb and it's harder for the kicks to be felt through both uterine lining and placenta I believe?

I may be talking rubbish but I have a friend who has this and she wasn't feeling kicks till well after 20 weeks.

Also, is it your first? If so it's not uncommon to feel kicks later.

I feel for you, I have also been on knicker watch after two MCs. Feeling more confident after my scan but I don't think I will really stop checking till I give birth!

X post. Great minds!

I have an anterior placenta and felt light fluttering from 18 weeks but didn't feel a proper kick until about 26 weeks. I was terrified before 20 week scan and actually bought a home Doppler so I could hear the heartbeat myself. Everything turned out fine at scan and now at 30 weeks she is kicking me and rolling around constantly. Hardly got any sleep last night! Good luck with it all.

Thanks for all the support. I have a 7 yo DS and to be honest I think I've forgotten how it was then. That pregnancy was totally different as I naively thought MC happened to other people and I was just super chilled for 9 months.

I'd thought about a home Doppler, I've even considered the app, but worry that I'd surgically attach myself to it!

Just to add my experience - mines a twin pg, and I got told that I'd probably feel movement earlier than usual, then saw a thread about twin movements where everyone else seemed to have felt kicking from implantation onwards. I haven't felt much at all and am past 20 weeks now, so I was nicely worried. My scan yesterday showed two very lively babies and..... one of the placentas as anterior, which was cushioning a lot of it. So all that worry for nothing!

Hope the scan goes well tomorrow Tomkat.

I have the same situation - anterior placenta, hardly felt a thing until about 21-22 weeks despite all scans (at 13w, 15w and 20w) showing a heartbeat and a very active dancing foetus! I'm now 24 weeks and he's only just starting to get busy enough for me to regularly feel him.

DS is 5, I remember him being really active in the womb and feeling him around 17 weeks but obviously the memory plays tricks - he probably followed the same pattern.

Would the fact that have a jelly belly (a good sz 16!) cushion movement too do you think? It's good quite a bit of adipose tissue to kick through!

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Hi, hope you're ok. I felt lots of tapping or swirling from 16-19 weeks and then nothing except maybe once every other day for the last week.

Today was our 20 week scan and sonographer said the placenta had moved to front so that was why felt less.

All the best for tomorrow.

Thanks TK, just read your post on other thread and see you're now in my worry boat!

Hope the hospital can give you more info tomorrow. Sorry the sonographer wasn't very helpful. They are so hit and miss. At my 12 week scan I burst into tears as soon as I saw the machine and I'm not sure she knew what to do with me!

Swirling and tapping is exactly how it felt in the same weeks you said too..will be interested to see if it is anterior.

Thanks Tomkat, you will check back in tomorrow, wont you?

Yes indeed...not sure what I'd do without MN. You too x

I had an anterior placenta too with my ds, and remember seeing the scan and seeing my ds bouncing around like crazy - he was an incredibly active baby in utero. And yet I could hardly feel a thing! The occasional flutter when he was in a position for me to feel it and that was it until around 24 weeks as I recall.

Hopefully you'll be in a position to enjoy your scan tomorrow.

Was in exactly the same place as you, even down to thinking I'd had movement. I'm 22w tomorrow and have only had kicks the last 2 days, and even then they are very light and gentle.
Sonographer said that I wouldn't feel kicks due to my anterior placenta and all of my "extra padding", definitely feel calmer now I know about the placenta. Got to have my repeat anomaly on Friday as bean was naughty and in the wrong position!

Well. All that worry for nothing. One wriggly little bubba for team pink!!!

Thanks so much for all the hand holding xx

Very glad to hear that Tomkat and congrats on your girl!

Congrats!

Hurrah! So pleased for you TomKat!