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2 children to 3 children, big step???

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Lydosimmo14 · 03/12/2013 21:37

So, I have my eldest daughter who is 3, starts school in September, and my youngest is 2... And I feel so ready for numer 3 and want them close together... Is this a good idea or am I crazy?? Lol
Experiences please :D xx

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PenguinsDontEatPancakes · 03/12/2013 21:48

No idea, no. 3 arrives in May!

But I'd say that it's not no.2 and no.3 who'd be close, it's the ones you already have. How did you find that?

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Lydosimmo14 · 03/12/2013 21:52

I love it!! They're under 2 years apart, both girls and they're so close! And I think it's good to have them close so they have things in common and grow up close! That's what I'm hoping for!!!! Lol x

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PenguinsDontEatPancakes · 03/12/2013 21:57

I think, unless you have under 12 months each time, there will always be quite a gap between oldest and youngest though. You'd have 4+ years, I'll have almost exactly 5. I'm not sure that a 14 year old and a 10 year are likely to be massively closer than a 14 year old and an 8 year old, etc.

But for me, if we'd got further out of the baby stage I'm not sure we would have coped going back . As it was, this one was a surprise!

CreamyCooler · 03/12/2013 21:59

As they get older though the gap closes. A 28 and a 24 year old is a very small gap.

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Lydosimmo14 · 03/12/2013 22:04

Creamy cooler - that's very true!

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CreamyCooler · 03/12/2013 22:08

I have 3 DC but had the first then a gap and the next 2 21 months apart and found the jump from 2 to 3 was fine. Probably about 1% of the jump from 0 to 1! Mine are in their teens and twenties, all boys and they get on so well and are all identical heights at last. I love having 3 DC.

PenguinsDontEatPancakes · 03/12/2013 22:10

Yes, true Creamy. But what I meant was that, whilst I can see the logic in having two children close together in terms of childhood interests, closeness etc (not that it always works), by three there is generally going to be a big-ish spread anyway. So you should do what suits you as parents. Because, as you say, the gap between 28 and 24 is small. But then again so is the gap between 22 and 28 IYSWIM.

CreamyCooler · 03/12/2013 22:13

Yes I definitely agree with that. Plus it's just pot luck if they will even get on well. I've done the big gap/small gap thing. They are both good.

bundaberg · 03/12/2013 22:14

yeah it is a big step!

ds1 was 4 and ds2 was 19 months when I had ds3.

was pretty intense if i was doing it again i'd leave a bigger gap. hasn't put me off having number 4 though, due in april. but this time i'll have a 9yr old, 6 yr old and almost 5 yr old

Peacenquiet2 · 03/12/2013 22:16

Will let you know in a few weeks! =-O

bundaberg · 03/12/2013 22:18

incidentally my eldest gets on better with his youngest sibling than his middle one

fluffandnonsense · 03/12/2013 22:25

I'll let you know! DD2 is due in February. DD will be 2.5 and DS will be 5. God help me!

learnermummy · 03/12/2013 22:32

I have 3, aged 7, 4 and baby of 5 months, so much bigger gaps but the 7 yr old adores the baby, they both help entertain her and are also good at entertaining themselves leaving me time with the baby!

Peacenquiet2 · 03/12/2013 22:39

Learner that will be me, my dcs are 7and 3, by time baby 5 months they will be 7/4, hoping for same outcome as you! :-)

MummyPig24 · 04/12/2013 13:32

Our 3rd is due in March, on dds 4th birthday, ds has just turned 6. The elder two are so close I know baby will not have the same relationship that they have. But circumstances meant that it wasn't practical to have dc3 sooner. I'm hoping it's not going to be such a big step!

jimblejambles · 04/12/2013 13:47

My 3 are 9,6 and 6 months. I found going from 1-2 harder than 2-3. Both ds are fab with their little sister but can imagine that might change when she is moving
Tbh the hardest bit I have found is the school run and during the holidays getting dd to have a nap with all the noise

plum100 · 04/12/2013 13:50

I wish someone had told me about all the laundry, its never ending with 5 of us in the house. And bathtimes take so long- esp if you have 3 girls like me with hair to dry!!!!

LadyGoneGaga · 04/12/2013 13:55

I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. No. 3 due in June when they will be 6 and nearly 3. I'm hoping the gap will work ok and it won't feel like such a step up. There are some things I can't get my head around yet - like solo bedtimes and school runs with nap schedules and bf'ing a newborn whilst having both older children on summer holidays etc but I remember having the same fears going from 1 to 2 and it all worked itself out. I suspect the key will be flexibility and hoping like billy-o for the kind of baby that will sleep anywhere.

terilou87 · 04/12/2013 20:31

I have 4 currently pg with dc5, the first 3 are close together ds is 6 dd is 5 and dd2 is 4 then ds2 is 1, I love my first 3 being so close they get on well and like to play with each other even at school, dont get me wrong they argue too but they are soo close. I do wonder how long it will actually last though, it is hard work too but definitly worth it!

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