Who else is hiding there pregnancy?

[4thTimeLuckyWithBoo]

I'm 17 weeks and now finding that hiding my pregnancy is put a Downer on it. Any one else hiding there's?

Could I ask. Why are you hiding your pregancy? I really don't understand.

Are you hiding it at home?
Not just work-related reasons?

I'm trying quite unsuccessfully to hide my bump at school. I don't want the kids to know until after the 20wk scan.
I previously lost a baby because of problems picked up at 20wks.
It would have been even harder if my class had known and were excited about a baby.
I'm only 11wks so not even had my 1st scan but as of Sunday I have a very defined bump. Not easy to hide. Lots of thick cardis until Feb I think!

4th congratulations on your pregnancy can I ask why you are keeping it a secret and when you are going to start telling people?

I'm only 5 weeks and we are waiting until the New Year to tell people, not sure if we're going to wait until the 12 week scan or not but it won't be after that.

I'm getting a bit impatient with not telling people as I'm so excited but at the same time I'm enjoying it being mine and my DPs little secret and enjoying it ourselves before everyone starts fussing.

I do think our parents will catch on before we tell them though. My eating habits have changed a lot, my DP isn't exactly quiet when we're discussing it and my DM is very nosey and often routes, sorry, cleans, my bedroom, so I'm having to keep my supplements in my handbag and take it everywhere with me. She has been known to empty my handbag if I go out with a different bag! But we'll be moving in together next weekend and there'll be no ears around so if we can get to that point without anyone mentioning anything, I'll be pleased

I didn't tell anyone other then dp & my sister until I was 16/17 weeks. Then only my dc. I told some people after my 20 week scan.

I found it stressful in the end. But as i had previously lost a pregnancy I didn't want to announce my pregnancy until I was very confident there would be a baby. I knew my family woukd disapprove of the new baby...I was right!

Its my 6thdc so it was very difficult at least you can get away with chunky jumpers etc whereas it was still warm leading up to my scan!

Good luck.

I hid my last one from most people (family and close friends were told post 20 week scan) until birth, as baby had a high risk of Down Syndrome and I'd declined invasive testing. I didn't feel comfortable announcing until we knew one way or the other.

It helped I was a SAHM with no school age children so I hardly ever saw anybody anyway. It was lonely but I got used to it before too long. Made a lot of use of forums!

Sorry, I should of added why. I lost my son in 2012 at 6 months due to a suspected weak cervix. We decided. to wait to tell people only Parents know.

Had a scan at 16 weeks to check cervix and it showed my cervix was short whoch concerned my consultant. Got another scan Thursday to check whether it is the same length (which means my cervix is naturally short); or whether it has shortened more then I will need a cervical stitch. So in short medical reasons, been told I may lose baby.

Really want to tell people, but decided to wait until after 21 weeks scan on the 30th so telling people new years day :-)... maybe!

4th I am so sorry to hear about your son. I completely understand why you are keeping things discrete now. I hope your appointment on Thursday goes well. And what a great day to announce your news. NYE.. Our DD is due NYE........

I kept my pregnancy secret from work (also a teacher) until 22 weeks but it was a first pregnancy so didn't show too soon and I also broke up for the summer holidays at 15 weeks. I don't know if I could have kept it quiet for much longer though.

Cardigans and scarves were useful in detracting from the bump.

So sorry to hear about your son.

I've been delaying telling people too. I'm 20 weeks now and quite a few people know, but I didn't want to tell my elder children until after the 20 week scan if I could help it so I was trying to keep people to 'suspect' not 'know' IYSWIM.

I found that staying in normal jeans/trousers as long as possible helps. Even if you have to have a hairband keeping them up because you can't do the button. Maternity trousers are so stretchy they don't support anything or hold it in at all!

Then loose, long tops on the top half, with big drapey scarves if you can. I also got this cardigan. It is a bit like a waterfall cardigan but without the frilly bits! So it sort of hangs down either side and breaks up the line/distracts the eye. Also, if you feel exposed, you can kind of wrap it around yourself with your arms and claim to be cold.

When wearing a coat, hands in pockets distracts from the fact that it is a bit tight across the tummy. As does stuffing tons of your kids stuff into the pockets so it looks like the overflowing gloves, hats, water bottle, etc are what is making it tight!

I'm hiding it from work. I'm 17+5 and honestly, I look pregnant (it's DC2 is my excuse!), but always drape a scarf over the bump and wear bigger clothes and I've only had a couple of odd looks, no-one has dared ask me!

My promotion is to be decided tomorrow (fingers crossed) - after that I will relax, although I'd like not to have to talk about it until the promotions are announced in a couple of weeks...doubt I'll be able to hide it that long though.

I just don't want to give them any reason not to promote me!

I do suspect that by the time I talk about it, some people will be "yeah, we noticed"

And yes hiding it is putting a downer on it. And putting extra stress on me (having to change how I'd like to hold my body to try and hide it etc., being careful as I walk/stand up not to give it away. Hiding morning sickness was very tricky!)

I'm in an office with friendly chatty people and we often talk about our families and I can't wait to say I'm having another DS!!!

I successfully managed to keep schtum until 12 week scan then told work the following week. We have now written our news in Christmas cards (I'm 18 weeks), but no regretting telling anyone til after 20 week anomaly scan... What if something is wrong and I have to untell everyone?! I am excited and that's why I tell people, but I'm also worried! Does that makes sense? OP I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and congrats on this pregnancy! I commend you all for being so sensible and keeping the secret for so long!!!

We haven't told anyone yet though plan to tell parents over the next three weeks.

I'm hoping to keep it from work until as long as my tummy will allow. Hoping for early Feb. But I'll be 18weeks by then,so that might not be realistic. It's only my first but I seem to be showing -carbs- already at just ten weeks.