Is anyone else feeling pressured by family members?

[bootheunicorn]

Sorry, I just had to rant!
This is my first baby and I'm 19. I have wonderful support from my immediate family and my boyfriend. Neither of us have extended family around so the family we have is it. My nan (mum's mum) is very difficult though! She prefers men to women, always has. Her favourite grandchildren are the boys.
Now there's extra pressure on me to have a boy because I know she'll treat it better than a girl. I'm only 12.1 weeks but all I hear is how much she wants me to have a boy. She also keeps saying that as long as its perfect, nothing else matters. That's such an odd thing to say, I think.
Is anyone else experiencing this? I feel at my wits end!

What sorts of things is she actually saying that make you think she wants a boy?

Well, she always favours my brother, to the point where he can't do wrong. She actually said the other day that nnothing could ruin her perfect grandson..nothing like that ever gets said about me or my sister. She has other great grandchildren and she only has pictures of the sons around her house.
It's just pressuring!

I don't see how she can actually put pressure on you to have a boy. It's not like you can choose. She may well prefer boys though - most people prefer one over the other. I prefer girls. But I'm sure I would have loved any sons as much as I love my DDs

My grandad always favoured me over my brother because I was a girl and my brother was my dad's son (he didn't like my dad)
I think it's an elderly thing tbh. My nan really wanted me to have a girl and when I told her I was she wet herself with excitement so I always wonder what her reaction would have been if I was having a boy.

Tbh. Don't dwell on it or let it pressure you. It will be your child and as long as you love it no matter what that's all that matters.
Congratulations :)

I understand, my grandma always wanted a grandson and she was over the moon when my little brother arrived after three girls (myself and two cousins). I know she loved us all but my brother was her very special favourite and she doted over him.
And now my MIL is desperate for me to have a little girl, she had twin boys and always says how very much she feels she missed out on not having a baby girl. I know she's going to spoil any grandchild rotten but it'll be double so if its a girl. I'm due in 2 weeks and the sex is a surprise so I've been getting hints dropped for months about preferred gender!
Don't let it get to you, everyone has different preferences but when it comes down to it they will be enchanted and besotted by the little life you bring in to the world. Just keep yourself happy and healthy and focus on bringing that baby, whoever they turn out to be, in to this world.

I think some people, older ones in particular, don't fully understand the biology behind it. We've had comments about how my DH has 'proven himself' by me having a girl, and how next time I'll have to prove myself - presumably by having a boy.

I said "he'll get out what he put in" and his Dnan's face was a picture

"he'll get out what he put in"

Love this haha!!