Leese, had you read my post you could see I was referring to a specific midwife who had the cheek to publicly berate a named woman for having a c-s without knowing anything at all about that case - and being totally and utterly wrong. I think there can be no more shamefully unprofessional behaviour than that - and, yes, I think doing this sort of thing is woman-hating - why do women feel the need to constantly attack women who choose c-s in such personal ways? And again, why do women feel disappointed by having c-s and a healthy baby? Where do these notions of 'success' and 'failure' come from? They must come from somewhere and I do think the NCT plays a big part in it. Nobody feels a failure for having pain relief for an operation yet women are constantly made to feel bad for the way they give birth. NOBODY ever has a go at women who have natural birth with no drugs - sheesh, Kate Winslet and Emma Thompson were practically canonised, yet it's always open season on Posh etc - yet is there any evidence that Winslet is a better, more loving mother than Posh? I think not. As for 'torn to ribbons' maybe you should have a chat with my friend who had the most appalling time and ended up with endless stitches and is still in pain months on. She described the pain of labour as 'like the baby cutting its way out of me with knives'. Or the friend whose baby died, not because of mismanaged care, but because her baby just could not cope with the trauma of a normal birth (I don't want to be more specific in case anyone recognises the case).
While I waited for my c-s in the labour ward I could hear the most appalling screaming all around me (and, no, I'm not exaggerating)... I remember being so glad it wasn't going to be me. And if that makes me somehow deficient, then I must be, eh? And yes, I do think it is extremely strange to deliberately inflict pain on yourself when it could be avoided (I think much the same about crossing the artic with huskies & sleds!). My husband was present for the birth of his first child by vaginal birth and for my c-s. I asked him how they compared, and he said there was no comparison, the suffering in birth is so much greater and he was glad he hadn't had to watch me go through it. Maybe he is also really ill-informed/has an underlying problem/has missed out/is aggressive or any of the other insulting things that I am, according to some of you. But, I forgot, I must be wrong and a bad person, because I had a section and actually enjoyed it and would opt for it again. I am particularly disturbed by midwife who would like take this option away from all women. So much for helping women to have an enjoyable birth experience! Anyway, I don't even agree with the major surgery stuff - it sounds so scary. I had a local anaesthetic, it was over in ten minutes and I was totally fine in a couple of days. I probably had fewer stitches than my poor friend. It's hard to admit to having a c-s these days - even celebrities feel bullied into making up reasons - and having seen the reaction on this board I can see why.