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Taking time off work to just relax....

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louise182 · 19/11/2013 10:33

Just wondered if anybody has taken the odd sick day when they are just feeling a little run down?
Im 34 weeks pregnant and just feel bloody exhausted and still have 3 weeks left in work before mat leave.
Feeling a little guilty for doing it because im not lazy or workshy in the slightest but i feel like i just need a day or so to have a bath and put my feet up and have some peace and quiet!!!

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Emilycee · 19/11/2013 10:36

I plan to... Im only 20 weeks! My boss is a pain in the arse and I don't enjoy my job either so I don't feel too guilty

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louise182 · 19/11/2013 10:41

Ha ha my work aren't very understanding, its the only way i feel i can get some time to myself!
It cant be good for baby if I'm constantly worked up and tired, i feel miles better after a day off

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Emilycee · 19/11/2013 11:11

But then if you are genuinely feeling under the weather (tired and achy does count!) taking one day to recouperate a bit will be to your benefit - rather than keep struggling then get run down and pick up a cold/bug meaning you are off for 2/3 days... do it!

TobyLerone · 19/11/2013 11:19

I can absolutely see why you'd want to do this (being 33 weeks myself).

But I would be thoroughly unimpressed if a member of my staff took a day off sick to have a bit of a rest. Do you have any holiday you can use?

tgamble13 · 19/11/2013 12:55

am currently on week 4 being off and plan to take another 2 weeks. i travel stupid miles to work struggled until week 27 then hit a brick wall totally exhausted and stressed so if i was u i wouldnt feel guilty. this is my first so the way i see it this will be the last time in years where i can rest and be a slob

flyawayblue · 19/11/2013 20:16

I'm taking a few days off work to relax but taking as leave not sick.

BonaDea · 19/11/2013 20:17

Use annual leave.

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louise182 · 20/11/2013 15:28

I have no annual leave left to take otherwise i would have. Im not exactly sat on my back side for the sake of being lazy, I've worked right through until now with no absence despite throwing my guts up daily until 22 weeks. I have over an hour travel to work every day and just feel like I've hit a wall. Feeling exhausted, in my opinion, is good reason to take a little time out when (especially heavily) pregnant.
It has done me the world of good, slept well, relaxed, didn't wake up worrying about rushing for buses, i feel very rested!
I just wondered if anybody else had felt the need to do this too...

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downdownupdown · 20/11/2013 15:44

I did. Loads of days just resting. And no I didn't feel guilty. I was doing a 5am start which became near impossible towards the end - work wouldn't change my hours and Dr wouldn't sign me off so once my leave was used up I had little choice on the days when I couldn't drag myself out of bed at 4am.

Doubt you will get a lot of sympathy on MN though. A lot of small business owners on here, and people who always do the right thing

Enjoy the rest and peace.

I would suggest hiding this thread though, you might be about to get a flaming.

ipswichwitch · 20/11/2013 15:52

After my first pregnancy I knew I would feel this way again so I kept 3 weeks leave to start before mat leave kicks in 1 week before due date. I'm so glad I did - finished work last week at 36 weeks and feel so much better for it.

SweetPea86 · 20/11/2013 16:54

I'm 19 weeks worked at my job for 5 years and only ever had one sick day......

I'm the type of person I wake 5 mins before my alarm and jump out of bed ready to go.

BUT and that's a big fat BUT now I can't open my eyes when alarm goes off.

I'm so exhausted like OP I was throwing up serve untill 17 weeks still sick on a morning. And I haven't had this energy boost in the 2nd trimester lol

I plan to speak to my boss some time and tell him I'm struggling hopefully they will sort my hours I work 6 days and can't cope,

If they won't then I will have to phone in sick.

I look at it this way, there's people who phone in sick for minor things and hangovers, why the hell should you feel guilty for and genuine reason.

Enjoy your rest Hun

MatryoshkaDoll · 20/11/2013 18:52

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Quodlibet · 20/11/2013 19:33

I have felt like this too. I am self-employed so don't get paid if I don't work, but have taken days off to recuperate when needed, or finished earlier when I was whacked out. I do think it is worth listening to your body sometimes (obviously not if your body is saying - fuck your colleagues! Lie on the sofa for weeks eating donuts!'). You will have less energy and a day off when you really need one won't cause the end of the world.

greentshirt · 20/11/2013 19:46

I have been really really tired all through pregnancy, i've gone from waking very early to being awake all night to waking all through the night with toothache to now sleeping nearly all night but I must be getting the worst sleep ever as this is the worst I have felt! I look absolutely destroyed!

I never ever ring in sick, im that person who isnt really ill and can always be relied upon to turn up for work and im struggling with how much im struggling to be honest.

Im off on holiday next week, im hoping to catch up quite a bit on sleep then, even if its just increasing my poor quality sleep! and then have got a few 4 day weeks then xmas, when im off between xmas and new year.

If I still feel bad after that (which I assume I will as obv every week gets physically harder anyway) im going to try and negotiate some home working for one day a week from January. A lot of the worst of it for me is getting up and getting ready and actually getting myself to work. If I could turn up in jeans and no make up (not possible with how I look currently) then it wouldnt be too bad!

Is home working something you could do going forward to try and overcome the exhaustion a little bit?

Peacenquiet2 · 20/11/2013 20:10

Louise, you will not get any medals for putting work before yourself and i can totally understand why you are taking time off to rest!
I cant on the other hand, understand the posters who clearly have little or no sympathy. I have had no sickness and have felt pretty well so far at 24 weeks with dc3, but if i felt the need to take tlime off work for myself to recoop i totally would!
Im a nurse and look after people nearing the end of their lives and have yet to hear one person declare they regret not working more! Usual regrets go along the lines of they wish they had put their own needs and the needs of their families first more often.
So enjoy your relaxation time without a care in the world.

Mim78 · 20/11/2013 22:21

I've taken some time off to rest this week but I'm self-employed and so no one to answer to but self/no one will lose out as a result but self.... This makes it sound really rosey, but when I have got work on I will have to go no matter how I feel.

It's a tough one, but depends how ill you are feeling I guess. Saving up annual leave is the obvious answer but if you haven't got any to use I guess just be fair about it.

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