found out i was pregnant today...

[othello99]

So i found out im pregnant today. it wasnt planned and im not with the father, we dont have a very good relationship. hes basically trying to force me to have an abortion but i just dont think i want one. im only 23 and i was planning on travelling and things. im just so so so confused at the moment.

I remember that feeling so well! Almost a year ago I found out I was pregnant in very similar circumstances to you (apart from I'm with the dad and fortunately he never pressured me into anything!)

I'm so sorry that your ex (just assuming but I'm sorry if i'm wrong) is putting pressure on you, it's not an easy decision and certainly isn't one you can let others make for you!

All I can say, and I know this is very cliched, is that no matter what you do, everything WILL work out. I was told that and still had sleepless nights worrying but I'm a strong believer in fate and that everything happens for a reason

Life doesn't have to stop because you're pregnant. You woukd have to make adjustments, but can still get what you want out of life, but the bonus is you get to show it to someone too.

DO NOT BE PRESSURED into doing anything, you have to live with your choices every day for the rest of your life, so make sure it is what you want.

Seek advice. There will be plenty of mners who can relate and advise, speak to your doctor, or call a helpline for advice. And talk to trusted friends and family.

Don't try to work it out on your own.

I was the same. I found out I was pregnant the weekend after the father and I split up. He doesn't want to be part of our lives. Im currently 28 weeks pregnant and it was the best decision I ever made to keep my baby. It's going to be hard yeah, but so so worth it!

The most important thing is that any decision you make, is YOUR decision.

Do not let anyone to force you, or try to talk you round, especially when they are only thinking of themselves.

Good luck.

Mines a little surprise aswell & also my first. I am 27 tho so i can imagine your quite anxious being 23, but in the end this is your decision. Ignore the father, its your body and no one can tell you what to do with it at the end of the day. If he didn't want a baby he should have taken better precautions.

Once that baby is out he/she will be the most important and rewarding person in your life.

But just do what feels right for you. Only you can know when the time is right. Listen to your heart/body.

This is a choice you have to make and not be pressured in to anything.

I was in the same situation when I was 18 years old, in my first year at university and the father even offered me money to have an abortion.

My son is 5 years old now and keeping him was the best decision I have ever made BUT it has been hard work and my career went on hold (and still is).

Two years after having my son I met my husband and we settled down and had a family together (currently pregnant with 3rd) so jus because you are single now it doesn't mean it will be forever.
But, those initial 2 years where I was on my own was very hard, knowing my friends were at home with their babies and partners and I was on my own struggling to take care of my son.

I know how you are feeling and there are people out there for support.