Anyone else reached the end of their pregnancy tether?

[arabella2]

I was 36 weeks yesterday and it is this week that I really cannot cope with being pregnant anymore. Turning in bed is really difficult with a small person attached to me like a sack of potatoes, if sitting down I can't breathe properly, I was trying to walk round a shopping centre with braxton hicks and the baby sitting right on my bladder the other day, I am often moody, and last but not least I look AWFUL. Tired, fat and old.
There. So though I am scared of labour, I am looking forward to me and the baby parting such close company and him/her being born!!!
Anyone feel the same way?

I should add that I have been crying yesterday and today for smallish things, is this normal?? Just feel that people are only interested in me due to my being ds's mother (this includes dh) and am worried this is going to be magnified with the arrival of the new baby as relatives etc... come to claim their new relation with no thought as to how I might be feeling etc... I love my ds dearly but today I just feel that almost nothing in my life is about just me anymore. Dh does not understand at all and just makes things worse with sarcastic comments. I just feel unable to cope and am wondering how the hell I am going to cope with 2 if I carry on feeling so weepy (which I hope I don't).

Oh, I'm not in this situation at all (dd's 6 months now), but I just wanted to post and say poor you, and stick with it. If you can't make demands on people when you're 36 weeks with your second, when can you? They should realise how hard it is for you anyway. I think being weepy probably is really normal - I seem to remember i was all over the place - but if you're finding it hard to cope do you have a supportive midwife, gp or HV you can talk to? Hope you can get some rest and be more comfortable soon

You are completely normal. You will of course cope fine with 2 kids because we all do. However DH is a pig for being sarcastic.You DESERVE to be moody! You are 36 weeks preg. Get DH to stay in one evening with your toddler and go out with one of your friends and have a lovely time. And moan about men, eat chocolate, have a few drinks etc. Whatever you find relaxing. Be nice to yourself ( which is DHs job but he's not doing it very well)

Arabella2,

I am worried about coping with 2 too. Have you read 'Three shoes and one sock' ? - its about the transition from one to two. Actually initially it worried me to death - but not I think forewarned is forearmed.

I meant to say 'now' rather than 'not'

arabella2 I am with you totally on looking forward to being a separate entity to the little one ! I am so fed up with being pregnant. I am now 37 weeks and 3 days (who's counting ?!) and soooo fed up with being uncomfy and being unable to do things with dd properly. Roll on labour. Last night I had excruciating period type pains for about two hours when we had friends over for dinner and thought it might be it but nothing yet. Although I have been through labour once I am having trouble remembering exactly how I am going to feel in terms of pain.

yup!
39 + 5 today - how much longer!!! and the entire world is driving me mad with ' still here'comments, my mum keeps going on about how I'll be begging for a c section soon despite knowing my feelings about another c section etc etc
but in a mad way I'm also keen to keep ds2 inside for as long as possible so I can enjoy time with ds1, not have to get up so much at night, no nappies etc
can't win really can we?
no useful advice but hugs anyhow

I totally sympathise! Am nearly 35 weeks and have found this pregnancy sooooooooooo long. It's crawling along at a snail's pace. Feel like I'm moaning constantly: heartburn from hell (from 20 weeks, just like last pregnancy); a rib that feels like it must be fractured (with a very active baby constantly kicking it); backache; sore hips; sleepless nights; waking in the night and trying to decide whether to turn over to soothe my aching back and legs and risk the inevitable heartburn or whether to stay put; being breathless most of the time; feeling like I've climbed Mount Everest when I climb the stairs; nothing to talk about except for children and pregnancy stuff, no room in my head for anything else; not to mention the hormones ... don't remember this from last pregnancy but have been really moody and down this time... there I feel better now!

People talk about the sleepless nights to come with a newborn but I can't wait - I'm having them now anyway, I'd rather have them with a newborn but without all these hideous physical symptoms!!

How people sail through pregnancy and love being pregnant I'll never understand! Glad to hear I'm not the only one desperate for the end. Never thought I would welcome labour again!

I'm in the same boat too - 36 weeks and just started maternity leave this week and dh can't understand why I'm not overjoyed about not having to drag myself up in the mornings to go to work. But I just feel like i'm waiting around for this big event to happen (1st baby) and I'm getting more and more nervous about the birth. Don't really know what to do with myself - any ideas

I'm 36 weeks today and found out today that the baby's heading for 9lbs plus, and as I will have to have another c-section due to funny spine plus large baby, the date may be brought forward to 38 weeeks! I can't wait, like some of you esp Arabella I have appalling heartburn and terrible pelvic pain from the weight, while when baby moves it makes me yelp in pain. I dream about the food I want to eat afterwards as I can currently consume absolutely nothing without horrendous effects. Anything with fat in it makes me vomit, while alcohol scorches my throat. I know it will all end immediately, and I will be able to breathe again. But its all worth it, and the best thing after seeing the baby will be seeing dh made a father. Are any of you in East London, by the way? I know no one here who is pregnant at the same time as me. Good luck to everyone!

I really sympathise with all of you. I even started to think it must be a phantom pregnancy that would never end. However, here I am with my beautiful 6 day old baby. I can lie on my back, even take deep breaths. Today I walked down the street and no-one stared at me! So don't worry, the end is nigh!

40 + 1 today. Yep, getting bored with waiting now but as this is my first, I'm quite scared about the next part and then actually having a baby at home...
I am enjoying watching the telly and reading, as I know I will have no peace afterwards but getting comfotable is no longer an option and as for waking hourly at night... well. I have taken to sleeping in different beds: when I get cramp in my hips from lying on my side, I go to a different bed so I can sleep sitting upright for a while.
My dh is being very supportive though, I am lucky.

40 + 2 and severely fed up. The baby has now disengaged its head and is lying with its spine agianst mine, so I have a lot of backache and not of the productive kind! A week ago his head was engaged (and had been to two weeks) and his spine was facing outwards. I saw the midwife yesterday and she said to make an appointment for next week so she obviously doesn't think it is going to be soon...
I didn't even know they could 'disengage'!!

Be careful what you wish for! I was reading this yesterday agreeing with everything everyone said and the midwife came round today and diagnosed pre-eclampsia. I have to go in tomorrow for monitoring and possible induction

Still, I am over 38 weeks so not too much of a problem, I would just rather not be induced!

Hi Anna I didn't know they could disengage so later in the day either. Is she sure ? Spikeycat poor you am thinking of you. Do let us know how it goes.

Well I really do feel so uncomfy. My dd was late so im sure that he will be late too although am secretly hoping he'll be early. Off to my reflexologist Friday for a go at getting things moving and then I guess I'll just have to be patient and wait and see. Saw my consultant yesterday who has booked me in for two weeks time when I am 39 + 5 and he is going to give me a twiddle (cervical sweep ?) if he hasn't come by then.

42 weeks today, going in for induction this evening. The only good bit is having people in the street ask when I'm due and gasp at the answer. Wigglebaby loved being waaay down in my pelvis at 24 weeks... but hasn't tried it since 34 and last night appeared interested in going up. Aaargh

love to all - soudns like we're having a crappy time of it - thank god there's not much longer for us to wait
unfairly all the family has been struck down with a tummy bug that has also triggered my contractions so I get to puke, run to toilet and have searing lower back ache all at the same time - oh joy! spent all yesterday like that then contractions stopped but now they've started up agin - can't decide if I'd rather they stopped or not tbh
sorry to hear about pre eclampsia spikeycat - I got that last time round - thinking of you
love to all

AnnaK, you probably know this, but one of the ways of getting the baby to turn around again (apparently) is to crawl around on all fours (or to stay still like this). Apparently this gives the baby the space and wish to turn round and makes for an easier labour.
Anyway, not glad other people are feeling crap too, just glad I am not the only one if you see what I mean!

yes and I was told that it helps if you wiggle your bum when on all fours too. No joke !! Honest im not making it up !!
Well I have bad period pains again. Had them on and off four days now but no action. I know this sounds really weird but although i've already had my dd I keep wondering if I will know what labour is like when it happens. You'd think I would know because i've been through it before but it does keep crossing my mind that i might not. Anyone else feel like this ?

I've been told to rest, Like thats going to happen with a 15 month old. DP has pissed me off as I have suggested it would be better not to have sd's this weekend and he's not having any of it. He even asked me what I was going to cook us all for dinner tonight!

Dh and I set off to get a big gym ball and I have spent the rest of the week on all fours or lying on my left side. I am getting so huge and uncomfortable that the birth is just going to be a blessing. I can't tell if he has moved, though.
I must be the most unattractive thing in the world right now, lying on the ball wriggling my bum. I'm told it is all worth it in the end. I have a hospital appointment tomorrow to discuss induction. Bring it on!!