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Ridiculous Gender Query

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HandragsNGladbags · 17/12/2013 19:12

I am 20 weeks with DC3.

We have two DD's, and decided not to find out what we were having. We haven't found out for any of them. Neither of us is at all bothered what we have this time round, nor were we when we had the DD's.

However...

We had our scan yesterday. Me and DH are both positive we saw a willy. it was in the right place and seemed really obvious. It also wasn't waving all around the place like I would expect a cord to be. The sonographer laughed (we hadn't said anything) and asked if we were expecting to see anything else after she had done all the medical bits.

I asked DH if he wanted to know, as I thought it bloody obvious, and he said no so I didn't push it.

But now I feel a bit odd. I feel like I am convinced we are having a DS but we may not be, and I don't want to get used to the idea of one and then have something different pop out. And the worst thing is I REALLY am not bothered if it is a boy or a girl - genuinely will be over the moon with either - so I don't know why I feel so fidgety.

I have thought about asking DH to go for a 4D scan - but in my heart I still want a surprise.

Silly baby possibly showing me his bits

Anyone been in a similar situation? Or is it just me being a crazy pregnant lady?

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Writerwannabe83 · 17/12/2013 19:18

Oh no, what a horrible situation to be in!!
Naughty baby!!!

I had a Gender scan at 16 weeks and there was no mistaking that baby was a boy!! He opened his legs and there it was, waving around for us all to see The Sonographer didn't actually have to 'tell us' we were having a boy as it was so obvious

I'm sorry your sonographer wasn't more discreet if she knew you didn't want to know the sex- although I do appreciate that in some cases, especially with boys, accidental viewing may occur. There's no controlling how those babies are going to move whilst the Scanner is above them.

If it was me, I'd HAVE to know - I wouldn't waste your money on a 4D scan though, just have a normal 2D sexing scan. At least that way, even though you'll know the sex you'll still have the wonderful joy on the day of the birth of seeing all your babies beautiful features for the first time. During my Gender scan the Sonographer asked me if I wanted to have a quick peek at his face in 4D but I said absolutely not! I don't want to know what he looks like until he gets here

poocatcherchampion · 17/12/2013 19:21

yes me!
I was convinced I saw the two white lines that apparently mean a girl for dc2 and I really wanted to find out. but dh didn't believe I knew and wanted to keep the surprise, so we did. but I was convinced all the way through and was finding it hard to imagine a boy (already had a girl so could imagine the same again)

I had ...

a girl!

but she is totally different to her sister - fsir and blue eyed and her sister is dark and brown eyed. both beautiful of course

Shroomboom · 17/12/2013 19:26

Exactly that happened to us too!
I went for a scan on my own, and asked for them not to tell me whether it's a boy or a girl, but at one point they were focusing on the umbilical cord which was going between its legs. Anyway, they had the scanner there for a good couple of minutes, and I basically saw what it was.
I didn't say anything, but came home and couldn't stop thinking about it! We would have been thrilled with either, as you said, but I spent about a week getting my head around what I thought we were having as it's different to what I expected! For exactly the same reasons as you mentioned I then asked for them to confirm the gender at a later scan - I didn't want to be mentally 'prepared' for one gender and then find out I was wrong!
As it turned out I was right, and dh and I are thrilled, as we would have been either way . We're keeping it under wraps though, for now it's our little secret and I love it that way! We have just over five weeks before everyone else will find out too

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HandragsNGladbags · 17/12/2013 19:26

Aha writer that's what I mean! Baby was half facing us I think and I'm sure I could see a willy! My DM made me laugh asking of I could see any other "appendages" but all I could see was what seemed to me to be an absolutely clear picture of it waving around in it's glory!

I was the opposite of you poocatcher I thought I saw balls for DD2 but luckily kept that to myself. DD2 is very lovely and definitely testicle free.

Clearly I can't be trusted.

You are right about the 4d though - I don't want to see their face even if I am starting to get an odd obsession over genitals!

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cookiewoo · 17/12/2013 19:28

I was convinced I seen a willy at the 20 wk scan with my 2nd DC. I didn't say anything to my DH as we both wanted it to be a surprise but a few minutes after we left the appointment he said to me, 'Did you see anything? I think I saw a willy'. So, we thought, maybe it was a boy. We didn't say anything to anyone else as obviously we weren't at all sure.
We ended up having .....a girl! I have no idea what we had both seen. Maybe it was the cord?!

Slippersandacuppa · 17/12/2013 19:32

Yep, I definitely saw a willy at DC3's 20 week scan. She doesn't have a willy. Now preggers with number four and they turned the screen away from me at the scan so no idea. Congrats!

TwerkingNineToFive · 17/12/2013 19:38

My dp thought there was a willy on dd's scan. Must have been the cord.

Strongecoffeeismydrug · 17/12/2013 20:10

I saw this baby's genitals on the screen before the sonographer even had chance to ask us if we wanted to know.
Lucky we were both excited to find out .2 mins later little madam stuck two fingers up at us clearly on the screen.
The sonographer gave us a freebie photo of that shot as he found it so amusing.

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HandragsNGladbags · 17/12/2013 20:11

Oh this is making me feel much better!! Plenty of people seeing phantom peni and plenty seeing them for real.

So I can't really know can I?!

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rachyconks · 17/12/2013 20:12

I don't know how you all see this stuff!! I can't even make out the important body parts, even when the sonographer points them out to me. It all just looks blob like :-(

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HandragsNGladbags · 17/12/2013 20:21

This was the first one rachy. I could see backbone, kidneys, femurs, the lot.

With the last two I could barely identify the difference in stomach and head!

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AHardDaysWrite · 17/12/2013 20:30

I was convinced dc1 was a girl on the scan - we didn't find out but there were lots of between the leg shots and I never saw a willy.

DS came out 20 weeks later extremely well endowed!!

With dc2 we asked to find out and it was a girl that time - and very clear once you've had it pointed out to you.

seafoodudon · 17/12/2013 20:40

DH convinced he didn't see a penis at our 20 week scan (we didn't want to find out). He said as much and sonographer insisted there was no way that he could have seen or not seen anything because she didn't know herself/hadn't looked in that area. It struck me as really weird that things like a cleft lip are searched for on a scan, but whether or not the genitals are there/in tact etc is only looked at if parents ask to know sex?

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