Mother's day trip to a farm lambing day ... what do I say?

[fisil]

My mum has suggested that we all go to a farm which is having a lambing day on Mother's Day. I will be 10 weeks, so not telling anyone yet. The thing is that ds will love it, so I don't want to let him out.

I can't go, though, can I?

Any good excuses, anyone?

[squirmyworm]

I'd tell her - awful timing but needs must in my view

[SoupDragon]

Yes, you can go. I believe that you must simply stay well away from the lambs. It's contact with the amniotic fluid/afterbirth that is risky so it's recommended that you don't touch the sheep/lambs (or assist in any deliveries!).

Have you done any internet reseaarch to be sure about the recommendations?

[GeorginaA]

Come down with a horrible "migraine" on the day and get dh to take them all?

[twiglett]

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[SoupDragon]

Here

[Janh]

fisil, this is defra's advice. It sounds as if soupie's advice is good, you're OK as long as you don't touch anything.

However if ds is likely to touch things and then climb all over you maybe you should take the coward's way out as Georgina suggests and be struck with an awful headache that day!

[fisil]

Thanks Soupy. I think I am too nervous having read that - I am not usually an anxious person, but I seem to just become hypercautious during early pg - I think I'd blame myself too much if anything went wrong, however much anyone assured me it was not connected.

The trouble is that dp might not be there anyway and besides which, it would be very noticeable if I wasn't right in there holding the lambs, feeding them, helping ds with them - basically whatever is on offer, my family would just naturally expect me to be joining in.

I think I might have to say something to my Mum - maybe leave it until the last minute, though.

[squirmyworm]

I know exactly what you mean fisil - I was quite gung ho in the last 6 months but in the first three I was positively neurotic. I even went for a toxoplasmosis test because I was getting compulsive about washing my hands when I'd been near the cats

[dinosaur]

I'd tell your mum if I was you. My cousin's a sheep farmer and I know his wife was practically confined to the house when she was pregnant during the lambing season.

[Jaybee]

The 'lambing farm' near us has large signs warning pregnant women not to enter the lambing sheds. So even if you do go you probably won't get anything out of it and it will look strange that you don't want to go in. I think I would have to tell her - or suggest that she takes him on her own so you can have a relaxing bath etc. (as it is mother's day!!)

[Blu]

Fisil, congratulations! Agree with suggestions below, but you could be a bit more vague and say you think you 'might' be pregnant, not sure, if you don't want to tell her for definite.

Is the farm near Wimbledon? (interested cos I'd love to take DS)(sorry if that's a cheeky request under the circumstances!)

[SoupDragon]

Tell your mum that you're pregnant - it will solve all your problems. We had to tell my parents about DS2 when I was only about 8 weeks as I put my back out badly, went to stay with them and had to explain why I couldn't take strong painkillers. They were brilliant and never uttered a word to anyone about it.

[fisil]

Blu, no it's near Stevenage. Sorry!

Thanks for all your advice. I will tell my parents the night before, and get them to help us to fiddle an excuse so that we don't have to tell the rest of the family!