advice desperately needed

[coconut03]

Hi I have a 5 month old baby who was 9 weeks premature and I have just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant and I just don't know what to do I will be due 19 days after my little girl turns 1 I just don't know if I will cope please help

hi coconut,

I didn't want to read and run. I'm afraid I don't have any experience as I only have 1 DC, um sure someone with more experience of babies close together will be along soon, but from what I have read on here and family members having children close together it seems harder in some ways but also easier in others.

congratulations on your new baby and your pregnancy. just do whatever you feel is right for you and your family, whether that be continuing with this pregnancy or not.

Try and not panic...

Have you spoken to your partner, what are his thoughts?Is he very supportive?

It is always a shock to find out you are pregnant, even when the pregnancy was wanted, because it is such a big thing! It takes time adjusting to the idea sometimes.. Maybe you need a bit of time?

Is it because you are scared of delivering early again? Is it a financial issue? Is it because you are afraid you cant cope with 2 ? ( Im due in a week and have a 3 year old and Im terrified of how I will cope, I think its normal :))) !!) try and analyse why you are so worried, have a serious chat with your partner, and laying things down will already make you feel better.. Sometimes all you need is support. And remember those hormones make everything so much worse !

And if you really really really dont want another baby for whatever reason, you always have the option to terminate your pregnancy..

Good luck xxx

I've spoken to my partner and he is just as much in shock as me. I had an emergency caesarean last time and have been told by every medical professional I have seen to leave it at least a year to give my body to heal. Plus I'm just moving into my first home with my baby girl which is a two bedroom maisonette which happens to be on the third floor I barely manage up all the stairs with my little girl let alone another baby financially we struggle as it is and I'm worried the added pressure of another baby will make the struggle even harder I just can't imagine having another baby yet but at the same time I can't imagine getting rid of one either