Gender scan today... Nervous!

[HaleyDunphy]

Not nervous about gender, don't have a preference, but so nervous about seeing my baby.

Fingers crossed all is okay in there. No one knows we are going, and I'm not sure we're going to tell people what we're having anyway.

Deeeeeep breaths... This pregnancy has made me the most nervous person ever!

Best of luck Haley!!

I wouldnt tell people what you're having- personally- but it's such a personal thing isnt it! I prefer the excitement of the guessing game with other peoples babies, there's just no excitement if you already know what everybody else is having"!

how many weeks are you now?
My sonogorapher told me last week (at 13) that it was too early and to come back in at 16 weeks if i wanted to find out.. we might wait until the main 20 week scan though!

I've had 3 scans and i've been a nervous wreck before each- then the minute you see/hear the heartbeat it's so enjoyable! but i can udnerstand the nerves.. i was the least nervy person pre preggo, now i have turned into a freak. My own mother said 'welcome to motherhood, a constant worry for the rest of your life' haha

Good luck Hayley!

We were really undecided whether to find out the gender if the sonographer offered to tell us.
When she did offer, we asked her to write it on a bit of paper so we could decide later... 4 weeks on and were staying strong, still team yellow, but it might be my Christmas present to myself!

Do you have any feelings what your baby might be?

How exciting! Me and my husband had a Gender Scan at 16 weeks and knowing the sex just feels amazing. Knowing specifically that I have a little son wriggling around inside me just feels so special. It made the whole thing seem so much more real and my husband had tears in his eyes when we told. It was a really lovely moment. Good luck and enjoy your scan

I agree with you Wrtierwannabe, i'd imagine it feels so much more real to know what's inside you.. some say it's easier to bond too. I cannot wait to find out. I'm really hoping for a boy but if it's a girl we'll obviously be thrilled too!

I did find it easier to make an attachment to the pregnancy - suddenly it wasn't just a baby, it was our wonderful son. And as cheesy as it is, it makes me so happy to know I have a mini version of my husband growing inside me and I just can't wait to meet him It came as a surprise to me as I had a feeling it was a girl! but like I saiid, it was such a lovely moment when they told us he was a boy, I will never forget it and it will always be a very special memory

yeah and lots of people say that the 'surprise' during the scan is no less special than the 'surprise' at delivery- it's just the same surprise at a different time!

Still, it certainly seems that the world of mommas is evenly split between 'yes i want to know' and 'god no, there are so few surprises in life' camps.. it probably says a lot about a person, which camp they're in. I'm a project manager in work, so the idea of 'not knowing' until week 40/41/42 just freaks me out far too much!

Exactly - at the birth you get the overwhelming emotion if actually getting your baby and I don't think that is reduced at all just because the sex is known. The way I look at it is that me and my husband will now have two moments of overwhelming emotion, the finding out the sex and the actual birth Double bonus!!

I was always adamant that I didn't want to know whereas my DH did. However, due to my medical conditions I have to be scanned every 4 weeks so I concluded that realistically we were going to find out at some point. We decided we'd rather have a scan with the specific purpose of hearing the 'magic words' as opposed to accidentally finding out at a routine scan by either seeing the genitals ourselves or a sonographer accidentally letting it slip.

I'm so glad we found out

I didn't want to find out but H was so excited to that I have come around and I'm quite excited for it. I'm just being a bugger wrt thinking there will be something wrong... I'm 17 weeks tomorrow so we may not see anything but it will be nice just to see everything is okay.

I thought about getting the sonographer to write it down and then make a decision after, but I have no willpower! Thought it was such a nice idea though.

I thought it might be a boy, no idea why, but when I have dreams about it I'm always holding a girl! Everyone else says I'm having a boy.

Wish me luck, come on 2pm!!!

Also the place we're going has said if they can't determine it today, we can go back next week free of charge so fingers crossed!

What are you having?!?

She was 95% sure that it's a girl! But I'm not 100% sure because on one shot, there was a little something something there but she couldn't get that angle again, and every other angle looked like nothing so who knows!!!!

I think in general they are 'less' sure with girls for obvious reasons!
So are you going to go back in or are you happy enough to go with girl??

was it exciting?

most importantly babs is absolutely perfect obviously, so congrats! huge sigh of relief!!

I was v nervous just to see that there was still a baby! A little shocked just to see it again tbh!

Honestly, it was just a shock. As in, we were quiet just because all of a sudden 'it' becomes an actual someone! We can't stop talking about it now! I think I'm going to wait and see what the 20 week scan says but I think after 25 mins of rooting around in there that we can be pretty certain it's a girl! Thanks btw!

I have experience of both knowing and this time we don't know. With our two boys it was lovely knowing and I wouldn't have had the patience to wait. Plus it was I enjoyed buying all the lovely boys clothes and felt we could prepare for them.

I said I wouldn't find out with dc3 to experience what having a surprise feels like but when the 20 week scan came round I wanted to know. Turns out the hospital I'm at this time have a non disclosure policy and I'm actually really glad as it's kind of forced us not to find out. I know we could get a gender scan but I'd rather spend the money on baby things than for a piece of information we'll find out in March anyway. Obviously I won't know if I preferred knowing until March but so far I'm finding it really exciting not knowing what gender we've got in there! I thought it would bug me and I'd find it frustrating picking boys and girls names but I'm really surprised how enjoyable its been. It helps too that as we have 2 boys already I'm not getting stupid gender comments about wanting a girl or disappointment about another boy from people either.

I think your right Writer that knowing doesn't change the actual birth very much (though maybe I'll feel differently after this labour having a surprise?) - I certainly felt huge amounts of emotion when we finally met our two little boys and ultimately getting to know them is far more exciting than what bits they've got between their legs!

Good luck Haley hope they get a good look today :)

Haley congratulations!! I found out today that I'm having a little girl too

Congratulations ladylashes!! Nice little early Xmas present!!

At the moment,I keep changing my mind about whether I would wanna find out or not. I'm rubbish at waiting for things so would find it hard but I also think that not knowing is a nice surprise :-)

I was the same! I guess it's nice now as I feel like I can really bond with her now, but that's just because I've been so nervy and negative throughout my pregnancy so far. I think both finding out and not finding out have good points - I just got my arm twisted!