So I'm now 40 + 3 and feeling increasingly grumpy and probably overthinking everything but I just feel so anxious about this.
Its my first baby so I'm not sure what to expect with regards to labour at all etc.
My DP and I live less than 2 miles from the hospital and I want to get a taxi in as I just want DP there during the delivery. His DPs keep (very kindly) saying about how we will have to call them night or day for a lift into hospital when it starts and I think they might be offended if we don't contact them before we actually get to the hospital etc, although I appreciate their offer, DPs mum works at the hospital too so I'm worried that if they run us in she will want to cone through with us and I tend to feel quite closed down, stoic and private when I am in pain so would prefer not to deal with people I know.
Add in to the mix that my parents live about 5 hours away and my mum keeps insisting she will be coming to stay as soon as the baby arrives. Granted she has agreed to stay at a B&B but again, I don't want everyone hanging around and 'waiting' for me to give birth. Given the travel time I don't know when to let her know things are happening. My mum can be very difficult and gets quite upset/jealous at the best of times so I'm already worried about the great grandparent power struggle that will ensue and ideally I need to let them both know at the same time as otherwise I can see trouble!
At the moment I just feel like I want to curl up in a little ball, birth my baby in private and then let everyone know when he gets here but it seems now like a minefield of potential bad feelings!
Sorry for the lengthy rant. I know at the end of the day I can just do what I want but I also know from past experiences that it is easy to cause rifts and arguments when it comes to certain family members and I just feel totally stressed about it!
Anyone else dealt with similar situations successfully? TIA