AIBU?

[redcarrot1]

Is it unreasonable to expect your partner to be in constant contact i.e. have their mobile switched on, when on holiday? I'm in my 3rd trimester and feeling pissed off I haven't been able to get hold of him since yesterday afternoon .

For me, it would depend on how many weeks I was & if the pregnancy was complications free.

How long is he away for?

Had you planned to speak every day or every second day...that sort of thing?

Do you have other people around?

Dh wouldn't go on holiday without me if I were third tri.

What's he doing? Constant contact is a big ask if you were happy for him to go away.

Fwiw dh IS away overnight every week & will be up to say 39 weeks. 2h drive away though so not going to miss a birth!

Third trimester, it would piss me off. You are only asking him to have his phone with him and turned on, not for him to ring every ten minutes with his exact movements FGS!

YANBU. my DP is in Australia atm I'm 33 weeks pg, we Skype every day and there's email. Plus if emergency, normal phone.call.... has something happened, or do you just want to talk to him?

DH wouldn't go on holiday without me, full stop. But I wouldn't go without him either.

He's away for about 5 days with his mates. I don't want to be a controlling weirdo but he said he would have it switched on in the day and turned off at night. This is why I'm pissed. I'm pretty much on my own without him.

I think he is being unreasonable to have his phone switched off at all. A quick text goes a long way with me when I'm not preg and absolutely vital when I am!

Hope you get in contact soon x

You are definitely not being unreasonable. It's not like you are expecting him to call lots or give you constant updates of what they are doing on their holiday.

Keeping his phone switched on in case you need to contact him in an emergency is a completely different thing.... Granted if he's on a lads holiday my expectation would be that they'd all be a bit too trollied to be useful if there actually was an emergency but still. Him needing to switch it off every night would set alarm bells ringing for me if I'm honest.

My partner works away a lot and I'm 3rd trimester too. We talk every day but I'd understand if we couldn't because of time zone differences or meetings or whatever but the mobile is always on just in case.

YANBU, and I agree with the above posters that he should have phone on all the time- who switches their phone off? I sometimes forget how! It's not a matter of wanting constant updates-just to know you can reach him if you have to.