Can't stop thinking the worst might happen. WHY?

[Inglori0us]

This is my second pregnancy and I'm so worried about losing the baby and I don't know why. My dd is 20mo and I don't remember being so freaked out or negative when I was pregnant with her.
I've just booked a private scan for Saturday as I need reassurance the baby's ok. My 20 wk scan isn't for another 2 weeks. I can't feel movement and don't remember when I first felt it with dd.
I'm over emotional and terrified of miscarriage. I keep imagining the sonographer not being able to find a heartbeat and giving us bad news.
I just can't shake this feeling if doom. :(

Sorry you're in the same boat RV. It's bleak! I'm hoping when I get regular kicks I'll chill out a bit. April seems a very long way away. And I'm now worrying about all kinds of other stuff, like the predicted snowy winter. FFS. I need to man up!! It's like the worry just spirals outbid control.
Going to eat a massive bowl of spag bol tonight, and have a couple of 0% beers and slump on the sofa!

Gilly you'll be there before you know it, seeing a little wiggly baby on the screen!

I can totally sympathise too. I've worried the whole way through this pregnancy about movements / miscarriage / stillbirth. I'm 9 days overdue now and the anxiety has come back again I feel like I'm counting down each day worrying if the placenta will give up etc. Cant wait to get to Friday for induction.

It is hard op and you're not alone but good luck with your scan and I hope it gives you reassurance.

Good luck to you too Parsnips. My dd was early so I can't imagine how frustrating and stressful the overdue waiting must be like. You're so close to holding your baby now! x

yes! snap on snow worry too....! wtf!?!

Good luck this morning scanners! Thinking of you.
I've just got to get through today as my midwife is coming at 5pm to listen to the baby's heartbeat. That'll relax me for a few days until my scan on Saturday I'm hoping. Laying in bed this morning I wasn't sure if I could feel movement or whether it was hunger pangs!

RV it's not like I live on the countryside, but now I'm scared of being snowed in, slipping over etc. Last time I was pregnant it snowed and I got out and got on with it!

Hi ladies - glad to report that our little jumping bean was very lively & lovely this morning! Don't know what we're having but everything looks fine and I have a due date of 7th June :) I'm back for another scan on 3rd December because the baby wouldn't get into a good position for the NT, but all looks well.

PHEW

How did you get on Gilly?

Scan went really well and everything is perfect!
All this time I've been insisting my due date is around 9th June but she said its 2nd June!!!!!!!!!
Saw the heartbeat, legs, arms, head, brain, fingers and toes...

Baby wasn't moving much at first so she got me to go onto one side and prodded me a few times and then the baby was dancing around all over the place!!

WHAT A RELIEF!

So so happy!

I was the same as u with ds now 3 weeks.
Ask 4 counselling to help with your anxiety.
I saw a counsellor because I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks after seeing a heartbeat.
I was anxious until the second he was born.
Take 1 day at a time.

Like me, I think u might all benefit from lots of reassurance from midwives and doctors.
Please don't let your worries take over.

Yay Gilly!! :)

I'm a born worrier, it's genetic, I blame my mum!

So pleased Gilly and Fox - such great news!!
Katie I'm not a worrier generally! This has only come on in the last few weeks, and I was very chilled in my last pregnancy. Very odd. Also feels weird that after 20 wk scan I won't see my MW for 8 weeks. Seems a long time.

Here's my scan picture for anyone that's interested!

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Lovely pic Gilly!
Matryoshka how far along are you?

Hooray for happy scans! Beautiful squishy bean Gilly!

Inglorious, have you had your Doppler yet?

Midwife is coming at 5pm. Not too long to wait now.

Matryoshka you're nearly there. I've been very hormonal and crying at anything? Not like me at all. I've been quite unreasonable!

Congrats Gilly and FoX and best of luck Inglorious! You too will be fine, i promise.

i'm not a worrier either, now i'm worried about everything.I'mpetrified about the Nuchal fold scan- and when/if that's clear, i've no doubt my fears will turn to something else entirely! thinking of trying reflexology, i've gotten great results from that in the past. Emailed the girl i've gone to before and she says it's a great help during pregnancy, particularly in latter stages to combat against anxiety and constipation etc .

Great pic Gilly, much clearer than mine!!

Hope the midwife appt goes well Inglorious

Good thinking Chica.
Midwife not here yet...

Doll - I burst into tears over an ill fitting bra in M&S yesterday and it's because I'm in scan fear mode. It turns me into a right unreasonable, snappy wreck!

Any news Inglorious?

The heart is beating! Took the mw a long while to find it which was awful, but there it was, thumping away.
She took my blood to check for anaemia and my blood pressure is low but just within the normal range.
Phew.
What a bunch or worriers we are!
I've put dd to bed and I'm eating cheese and crisps while I wait for dh to get home, then I'm going to yoga.

Thanks for all the support. Lovely ladies.

Great news - and I'm impressed that you're off to yoga! I made it along the road to costa for a giant salted caramel latte and a blether with my mates and now I'm wiped out