'Having a CS...poor you'

[spinach]

I am so fed up of people asking me if i am disappointed to be having an elective section. Every midwife/consultant seems to think i should be hung up about it! I have been asked 'are you hoping for a nice normal birth this time' and 'are you really disappointed about needing a section'.

Its clear from my medical background that a cs is the only way for me, i couldnt care less, perfectly happy... why is everyone else so obsessed?

would you?

tsk! my muscles are fine ta very much

agree with cod

I wouldn't say 'oh how exciting' if someone told me they were having a section and I don't normally know all and sundry's medical history.

I think a lot of women DO feel bad about having a section so they are just checking.

yawn please lets not go down the 'tight vag' argument...am sure dh feels as though he is wandering through an empty room during sex but it doesnt seem to have put him off

I honestly don't feel that I missed out on anything that would have made my life significan'y better.

When I lost the first pg I felt a horrific sense of failure and loss. The fact that I was left with adhesions so bad I couldn't belld during my period (excrutiatingly painful) and therefore couldn't get pg again made me feel even more of a failure.

Having the kids by section....no worries. And I still have a fanny like a mantrap!

I'm sure you all have lovely vaginas!

It was a 'funny' to show how totaly un-upset I am with the whole thing. I'm not sugestiong that we have ping pong championships or anything!

can you smoke a cheroot out of your fanjo? Now that would be cool

lol

i have to say, i havent had many conversations about comparing labours/births (too boring) but there is always one who says with a sniff "i had to have a section, it was touch and go" or the classic "my pelvis is so small, the doctor says im tiny, he says there is no doubt i will have to have a section"

a real tumbleweed moment

Imagine the discussion with the health visitor when she talks about smoking increasing the risk of cot death.

Nope, but I understand that we now have a mnetter with two vaginas, so she could inhale and exhale a the same time

Appols if you are reading twoholes (smashingly cool name btw and having two is all part of biological diversity and richness and in no way a negative thing )

I have an arse like the boulder dam, np, so I have no idea why dd didn't shift

ds was a footling breech, and I had rapidly escalating pre-eclampsia, he was also big (9 2 two weeks early) so the combo wasn't a winner on him getting out without hypoxia.

While in there the surgion aslo told me that the decision was a very good one as my original scar was very thin.

At that point I was glad when they wipped out my tubes......I don't think I'm 'good' at child birth!

I knwo exactly what you all mean lol, i am having a section this time around because of a nasty 3rd degree tear while having my dd, and must admit i am sure people think i have chosen to have a section, especially both my grandmothers who both keep going on like i have made the choice myself, no matter how many times i explain, infact one of them said "oh i didn't know that happened when having dd" well having a 3rd degree tear is not really something you want to broadcast is it?! lol..."oh i am fine, i have split pillar to post down below, but i am fine" pmsl. .

Also for what its worth in a way i wish i wasn't having a section (recovery more than anything) but what do you do? I really don't see why some people think it is a easy option...sure doesn't sound it to me, i am sh**ting myself.

Try not to worry about the recovery pucca.....I bet you will find it loads easier than a third degree tear.

I was out of hospital 5 days after dd and 4 after ds (planned section). By the time I was two weeks after ds I was doing all the reguar stuff sorting out dd who was 3 at the time and the baby. I drove at about 3-4 weeks after and was really OK.

Good rule is if it hurts in hospital, as for better pain meds, and if you do something at home that hurts....stop. Honestly I was fine both times. The worst thing is sneezing....just try not to do this if poss

spinach, oooo, lucky you.

I am a failed active birther, now converted to cs. Will most probably go elective rather than VBAC for my second. For my first, I would be the last person to want a cs. But having had an em cs, I would say it really isn't that bad, and actually quite proud I avoided any perineal damage. Just need to plan a bit more around the recovery (hey, rope in your partner and family) and remember to pop those painkillers for the first few days.

My DS was delivered 7 months ago by CS. I had hoped for an out-of-this-world water birth experience. The nearest I got to that was when they broke my waters and the embarrasment of feeling like i'd peed the bed and continued to do so.

I did not want a c-sec. I was induced, shouldn't have been and wished I'd waited longer. I failed to progress, 23 hours later DS showed signs of distress and after epidural faff was taken off to theatre. Although not my ideal birth choice can not put into words my relief at eventually seeing DS. What happened afterwards is another story but what bugs me is everyone's pity especially when the great delight some 'friends' have in telling you how amazingly quick their births were and having the cheek to shudder when c-sec is mentioned.
I don't pay attention anymore, how can you even comment until you've been on both sides of the fence anyway...

Oh one more, like the friend who said to me ' I don't know how you can be bothered to faff around with those bottles all day, what a nightmare! So easy just to breastfeed my LO' after I'd just given up b/f...

People!!!

Well Ive never said "ooo are you having a vaginal birth" "poor you"

because it would be RUDE

much as it is to comment on a c-section birth .. but that seems fair game doesn't it?

LOL about the sneezing MB. DD was born by cs in May and I get hayfever. Ds was born in Feb - much better!

i cant wait to have my section the idea of giving birth naturally terrifies me

poof

'honeymoon fresh' ...

seems that from the moment you get pregnant to the minute your sprogs leave home, anything to fo with pregnancy, childbirth, feeding, parenting etc etc is fair game for rude comments from total starngers

Every day I wake up and wish I had the balls for Twiglett's wit!!

A collegue of DH's (who also chose a CS) phoned me up after her's (she had her baby the week before me) and told me how wonderful it was, as everything below was 'nice and tight' . I just about dropped the phone

some interesting comments here...

Sobernow: 'Oh, dribbly wee every time you sneeze? ..Poor you." BRILLIANT!

Cod: 'but surely it IS crap to have to haev a c section ye sit gets the baby out but no on WANTS ONE ....'

Yes i want one, because its the safest way for my baby to be born and i expect the medics to recognise and respect this... I was advised by a consultant not to attempt a vaginal birth and thats good enough for me. Why on earth would i want to try a vaginal birth, fail, get baby stuck then have an emergency section? YES I WANT A C SECTION. that may not be common but it deserves some respect. I am fully aware of all the risks, i dont take them lightly, thats exactly why i get annoyed about the comments i get.

It seems to be more acceptable to question someones birth choice if they are having a section for some reason. I want a safe delivery, thats my priority.