Best time to have a baby shower?

[ToNeverLand123]

I'm nearly 25 weeks pregnant and I've been thinking about baby shower dates. I was thinking between 34-36 weeks pregnant would be good. Is this to early, or late..? Also any ideas on unique baby shower ideas would be welcome.

"I agree that arranging your own shower is in England a bit taboo" - as opposed to US, I presume, where it is totally taboo, of course. It really is very, very tacky to arrange your own.

I did put my thoughts on timing in an earlier list. I think it is worth reiterating that using the label 'shower' for a gathering to which it clearly deos not apply is a huge gaffe.

If having a baby shower is considered "grabby" because one is expected to bring gifts then we should probably do away with birthday parties as well because I can't remember the last one of those where I wouldn't have been embarrassed showing up without a gift.

I don't think I would have a baby shower because that's not the kind of thing I enjoy but I think we'll have a party of some sort, probably a cocktail party, celebrating the end of our childless lives, kind of like a last hoorah (no baby gifts allowed but feel free to bring a bottle of wine that I can enjoy at some point in the distant future). Maybe something smaller and more intimate once the baby is born for those people who might be interested in meeting the baby.

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ToNever, I'm also mum to a 'heart baby'. This is off-topic, but have you joined the forum over at Heartline? it took me ages to find them but the parents over there have been a great help in terms of advice, a shoulder to cry on, knowing what you're by going through.

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I'm in the US and you still wouldn't organise it yourself.

I found mine really uncomfortable to be honest. It was a huge affair with people I hardly knew there and although I was obviously very pleased, the amount of gifts I got was shocking. And I had to open them all in front of everyone. It took me FOUR hours to open everything and a week to write thank yous.

It was WAY bigger than my bridal shower or any birthday parties I've ever had.

On the plus side, I've not bought anything for this baby really, we got given the cot, co-sleeper, bassinets, bedding, clothes, buggies, EVERYTHING. I've just bought the nice stuff that's caught my eye.

But do one yourself and call it a party by all means. I'd say do it before you start getting too uncomfortable, mental and comments on you being pregnant don't make you want to punch people. :D