just so bloody worried....

[MrsRV]

14.5 weeks with DC2 & following a miscarriage in July at 7 weeks I just seem to think bad things all the time. I feel like I'm waiting for something bad to happen!!! not able to enjoy it really because of this black cloud hanging over me. thought it would shift after 12 week but no!!! I didn't feel like this with DD (who is only 20 months so not as if it was years ago either!). is it the miscarriage making me feel this way? or do I just know? keep seeing 1 magpie everywhere & freaking out about that too... wtf!?! anyone else? x

What you are feeling is entirely normal. Once you have a loss, at any stage, you find yourself losing that naivety in future pregnancies. Women can be so superstitious about pregnancy - even the famous 12 weeks when it is "safe" to tell people you are expecting is partially down to a fear of "jinxing" it.

Stay strong x

Oh babes I'm sorry about the last pregnancy. I felt same. We lost one early on and were so surprised. Feelings I didn't know I had erupted during our last pregnancy. Your somewhat experienced now it's not just light n fluffy.

Just roll with it. It's all I can offer. Wish had more/better. It does get better or easier as you go further and it moves and it's more 'real' but the worry never exactly leaves.

Wishing you strength and love. Hugs. And a Bonny baby of course!!! :)

Totally normal. I'm only just coming to terms with the idea that this pregnancy might stick after 3 MCs (and I'm 26 weeks tomorrow!) I think the fear of another MC has definitely contributed to the antenatal depression I'm suffering (though I've had PND so it's more likely linked to that). I'm still not enjoying my pregnancy and am constantly expecting something to go wrong. Cannot visualise having this baby in my arms at all. Sending you hugs.

I could have written your post. 4 previous losses and now nearly 19 weeks. Can't believe I've got this far and everything seems to be okay, feel like I'm just waiting for something to go wrong.I've found the only things that work for me are taking things one day at a time -every day that I'm still pregnant is a step forward-, listening to the heartbeat on a fetal doppler whenever I feel particularly panicky (no guararantee that all is perfect but it does reassure me that at least the baby is still alive and finally ( and a wonderful indication of just how insane this is all driving me) saying 'good morning' etc to every solo magpie I spy (even those some distance away) because someone once told me that greeting them neutralizes the bad luck. Can't believe that my DH hasn't had me locked up yet. You are not alone x

What you are feelings totally normal. I had a mc end feb/start march this year. I am currently 33 weeks pregant and I have felt like that all the way through. Any little thing will trigger the fear and worry. For me it has got easier and better as the weeks have progressed mostly after 20 week scan.

I have come to realise that outside of our acutal loss, one of the worst things the mc did was take away my innocence / naivety with regards pregnancy.

I am so worried. I know of so many people who have had a mc that I'm almost convinced I will as is my first pregnancy. I'm only 7 weeks so far. I feel sick I worry, I don't I worry. I'm a nightmare!

What you are feeling is completely normal. Pregnancy is never (or very rarely) a stress-free experience after a previous loss. I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant, after two miscarriages, and years of fertility treatment (4 IUIs and 5 IVFs). I'm worrying all the time expecting something bad to happen. And it doesn't help that I've had bleeding for the last two weeks. But at 14.5 weeks a probability of miscarriage is extremely low ((below 1% I think or something like this) so almost certainly things will work out ok!
And BTW - congratulations!

Oh Mrs RV, I feel exactly the same. I suffered a MMC in May 2012 and it took me a whole year to get pregnant again. During that time I was really worried (thinking I'd never conceive again) and now I'm pregnant I'm still worried... I think the local magpies all know me by name as I keep saluting them... Anyway, it's completely normal to feel the way you do!

hey mrsrv, so sorry to hear of your loss, but congratulations on your pregnancy :)

i lost twins at 10 weeks (mmc) in october 2012 but now i am 38+6 pg and can't believe that a real baby is imminent! i won't deny that i have had quite a lot of negative feelings throughout this pregnancy, always waiting for something to go wrong, but so far so good. i am on a great thread here - PG after MC - the posifrickintivity thread - everyone is in the same boat and it has been a total lifeline for me as people in RL really don't understand the fears after MC. We are all at different stages so lots of experience, advice and handholding. Please do come over as they are the most supportive bunch of girls, and I wouldn't have got through the last 9 months without them :)

I can't offer any help of advise. But thought this thread may help. It's full of people that are pregnant after MC.
They have new people join all the time. :)
I wish you all the best xx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1909779-PG-after-MC-Posifrickentivity-as-we-await-more-scans-and-thread-babies