Anybody with a toddler coping with morning sickness and/or tiredness? Fancy a bit of hand holding?

[charleylarlie]

Apologies if there is already a similar thread, though I looked for one and couldn't find any so thought I'd start one myself.

I’m currently 6+3 with DC2. Thrilled to be expecting again and in my better moments I am very excited about it.

But oh God - the morning sickness.

It started to kick at the beginning of last week with a couple of days of feeling slightly iffy and one day when I didn’t feel too bad. But since then it’s constant nausea every day. I’m making sure to eat regularly, but I still find it difficult, particularly at certain times of the day (e.g. early evening). CBeebies is on much much more than I’d like and I feel so guilty, especially when I can tell that DS (2.5 yrs old) would rather I come and play with him instead (usually with something noisy though that makes me feel even more nauseous, bless him).

I had morning sickness with DS, but it didn’t start until around 7 weeks or so. I do remember it went on until around week 15 and I really hope it’s not the case this time round.

The sickness itself isn’t a concern – it isn’t happening every day (just the nausea) and I am keeping most things down. But every time I walk in the kitchen I think I’m going to be sick because I can still smell whatever we last cooked, or the bin that I've only just emptied.

To complicate matters, we’ve just moved to a different part of the country for DP’s new job and I’m not working at the moment. We can only afford to put DS in nursery one morning a week. I have family about an hour away, but we agreed not to tell them until after the 12 week scan if possible. So I’m feeling a bit isolated. I’m trying to attend at least 2 toddler groups with DS a week in an attempt to make some new friends, but I just feel so rough all the time that getting out of the door feels like a mammoth effort.

By the time that DP gets home from work at around 6.30 I'm just completely done in - so tired I can barely keep my eyes open and feeling sick.

Anybody else in a similar situation (not necessarily the moving to a new area part) and fancy a bit of hand holding?

Yep. Knackered. Still nauseous at 18 weeks. Feel like a blimp. Hips hurt.
Dd is 19 months and relentlessly energetic.
Toddler groups do help. They wear her out so I can slump on the sofa when she naps.
Does your local library do any toddler sessions? Soft play also a godsend to me and you might meet other mums there too.
Feel free to have a whinge. It is hard coping with a toddler and pregnancy, especially as you've just moved. Go easy on yourself. Eat what you can. Drink lots of fluids. xx

Hi Inglori0us. It's not easy, I agree. I hate to moan as I realise how lucky I am but it's nice to know I'm not suffering alone.

I do find toddler groups help once we're there, as DS is happy to go off and play without needing me to be his playmate. Our local library has activities in the early afternoon, during DS's nap time so we've never managed to get to one. We go to a nice music and play session though and one really nice small toddler group where I can actually sit down with a cuppa while DS plays.

Naptimes are a godsend though and I hope we don't lose them any time soon. Toddlers just have so much energy! At least when I was pg with DS I had the option to go home from work and just sleep if I felt really bad. Now I just have to hope he'll be so engrossed in Peppa Pig that he'll just let me lie there doing nothing.

I appear also to be living on cheese and chips at the moment, which I feel dreadful about, but just can't cope with many kinds of food apart from stodge.

Sometimes a good moan makes everything feel better!

May I join in?? 8 weeks with number 2 and a DD who is 19months! She likes being picked up, waking at stupid o'clock in the morning and is resisting naps. Oooooooooof knackered and suffering from morning sickness. Fun times!

Hi Kitty. It's so exhausting, isn't it? I remember it being bad enough first time around, but it's so much harder with a toddler to entertain as well. Especially when they aren't sleeping. Will your DD nap eventually or do you think she's she trying to cut a nap out? My DS (2.5) is on one nap a day, but I've no idea how much longer he'll do that for.

I could have written your post. Just moved. Dd is 2.2 i feel so bad i've pretty much been horizontal for the last 9 weeks. I'm lucky in that I get a couple of mornings free, I drop dd off and can crawl back to bed if need be. I'm 14+5 and only starting to feel a little bit better. Nausea has pretty much disappeared, thank God, MS is steadily getting better. Dd still naps and long may it continue!

Yep, I hear you. I'm further along but it hasn't become any easier. 2 yo DD is having some terrible tantrums and recently dropped her nap... knackering! No playgroups where we are, I take her to the park and encourage her to run really really fast!

10wks here with a 2 year old DD and I'm so sick and tired literally I have felt like crawling under rock and slowly dying :-(

I'm off work sick and that's helping slightly but this is absolute hell.

Hugs to you all

Well, we can all whinge together!
I'm also eating a lot of stodge and loads of cheese. Especially now it's cold out.

have a look at this thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1882806-Hyperemesis-Support?pg=27

the sisterhood of the sickbowl I call it. Anyone whose life is really affected by the sickness is welcome

19 weeks here with dc2. dd is 20 months but has sn so cant walk yet I have to carry and lift her everywhere. the sickness has been awful been hospitalised once and still being sick daily even though im on 2 different sickness meds. luckily dd is a good sleeper and still naps and goes to nursery 3 afternoons a week so I get a rest. good luck to you all hope your sickness goes soon!

Yes..a bit further along, 24 weeks with a 21 month old. Just come out the other side of the 18 month sleep regression which was just hideous!

Toddler groups are great..sit down, tea, biscuits and an enclosed space..

Do feel better now energy wise though. And a kind woman at playgroup told me she's found newborn +toddler to be easier than pregnant+toddler. clinging to that thought but not sure how it can possibly be true..

Oh yes I feel your pain. 12 weeks here with a 3 year old (just had her birthday - had to make a cake while running to sink to be sick). Awful! I've been much worse this time than last time. I was very nauseous last time but very rarely sick. This time I've been sick every day at least once. Smells make me vomit and I hate going into the kitchen.

Dd doesn't nap any more either so some days I just feel like crying.

I am really hoping it gets easier....and soon....!

Ooh, lots of us then!

Lamu - glad you're starting to feel a little better. I think I'd be coping better if we hadn't just moved house - it just seemed to add to everything else. At least I'm a bit nearer family now (although we haven't told them yet).

MrTumblesKnickers - fab username! Oh, the tantrums are horrific! DS had a meltdown before bedtime last night because he wanted me to read him a story instead of Daddy and I was feeling so rough I was looking forward to the break. It's a shame you don't have any toddler groups where you live, but going to the park to tire DD out is a good idea. I find the park exhausting sometimes, but DS loves it.

I feel for you, Whereisthewitch. Sometimes, it's all you can do to take some time off work to rest. It's a shame that ms is so all consuming though, so you never actually feel better until it goes away by itself. Hope you feel better soon though.

Inglori0us, I'm def with you on the cheese. I had 3 cheese sandwiches yesterday. It's the only thing that seems to ease the sickness!

Thanks for the thread link, Meerka. I shall check it out.

It must be tough with a non-walker, Beanypip, especially as you've been so sick. I remember DS was only barely walking when we started ttc and I was worried how I'd manage if he wasn't walking when I was pg (it took us a few months in the end, so he's walking okay now, but still has problems with his ankle joints so isn't quite as mobile as other toddlers his age). Good job your DD is a good sleeper. I hope the sickness eases for you soon.

Glad you're coming out the other side, Cosmic. Toddler groups are a godsend. I wish there were more of them! I've heard that about pregnant with a toddler vs newborn with a toddler too, so hopefully it does get easier.

Hopefully your ms will pass soon, Onelittlepiglet. It must be tough now that your DD doesn't nap. Def agree about the smells - they make me want to cry too.

I was sick twice yesterday and now starting to feel sick at night too, so I feel it's going to get worse before it gets better. But it's nice to have a little support along the way. Got a nice toddler group this morning though, so hopefully I'll get a sit down and a cuppa while DS plays.

I've stocked up on pain au chocolat for breakfast, otherwise I don't eat anything and end up being sick. I can't stop eating rubbish and constantly crave McDonald's cheeseburgers!
So unhealthy but sometimes yiu have to just eat what you can eat.

I personally think newborn and 3 year old is going to be a real challenge for me, but we didn't want a massive gap so we started ttcing and got caught first time much to DH's disappointment lol.

I have my first scan next week so hoping that will at least boost my morale :)

me too whereisthewitch... Thought it'd take ages, 2 weeks later... I know we are lucky though and am very thankful, was just a surprise.

Hope your scan goes well.

Do you think your family will help out with ds once they know you're pg charlie?
It's tough moving to a new area. Had recently moved when fell pg with dd. is there a children's centre nearby? I found them great for meeting people and most activities are free.

I spoke too soon, sick at 4 am this morning. I guess thats why its called 'morning' sickness.

MrTumbles I'm convinced Dd's behaviour has got more challenging in the last couple of months. I think she must have sensed mummy's not as attentive as usual. A few weeks back she had a major meltdown in a busy car park. There was me attempting to hold her with one hand whilst bracing myself and chundering in a bush. Not my proudest moment!

I'm holding out for the newborn and toddler stage here, it must be easier surely!

I've got a very similar age gap to you OP, I'm 6+0 with a 2.5 yo DD. I hear you with the cbeebies guilt!

I do feel a bit of a fraud joining in because I'm not actually sick, but god I feel rough. Not like I'm necessarily going to be sick or pass out, just really really ill. I felt it a bit with DD, but not like this. Ugh. You all have my complete sympathies.

Usually my mum would come to the rescue and amuse DD for a morning, or just be here, but she is ill herself at the moment so I'm on my own until DH gets home at 7.15. I know I'm lucky but it's still hard! Could you not review the 12 week decision for close family OP? Moral support if not practical support could make all the difference?

When it came to it I couldn't face driving to a library group yesterday morning, but me and DD wrapped up and went out for a lovely walk which helped us both enormously I think. I hate to say it, she hasn't napped for about 3 months now...

Soothing thoughts to all xx

Hi Doodlequack. Oh, you're not a fraud, the tiredness is just as bad as the sickness. I had to go to bed at 8.30 last night and poor old DS is being left to his own devices quite a lot (god bless CBeebies, and Nick Jr Peppa). The house is also going to pot - and DP is having to pick up the pieces with doing extra washing up and cooking etc.

I had a McDonald's Cheeseburger the other day, Whereisthewitch, as I just couldn't face waiting an hour for the dinner to cook. Wish I'd thought to get some chocolate croissants in for breakfast as well. I feel like I'm practically living on bread/toast and cheese in various forms at the moment. Oh, and that packet of salt and vinegar Discos I just had. Good luck with the scan - exciting! I have my booking in visit with the midwife next week. I'll be 7+6 then (currently 6+4).

I'm sure my family will help out, Cosmic. It's hard not to say anything at this stage, esp when I feel so rough. Plus I'm running out of excuses for not wanting tea or coffee, which must be a giveaway. I wonder if I'll crack, though DP really wants to try and tell them in a novel way, e.g. getting DS to wear a Big Brother t-shirt when we see them over Xmas.

Hope the sickness has got better with the day, Lamu? I'm holding out for the toddler and newborn stage too!

DS and I are at home for the afternoon now, after our toddler group this morning. Not feeling too bad right now, but later in the afternoon/evening is often worse.

I'm 25 weeks and DD is 2 next week. Mr Tumble is on now while I lay down for half an hour as DD has recently given up napping.

Last time I only had to work.... What a luxury! I'm working, caring for a toddler and moving house this time!

That said I feel sooooo much better than I did in the first 12 weeks. No where near as tired. Just get an energy lag after lunch!

Hey! Can I join you all? I am 7+6 and feeling rubbish! I have a two year old who is also watching far too much cbeebies. I can't imagine how I would cope in my very ill moments with out it, but I do feel bad for Dd. I also feel bad for my dh, he's cooking most days as just going into the kitchen makes me sick. I think my sence of smell is like yours charley

It must be really tough when they cut out their nap, Pastabee. I'm dreading it. I don't think I could cope without the nap just yet. Is the move imminent? We're pretty much settled for the time being, but will be moving again when we've sold our house (we moved for DP's job and are renting until then). On the bright side, at least you won't have to do any lifting and shifting.

I agree, Cherry, it's the smells that are worst. We had ravioli on toast for dinner tonight as I thought I could manage it, but I hadn't thought about the smell of the ravioli and didn't think I'd be able to eat it all. I did in the end (I was ravenous), but I didn't enjoy it at all and I think ravioli is off the menu until further notice.

Not feeling too sick tonight, but I'm absolutely shattered and will prob go to bed early again. I feel like I'm getting no evening at the moment with the early nights, but I'll feel worse tomorrow if I don't.

Tomorrow......! It's a sale and a purchase so the whole process has been ongoing for the entire pregnancy and poor baby hasn't really got a look in after DD and all the effort of selling and buying.

You'd think the no nap was awful but in actual fact there is a positive to it not dominating your plans for the day. That said it isn't great when your plans are packing and cleaning based!

Early nights are the only way through those initial weeks aren't they?

So far I have found this pregnancy physically easier than my first. My first wasn't bad but I had a lot more aches and pains. I actually think having a toddler and therefore having limited sofa time is helping with that?? Much more tiring though zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

Good luck pasta on your move! :)
I have been to the docs today and got anti sickness tablets, I took them with dd which helped but it made me even more tired! Hopefully it will mean i can play with dd more.
How are you all doing today?

Ooh, good luck with the move, Pasta. Hope it goes really smoothly.

Hope the anti-sickness tablets work, Cherry.

I feel rubbish this evening. Wiped out from soft play this afternoon. Vegging on sofa while DP cooks tea.

7 weeks, nauseous,salivating (yuk) and fatigued all day... Feeling guilty about how much I rely on my other half when he gets home from a long day at work while I veg out. Oh yeah and freaked out about the amount of travel for work he needs to do next year... Things will seem better tomorrow.