Can't decide whether to find out the gender

[DontLetTheMugglesGetYouDown]

2nd pregnancy, we found out with DS and tbh I found it nice to help with the bonding process. I thought I wanted to find out this time but not so sure now. It feels like everyone is resigned to the fact I'll have a boy and they seem slightly disappointed - if we find out it is a boy I don't want to feel like I'm delivering bad news iykwim.

Anyone else unsure?

Also I'm pretty sure DP wants to find out. How would you compromise on that?

Oh dear - I think it's like opening your presents before a Christmas - why would you do it?

Im in same predicament op. I have 2 wonderful ds'. I didnt find out with either of them and im fed up of other people (my mOther!) Harping on about this baby being a girl. Its making me feel guilty about even being ok about having a girl. I almost want another boy out of defiance!! I dont want people to think ive found out thererfore i must secretly want a girl. Either would be amazing! Im blessed to be having this baby at all xx

I found out with both of my children. I'm impatient and couldn't wait to buy gender-specific clothes, bedlinen, etc

But you will find out at some point anyway Bourdic. That's what I thought with DS anyway.

Know how you feel Pussycat, I feel like telling everyone I'm desperate for another boy just to piss them off! In reality I'd be happy with either, I just want it to be healthy.

Tell me about delivering bad news I am 13+5 with baby number 4 having 3ds's I feel like this one is also a boy which although i would love a girl am more than happy with as I have had bleeding and just want a healthy baby, but my whole family want a girl and are even referring to the baby as her! they are going to be s gutted :) nevermind lol!

I was like this. At the 20 week scan when all was checked I asked if she could tell, when she said no she couldn't see I was upset so decided I needed to know.

I have a ds and I'm having a dd this time. Although would have been perfectly happy with a boy, I couldn't wait. I'm very impatient, plus I like to be organised.

We didn't find out this time, and I'm so glad. I'm 37 weeks now and we're really excited to see what we're having, as is everyone else.

We found out with DS but didnt tell anyone. It was lovely being able to make the announcement when he was born.

We have found out this time we're expecting a girl and have told a few people. To those that have made comments about 'one of each you dont need anymore now' i've just said this baby is our last no matter what sex it is. I've found it really good to know this time as running around after DS means i dont feel i've had much time to really bond/connect with baby so at least knowing she is a girl helps with that.

I didn't find out with my first 2 and then did with no3. I have a compulsion to know what I'm having this time as it's twins and I really feel the need to be prepared. I do like the idea of a surprise but I've already had enough of them this pregnancy and I'm only 14wks

I found out with all 3 of mine (all boys) I didn't care if I was delivering "bad" news to everyone else to be honest. I was just over the moon that I was expecting

Could you ask the midwife to write down the sex on a piece of paper for you and fold it up instead if telling you? That way you can decide if/when you find out what you're having

CoffeeQueen beat me to it! I was going to suggest getting the sonographer to write it down.

We were going to keep it a surprise, but when they offered to tell us at the scan it was just so tempting... so we asked her to write it down.

If I didn't have that scrap of paper I'd be tormenting myself that I should've found out, but as I know I can find out anytime if I really wanted to, it's the best of both

Only, she used a PINK highlighter... Double bluff?!?!?

Well I didn't find out with DD and now am pg with dc2 part of me thinks it would be nice to experience knowing this time and also to know if I can get rid of all the girlie baby clothes I've kept BUT I also think that whilst I say I don't mind what gender I do wonder if I found out it was another girl I'd be sad for the boy I'll never have (we'll stop at 2 I think). Whereas if I don't find out and then see a girl at the birth I know I'll just think she's perfect.

Wirh DD we found out but didn't tell anyone. With DS we didn't find out. If I were doing it again I would tell other people that I knew but was keeping it a secret but in actual fact I wouldn't find out.

I didn't find out with dd. For me, that was absolutely the right decision. The moment when the surgeon said "you've got a baby girl" was something I'll never forget. Having said that, each to their own. For others, finding out beforehand is the right thing.

Well DP is desperate to know so I think we are going to ask at the scan. I'm going to just have to put a protective layer on me and not let people's attitude get to me. No idea why anyone would ever be disappointed at a baby boy but obviously some people are!

Everyone said boy. EVERYONE. Would even refer to the baby as 'he'. Well, it looks like they were all wrong as yesterday we were told we are having a girl.

I don't give a shiny shit how anyone else feels, she is already my world.

Anyone who makes you feel like you're delivering bad news is an idiot! I don't think, in reality, people will actually be disappointed. Everybody loves a baby! Congratulations on your pregnancy!

shiny shit, i love it!!!

Go with your gut OP. If you dont want to find out, dont.
We cant wait to find out.
I dont see what the big deal about the 'surprise' is- it's either a girl or a boy,it's not like there are 10 options. You either have the surprise early, or on the day.I'd rather have it early! More time to bond with the girl or boy. AT the moment it's an 'it' and i cant wait to put a little personality on it.