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Pregnant and engaged - when to get married?

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BelleHelene · 17/12/2013 14:54

We were originally thinking of getting married in October 2014, but now I'm pg and due in August - I don't think it would be much fun breastfeeding and looking after a 2 month old at the wedding!

What is a realistic amount of time after the birth to have the wedding? I want to have lost a reasonable amount of pg weight, but I've no idea what would be an ideal age of the baby to have the wedding, or if this would even make a difference? Sorry I'm a bit naive about this as its my first time (pregnancy and wedding!). Having it before thie birth isn't an option due to house moves etc

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IAmTheOneWhoKnocks · 17/12/2013 15:59

I'm going for 6 months after the birth, enough time to have baby hopefully not glued to my breast and be able to express/wean.

Feelingfatty · 17/12/2013 16:26

Hmm I would wait until dc will be at least one as then they won't be breast feeding (or of they still are you can express and not have super sore boobs!!) you will have plenty of time to get rid of pg weight without worrying and you'll be happy for someone else to take baby for you during day and night.

PuppyMummy · 17/12/2013 16:44

I am in same situation, we were engaged but wanted to concentrate on baby first!

Im due May 2014 so we will be getting married jul/aug 2015. I wanted a year to get organised bearing in mind we hav a new baby too and for baby to be 'part' of the wedding.

moobaloo · 17/12/2013 20:24

I don't know but I would probably allow a year as I feel that, for me at least, 6 months would not be long enough to get used to being a mum let alone get ready for a wedding!

So I think I'd leave it at least a year, maybe a year and a half, so that little one could be there and toddling about and you'll have plenty of time to get used to motherhood, get to your ideal weight without stressing and organise

Congratulations!

PenguinsDontEatStollen · 17/12/2013 20:29

I would probably have allowed a year. It definitely took 6 months for the weight to start shifting, and you don't want that to be a focus of the early months with your first if it will bother you.

Plus if you are breastfeeding you sholdn't be tooo tied to the baby in the day.

Plus you might have reached the point where a couple of nights away sounds like heaven and you feel properly 'honeymoon level' sexy again (this does happen sooner for lots of people, but it's also perfectly normal for it to take a year even though you do have a sex life prior to that).

All of those are focused on the wedding though, not getting married IYSWIM. For getting married - ie. making that commitment to one another - you could do that any time you want to!

McBaby · 17/12/2013 20:56

We had baby Aug 12 got married August 13 :) it worked for us .... And found out no 2 was due the day after our wedding :)

AngelsLieToKeepControl · 17/12/2013 21:02

I got married when I was 6 months pregnant. We weren't planning it so soon but we just wanted it all done before ds arrived, it took 3 months from deciding to doing it. I'm not sure we would have got around to it if we waited, something else always crops up when you have dc.

Mrswellyboot · 17/12/2013 21:07

Would you get married before? Might be nice to (I am an old fashioned sod)

Congrats

justhayley · 17/12/2013 23:01

Lol Mcbaby I really had to think about your post (I have severe pregnancy brain). Thought you were totally amazing getting married the day after giving birth then thought but how could u find out you were pregnant again 2 days later - iv actually sat for a good 3 mims thinking about this lol. Jesus I literally think my brain had stopped working.

I was thinking the same due July but was planning to be married Dec 14, wondering if it's best to make it the following year as id rather not look shattered and leak all over my dress lol. Not sure yet though, it's a tuffy

Pooka · 17/12/2013 23:05

Why not have a quick registry do with the 2 of you and a couple of witnesses. Then have a blessing/reception when your baby is about 1.

That way you are married and post-natal slippage in wedding plans doesn't matter so much.

Pooka · 17/12/2013 23:09

I too am a traditional sod. Plus I've never been in a position financially or in terms of time/commitment to feel I would have been keen on arranging a wedding in the 10 years since I had first child (then second, then third).

Dh and I had a quiet do with just us just before I conceived eldest dc.

We he always intended to have a party a while after our wedding, but we never got round to it! But then, we had always wanted a quiet wedding before we had dcs.

mousmous · 17/12/2013 23:12

resgistry office now and big party when baby is a bit older?

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