Healthy scan at 10+2, can I relax a little?

[Scheriously]

I have had three scans so far in this pregnancy (6+2, 7+2. 10+2) and everything has been fine each time. At the last one, the lady changed the settings on screen so I could see the blood flow through the placenta, as it was starting to work. She said I should relax now and that she really felt that everything we'd seen meant that it's going to be okay.

I'm 11+6 now and so, so nervous for my scan on Monday. Should I be encouraged, or cautious? Had a little cry last night as I just feel so scared. For some reason I am really struggling to believe it will be okay next week! I feel ridiculous. Any anecdotes or experience is really appreciated.

Very encouraged! People say "12 weeks" because that's when most people get their first scan. In reality, the foetus is fully formed by 10 weeks and the placenta starting to work, and the parts BEFORE that are the major risk factors. Statistically the chance of loss at 10 weeks is the same at 12 weeks and above. It is only before 9-10 weeks that the risk of loss is higher.

About the only concern left really is the results of the NT screening and anatomy scans.. but compared to the risk of miscarriage in the first trimester, bad results from those are like a drop in the ocean.

Congratulations!

I have a scan at 10w+3 and all being well...having reviewed the stats....we've decided to tell our family afterwards.

FX for your next scan.

I'll be watching another feedback you get in case we should hold off telling anyone.

You should be encouraged. The chances are highly in your favour that all will be fine. Even in the first, risky weeks, the chances are high that all will be fine. It's always more likely to be fine than not, given no other risk factors. It's OK and normal to be anxious though, it's all about accepting things outside our control - and when they are such big life changing things, it is very hard.

Your little bean's chances are very good. Not much is likely to change that. The stats are in your favour. And I say that as someone who has been on the bad end of the stats.

Yes you definitely can. Like you I had near weekly scans till 10 weeks and researched this thoroughly! The miscArriage assc quotes (from memory) something like a 78% chance of all being fine if you see a healthy heartbeat at 6 weeks, rising to 98% at 8 weeks, 99% at 10 weeks and 99.5% at 12 weeks. Like others have said, the 12 week 'thing' is largely because most people don't get scanned till then.

So relax and good luck!

What highlove said. I totally understand your anxiety, it's hard to relax isn't it?

Where I live, a scan at 10 weeks would count as your 12 week one unless you specifically requested a further one.

My cons was actually even more positive about the chances post seeing a heartbeat than the figures highlove quoted.

Scheriously, from what I've read, week 10 is almost the same as week 12 in terms of the risk=very low.
I expect twins and although it's not the same risk factors, after 10 weeks it's considered a safe point. I think you can pretty much relax now :)

awww you can definitely relax and enjoy your pregnancy now!

FWIW i have my first (9 week) scan on thursday and am bricking it. But once that's clear it'll be easy street and i'll be telling most people (apart from work)

Can i ask Scheriously, how come you are having so many scans? have you a history of MC or was it a fertility assisted conception?

Thank you all so much for the reassurance and kind words. I never thought I'd be like this, but I just have real moments of worry and stress about it.

Chica I have PCOS and was about to start treatment when I got my bfp. I guess I just can't believe it's all okay. I've got HG at the mo too and in real low moments, I just needed to know all was good and well for a bit of encouragement. Good luck for Thursday!

Scheriously I am in much the same boat. I've had 4 MCs and have had scans at 5+4, 8, 9 and 10 weeks this time. Now I have to wait two whole weeks for a 12 week scan and it feels like forever. Everyone is being very positive, but I still don't believe it will be ok.
The figure I had heard was 97% ok if a HB is seen at 8 weeks, but I have a lot of experience of being on the unlucky side of the stats. I'm sure you will be ok. We're not telling people until after OSCAR screening at 13 weeks, but if you want to tell people now I'm sure that's fine.

fingers crossed for you bakingtins- i think the reality is that no amount of statistics can make a hormonal woman think rationally, so we just have to ride out the storm!

i'm quite sure that once i have my 9 week scan out of the way, my worry and paranoia will then start to focus on the nuchal fold testing, and so on, and sure once i get to the 30 week period my labour fears will no doubt be taking over my life! A mothers worries are never too far away, i guess it's all part of it and can only be worse for those of you have who suffered MCs in the past. Here's hoping we all have happy babies in our arms next yr.

bakingtins tell me about it, two whole weeks!! It's a killer. I'm sat here tonight being like 'hmmm, don't feel pregnant tonight' like a mega twat. Good luck for your 13 week scan

I didn't realise quite how unlucky I've been looking at those stats. But all the better for letting you guys relax. How are the scans going?

This might be of interest - I looked at it every day at the beginning of this pregnancy- miscarriage risk by day

Wow - that chart is amazing thank you.

Especially comforting looking back now as Im currently at 2.6% and it bottoms out at 2%.

Anyone can be an unlucky stat, but this is great to up my confidence levels. thanks!

I miscarried last year.
Missed miscarriage at 9 weeks, measured 8 weeks.
DS now 3 weeks.
Take the pregnancy 1 day at a time.
I was so anxious thatI found it hard to enjoy being pregnant.
I had lots of support after miscarriage cos we told people after 8 week scan.
Requested 8 week scan cos my sister had a molar pg in her twenties.
Kept quiet about pg with DS cos didn't want DD 5 years to find out too early.
She guessed anyway and told people 4 us!

Yep, so long as you've seen a baby with a heartbeat measuring correctly (give or take 5 days!) at those gestations, that chart is pretty accurate.

As has been mentioned, most losses post 10 weeks would have been spotted as losses, or potential losses (e.g. measuring a week behind) a lot earlier if a scan had been done earlier. Quite a few people have bad news at their 12 week scan and it is mainly missed miscarriages, or it takes until 10+ weeks for the body to realise the baby is not going to make it and start the process even though the baby may not ever have had a heartbeat.

With my two first trimester losses, I am certain I would have gone well past 10 weeks had I not had early scans giving the bad news - my body was not interested in miscarrying on its own.

So base your risk off your last "good" scan! And a good scan at 10 weeks (or even 9 weeks according to that chart!) is statistically the same as a good scan at 12 weeks

Sure anyone can be an unlucky stat but I was merely saying I didn't realise quite how unlucky I've been to have two miscarriages well after good scans at 12-13 weeks. I'm pleased to be the statistical anomaly.

That is extremely unlucky I'm very sorry for your losses.